My boyfriend and I get home from work at 7. We need to be in bed by 2 at the latest. As soon as we get home, he is on the computer. As soon as I leave the living room, he is looking up porn images and videos. Once I got to bed, he looks at it freely for hours. I find this ridiculous. This has been a touchy subject that is hurting our relationship. Generally speaking, I do not have a prob with porn. I do think that men should be discreet but not hide it or lie about it. I also think that it should not be an everyday thing or something that is time consuming. And I have children. He installed a porn blocker. But decided that I should trust him and so wants to uninstall it. I know he'll just go back to looking at it. So, no I am not going to trust him when he has a weakness for porn. Especially teen porn. Sure the girls are 18 and so legal. But my daughter is 17. If I spent as much time as he does on porn, my housework, laundry and meal preperation would suffer. Do I keep the blocker?
2006-09-02 03:07:40 · 16 answers · asked by whoanelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Teen porn and a 17 year old? Really? You are a mom? Keep the blocker, lose the boyfriend. It has nothing to do with being a prude or not.
2006-09-02 03:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by just browsin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a developer at Microsoft so I know a thing or two about computers. The best porn blocker software is Porn Sites Blocker, it's very light and it's the only porn blocker software with a 100% detection rate. Download the software here: http://www.pornsitesblocker.com you have a 60 day free trial. It's a must if you want to protect your family!
We all know computers can be such a positive tool in our children's lives, but they can also be our children's worst enemy.
2014-07-29 17:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...yes!!! I believe that you should keep the blocker; you have children for God's sake! What if your 17-year-old daughter sees her own father watching porn featuring an 18-year-old!? What do you think she'll think of him? It's not just a matter of trust; it's also a matter of safety precaution. What if one of your children decides to take his/her (do you have a boy?) first step into the realm of exploited feminine beauty? But if the blocker still exists, then he/she cannot access it. Also, if your boyfriend watches hours of porn while you're right beside him, there's something really wrong with your relationship. If he's really in love with you and if he really wishes to remain faithful to you, then he should STOP, and be ith the one he already has!! Is he taking a bunch of pixels over you, flesh and blood???????? I say keep the blocker.
2006-09-02 03:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by Display Name 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, keep that porn blocker. And tell him it's for the sake of your daughter! I mean, you don't want her to be exposed to that kind of materials, right?
And in the meantime, think about your relationship with him. Is this a situation where you have made a responsible, permanent commitment to each other - in front of others so you are accountable? I mean, you are a precious creature made in God's image - you are worth that kind of commitment.
If that isn't your present situation, I'd encourage you to think about whether that would be suitable - whether he's the right guy for something permanent, whether you are ready for something like that - and if not, I'd encourage you to break up with him. The longer you wait, the harder it'll be. And quite frankly, in your shoes I'd think of the porn issue as a red flag - it could even be considered cheating...
May God bless you with wisdom to know what to do.
2006-09-02 03:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell!!!
You have young children in your home and you let this A$$hole view porn? or considering allowing it?
YES keep the blocker and kick this guy out, why would you even consider anything else?
You know im sorry, but he seems to offer you nothing why aren't you out finding something better?
2006-09-02 03:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns, and keep the blocker.
If he finds a way to uninstall it… Put another one on.
He is supposed to be your boyfriend…
If he needs to look at sexy women… He can damn well look at you!!!
You mentioned that it is hurting your relationship.
Perhaps you should tell him straight out that he either stops the porn, or takes a hike.
You have got your daughter to think of..
If he is so in to the porn, I would be very wary about him trying something with your daughter.
Good luck !!!
2006-09-02 03:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the blocker....and uninstall him!!! That situation is scary and not healthy....especially if your daughter is 17. There are adicts, sure, but he's mentally messed up with this obsession....its not normal no matter how you look at it.
2006-09-04 14:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i look at porn everyday but that's me
about ur question if he wants u to take it off
others will say yes ..me i say its up to u
i hate pornblockers!! but i can work pass them
looking at porn can change a person alot
sometimes
like me i started at the young age
of 12 looking at porn
now im 23 looking at porn everyday 70% of the time
its like a drug once ur hooked its hard to stop
make sure he does not get hooked on porn
2006-09-02 04:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by leejonesl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he looks at porn even though he already has a family and children, then he is not emotionally and spiritually healthy. The Bible tells us clearly that "if a man looks at another woman with lust in his eyes, then he is already committing adultery with her (wife) in his heart". so you see, your husband is actively committing adultery against you and you are not aware of it. him looking at porn every chance he has only means that he isnt satisfied with you that's why he has to look at another in order to sexually arouse himself. and you as a wife should not tolerate this kind of attitude. if you tolerate this, its as if you're encouraging him to commit adultery with you. LUST can destroy relationships. This spirit of LUST that's in your husband right now will eat up your relationship..gradually.
so i suggest that you talk to him heartily about this issue. tell him how you feel about it. you see..couples need to be open to each other, for how can a relationship work if you dont open up feelings with each other. the only way to solve a problem is by talking through it and together find ways to battle it....TOGETHER. pray together and ask for the Spirit of Conviction and Repentance to come. support your partner in his battle against lust..dont leave him alone through this because he needs you also.
keep the blocker. keep your relationship...and get married if you're not already...and keep battling temptation and lust. work together towards purity because that's how God wants HIS children to be.
2006-09-02 03:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A porn blocker? *laughs* Who does that? Hahahaha
2006-09-02 03:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋