My best friend is a girl. I have known her for 2 years. We text alot and when we do it is apparent thet we are great friends, I can tell her anything and vice versa. When we are alone together, like in school we (we're artistic) are doing a mural on a wall, so we are alone for a few hours every week. We are fine, we talk about anything. But when we hang out, we always bring friends. I'm not sure why. We dont even tell each other sometimes, but if I ask her does she want to hang out, or she askes me, then it is almost certain that one of us will bring a friend. I think I dont feel comfortabe alone with her in public. Why do you think that is? Does she feel the same way? We hung out once on our own and we were fine (didnt talk as much as usual tho) but friends say us and then lots of rumors started.
2006-09-02 03:00:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's absolutely fine that you bring friends. At your age, you probably are not yet thinking in terms of a permanent relationship with anyone at all, and so it's a good idea to keep things platonic, so you don't go marching off in that direction and then - oops! We're not ready yet, and yet we want to move ahead... Timing is important here.
And this thing of having other people with you is an *excellent* way to keep things within appropriate bounds. I'm still using this means myself - at age 42! My gentleman friend and I are even discussing marriage, but we only spend time together alone if there is a specific reason to - if there's some matter of business to take care of, or something we need to talk about that isn't suitable for public consumption. Otherwise it's in a group, and it's worked out fine so far.
And as you have found out, it's also a great way to avoid having the pressure of people gossiping about you. So I congratulate you for coming up with this solution and wish you all the best!!!
God bless you
2006-09-02 03:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should say the truth. She understand you just to explain why you are not comfortable with her in public. Just find what is the best thing you should do. Think first before you went out and when you know the answer, don't tell to her first. make unnecessary movements then if she don't like your attitude say your feelings before she finds a another boy.
2006-09-02 03:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by sheenacute 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think both of you want to take the next step, but don't want to, for fear of ruining the friendship you have now.
If you have a solid friendship and can talk to this girl about anything, like you say, you need to tell her your feelings.
She ought to respect you for your honesty.
And who knows, she may feel the same way.
I reckon friends make the best life long partners. My advice is to tell her your feelings, but don't feel you have to rush things. Going to " the next level" will happen, if its meant to be.
Just be honest with her.
2006-09-02 03:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by TOP DOG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off, you need to really know how you feel about her. ask yourself if you think that you are doing this because you like her. then, if you can't answer it yourself, expresss your feelings to her. tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way towards you then maybe you too are meant for each other. if not, dont say i just wanna be friends, thats like a death sentence for girls. tell her that you just didnt know exactly how you felt towards her. then, stay friends until you can figure things out for yourself.
2006-09-02 04:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by xXsweetXheartXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both r not ready to take a step ahead or u may say to become a BF n GF yet thats my opinion. well i think u can be her best friend as far as u had tell it seems like she is a sweet girl n shy too..GL
2006-09-02 03:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u 2 need to talk cause u like each other more than just friends and use bring sumone so u dont have to talk about and that u dont wont to lose ur friend ship over it when one says they like to be more than friends
2006-09-02 03:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by OceanBlue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you seem to have such a beautiful friendship. But it seems to me that both of you, subconsciously feel that if you take your friendship to a much deeper relationship the friendship you have now may be jeapordize which would make things awkard.
Just ask her, "do you think going out, just you and me, like on a date, will harm our friendship? I really want to know what you think."
Good luck! :)
2006-09-02 03:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by newbie wife 6/16/07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't feel comfortable alone then don't be. You said you could talk to her about anything so ask her how she feels about it.
2006-09-02 03:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm going along with fatima! maybe you like each other to be more than friends!
2006-09-02 03:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by doornroestje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the two of you like each other secretly, but too shy to say it!!!
2006-09-02 03:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Fatima 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋