I'm shy. (Almost NEVER talk) and nobody seems to want to be my friend at school. Whats wrong with it??? I havn't done anything mean cruel or unkind to anybody at school and yet people say they dont like me at all. they dont say it behind my back, they say it to my face. one time they said it right in front of me. that was really mean , i was bout to cry. i went into the bathroom and did cry like 20 times in middle school. (9th grade now)
2006-09-02 02:58:38 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
that's so sad I'm sorry...i was also very shy as a child actually until i hit about 22 i was pretty shy then i learned i had to try and come out of it...from what i under stand about people & the way they treated me is they thought i was a rude snob because it was hard for me to talk to them they didnt understand that i was just shy...you need to try & work on social skills next time your in a store or something & you walk past someone look at them on your way by and say hello how r u ....as your walking by....practice at it...thats kind of how i started coming out of it just practice on people u dont know & you will be surprised to see how nice people can be!......as far as school goes try to remember that school is a very small part of your life ,i know it doesnt seem that way right now but once it is over u still have a whole life of your own to live & these people that r in your life right now will mean nothing to you as you build your new adult life!...unless you let them so please try not to let them get you so down that you stay depressed as an adult ,dont let them make you dwell on your teenage years & only remember the bad things try to remember the good things and just know that life goes on!
2006-09-02 02:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Being shy is a bad problem. People like to communicate easily. Shy people hardly ever speak to someone first. A lot of kids can be mean in middle school. Most will probaly change in a couple of years or now. Work on your charisma. Be confident, keep a smile on your face, and just start talking to people. After all you don't have anything to lose do you? You could also switch schools if that is possible. Then you could sort of have a fresh start.
Good luck, I hope this helps
2006-09-02 10:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your question...YOU ARE SHY, people with friends go out there and MAKE friends. If you don't talk to anyone, a lot of people aren't sure how to approach you. Get out there, and quit being so shy. Find someone easy to get along with who you know is friendly to everyone, and start a friendship there...
One day, you too will have the courage to tell people what you think of them. Those people who made you cry, screw 'em. If they don't have anything better to do with their time than to talk about other people, they're living a sad, sad life. You're a beautiful individual and should give yourself more credit. People like confidence, so stand proud and let the world know you're COMING OUT!!! Good luck.
2006-09-02 10:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High schoolers view shy people as not normal. From experience, if you are not like the popular kids personality wise, then something must be wrong with you. No offense, but a lot of teenagers don't really understand a lot about life and their goal in life is to fit in and not be unique. I struggled through this all through high school. Don't worry, you will grow out of your shy phase. On the bright side, because you aren't in the "popular" crowd, you will be able to grow as your own person...this will pay off in the long run. If you want to learn not to be shy, try putting yourself in situations that force you to come out of your shell. Maybe find a group outside of school where you can meet good, unfake people and eventually make friends.
2006-09-02 10:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by stitch_fan22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes view shy people as intoverted, boring, and they just get a negative feeling from them. The fact that you don't talk makes them think you are mad at the world and you are better than them. Don't worry, being shy is fine. You will grow out of it soon. Just try to talk more with people. When you are in class and someone is talking about something that interests you, join the conversation, or talk to a guidance counselor and that might help you open up. Good luck!
2006-09-02 10:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age I was the same way. I had no friends in high school, either. Now I am the exact opposite. Take little baby steps toward opening yourself up a little. It will work for you. You will have fun with friends and not feel so alone. Just little baby steps first. Like a smile at someone, or say hi to someone. You can do it!!
2006-09-02 10:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by sue-sue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that most people have anything against shy people... but, how can you get to know someone that never speaks to you? They might think you are being rude or think that you don't want to be friends, so why should they have to make the first move and approach you when it appears you don't want to talk to anyone... I'm not trying to sound like a smart-*** or anything, but really, why can't you talk to them? Yeah, I know you are shy, but don't complain about not having friends if you aren't prepared to talk to people.
2006-09-02 10:06:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shy people always have a personality disorder. Just start talking to people especially if you are in a classroom or meeting it is okay to talk to the person next to you I didn't say to tell your life story but, a least talk about the subject at hand. Acknowledgment is good for all.
2006-09-02 10:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ms New Booty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love shy people. I am shy myself, and I am a receptionist. You can overcome it -
It's okay to be shy, but sometimes people think you are stuck up. Don't try to be an extovert, but try to be friendly - make eye contact, say hello to familiar people, and smile. You don't have to say a word to do that. Good luck - talk to your parents, and my ask if you can see a counselor to help you a bit with your shyness.
Good luck in high school. It will get better.
Try to get involved with things you are interested in - you won't feel shy around people who like the same things you do.
I will pray for you!
2006-09-02 10:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kare♥Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because kids can be rude and just love to hurt your feelings. They know you're an easy target for it. The bullies will grow up sometime in High School. In the meantime, make small talk with the kids that aren't mean to you, and give them a compliment. At least you'll be on their good side.
2006-09-02 10:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Patty Pooh Pooh Pie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋