Okay this is what happened,the guy that im simply crazy for, is simply crazy for someone else and i want him to love me!!!but theres one freaking problem!!! Hes one of best friends!!! it sucks because i dont want to ask him out and him not like me and just screw up the relationship....that wouldnt be to good,i like him oh so very much and ive tried to have other friends ask him if he liked me....but all he said was ''she my best friend'' what does that mean(GUYS)...DOES HE LIKE ME OR NOT
2006-09-02 03:07:22 · 14 answers · asked by BRITTANYHEARTBREAKER 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you may have to ride it out on the sidelines. go on with your life and have a good time....put him on the wait and see list and just don't let yourself dwell on it. if he sees you having fun with another man it may change his perspective. might not, but what have you got to lose. if you go out with one of his close friends word will get back to him about how great you are and that will make him think. but if you just sit and pine over him and beg him to come to you he will lose respect for you. guys usually like to feel like they have chased you or pursued you and conquered the quest. if you take that from him by just jumping in his lap and being there for him no matter what, then there is no thrill or sense of adventure. make yourself less available and be happy doing things with other guys. besides you have nothing to tie you to him other than friendship, there is no dating going on so you should just move forward......and who knows, there is a good chance you will find someone who you like even better:)
Best Wishes, it will get better, it happened to me!
2006-09-02 03:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know, if he's in a serious relationship and he loves this other girl (or boy!) then breaking them up is a really bad idea! Whilst I'm all for telling people how you feel, this may not be the best situation. Also, if he decides to break up with his current interest, he may turn to you for support etc, and then he's free. But if you tell him you're crazy about him, then he's going to act differently around you, maybe get freaked out a bit, and his girlfriend is going to tell him that he can't see you anymore, and then you are really dropped in it. Tell him how you feel if you're sure he won't tell his lady friend, but don't expect him to drop everything to be with you, because there's a chance it won't happen.
Wishing you the best of luck,
Jim
2006-09-02 03:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl,
I don't envy your situation, I had a similar situation with a girl I was friends with at uni. We were great friends, we spent more time together than apart. I was so attracted to her and like you didn't want to tell her that I wanted to date her. We decided to partner each other in ball room dancing (as friends), which mind you was absolutely fantastic for me being so close to her hot body. It was a12 week course with a ball at the end of the series. At the ball we had a great time as usual and had alot to drink. She was complaining of sore feet at the end of the night, I offered to massage them for her, she said yes! so I did and followed by her shoulders. She kissed me as she thanked me. I jokeningly said it was worth it for the kiss. Ha ha! She said did you mean that, i said of course. She then kissed me again which then became passionate. She said you don't know how long I have been waiting to do that. We dated for 2 and a quarter years and got married. So thier is a positive side to this but its a 50 - 50 chance of a positive outcome. So my advice is be careful, maybe create the situation, wear something sexy to see whether you can provoc a reaction. He maybe thinking the same thing and be just as scared as you.
I hope my situation helps clarify your situation.
Good luck.
2006-09-02 04:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by oooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi girl, i feel for you and i have done it before in my early years. i'm telling you "stay away from him and you better find another guy" he just wants you as a friend and nothing beyond that. start forgetting about him and you will be okay. don't even try to be his best friend anymore because that would build more problem of you because you like him so bad. please don't think that you are alone in this world. also, there are lots of nice guys out there who will love you not just a best friend but a lover.
2006-09-02 03:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by whitesilk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on my own opinion u suld me much happy wen he's telling evrybody dat ur his bestfriend,maybe he just want u to remind as his bestrfriend n u truly love him,set him free let him love d one he love,n as a bestfriend for me is much better for now,at least u will not loose him,not unlike if u will have relationship with each other ders a tendency that u might hurt one another.
Believe me i had been in dis situation,i have also bin inlove with my bestfriend but he love someone else,actually he also felt something towards me but we both decide dat if will better if we will remind as friends at least it will be forever,and we both don't regret our decision,now after 8 yirs we are still in contact,we share each other experience n memories,problems we give advice to one another and we will keep our friendship till last.....
2006-09-02 03:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you as a friend. but yeah, come on now, you are a girl, do all you can to get him, yeah i know whats ur problem u dont want to mess up with ur present relation, try to get close to him (not physically) in relation slowly, impress him, wear sexy cloths ( ok m i saying too much ?) But you know, its like you want to pull him close to you, you want him to love you so yeah thats it, do it. make him love you. Try to be with him for most of the time.
2006-09-02 03:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Some Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means what you wrote,!! he likes you as a best friend and thats it,!!! if he feels any otherway about you tell him got a new boyfriend and see if he gets a bit jelous, if he does then you will know that your more than just a best friend to him, wish you luck,
2006-09-02 03:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without being overbearing tell him you like him and want to go to the next level.But if not can we still be friends? If he says no,accept it and move on.
2006-09-02 03:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say your probably not gonna come out the winner.
Try a little hard to get, if he doesnt bite your through.
2006-09-02 03:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore hom life is wonder
2006-09-02 03:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by sanjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋