My wife likes to dress very sexy and provocatively........?

Question

She is always getting all kinds of looks when we are out. Should I ask her to tone it down a bit?

OK, OK, I'm getting the message that some guys think I'm nuts and should love this. That's true. Maybe we all want our wives dressing this way until she actually does and then our insecurities pop out....I don't know!

Answer 1

1. Never tell a woman how to dress
2. If the average person could mistake her for a prostitute, then she has crossed the line from sexy/provocative to outright trashy.
3. Don't tell her what to wear but give her positive feedback when she wears something more conservative or show her an outfit that you think you would like to see on her and why (i.e., I think it's so much sexier when women leave something to the imagination). If your wife is not the jealous type, point out outfits on other women that you like and that are more conservative. Whatever you do, do NOT tell her she has to wear what you want or tell her she can't wear something, let her make the decision or it will backfire. If she is an attractive women, she doesn't have to put it all out there to get looks. Why is she feeling so insecure?

Answer 2

Has she always dressed like this or is this a new look for her? If this is how she has always expressed herself then you have had plenty of time to get used to it, and this was probably what attracted you to her in the first place.

If this is a new change of look for her, then maybe she is needing that recognition from others that she is a sexual being because she is not getting it from yourself?? Or maybe she is not even aware that she is having this effect on other people, maybe she is so happy in her relationship with you that she is just wearing her favourite clothes and looking good and not even thinking or caring what outsiders are thinking of it.

The looks she is getting from people shouldn't worry you as that is a natural response from other people - sounds like you need to find out why she is doing this - be honest and tell her that it is bothering you and you would like her to tone it down, then you may find out why she is doing it.

Answer 3

Of course you can ask her! But in a gentle way. Is she doing this because she thinks it makes you feel good? Does she want to show off for you? Men will always look at a pretty woman even if she is wearing a flour sack...that you have to get used to. Go shopping with her for clothes and pick out an outfit and tell her that you'd rather she wear something like that, see if that works. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Well lets start with what do u get out of the fact that she dresses this way? Does it make you want her more? Then what does she get out of dressing this way. I know for me when I dress a certain way I am screaming for the attention that I might not be getting at home, and to make other men look at me infront of my husband...makes me feel sexier...and then want him more. But then it goes back to the same old song and dance, bcuz he still doesnt fullfil the needs I have by paying certain attention to me when I am in need of it. So look inside your relationship do u fulfill her needs (not just in the bedroom) do u make her feel sexy ??? Try something new...change the scenery....do something spontanious and wild... have a new location or way for sexual relations....c if that changes her way???? Good luck!

Answer 5

Is this the way she dressed when you were just dating her? If the answer is yes then how can you ask her to change now? You should have a talk with her and let her know that the way she dresses bothers you. It is nice to have a person on your arm that brings attention and that you are proud to be seen with. But if you feel her style of dress is disrespectful to you and your marriage talk to her. But don't expect her to change her ways right off. She has to make the decision on whether to change or not.

Answer 6

You might ask who she is dressing for? If its for you, then suggest something else, perhaps less sexy and revealing but wearing no panties. Women who are showing everyone else what they have to offer have some issues going on, and if you want to save your marriage, you might want to find out what those are about.

However, if she is simply being stylish and is not really over the top but you are insecure, then you need to fix that. Find out why and get some counseling.

Answer 7

Heck no! You are the lucky man here, do you know why? Because she's with you and every other guy wants her, she just wants to feel sexy for her man, never ask her to tone it down, if you do it will end what you have.

Answer 8

You shouldnt worry about the looks the other men are giving your wife. You should be paying attention to her. Maybe she is dressing this way to get your attention? Maybe she feels that you havent been giving your WHOLE attention to her lately.

Answer 9

Did she dress differently before you married her?

Is she a pretty good looker is she?
Be proud that it is you she is walking beside!!!

You love her don’t you?
She loves you?
You trust each other?
What’s the problem???

The only reason you should have to want her to tone things down, is your own insecurity.
That is a problem you have… Not her!!!

Answer 10

First off, how old are you both, is she deliberately doing this to make you jealous to get more attention from you? Are you giving her attention? Does she enjoy dressing that way cus she feels good about herself? Are you both very secure in your marriage? Or is this crap and its a game you both play to encourage three-some? These are all questions you need to think about.