My boyfriend told me last week that he thinks we should spend some time apart. He said that he is not breaking up with me and he is not looking for anybody else. He has been really stressed lately with his job situation and he said that our arguments have been adding to the stress. When I was leaving his place last Sunday, I was crying and he said that I am not helping the situation by crying and he said he needs some time alone to think about his job and our relationship and where we stand. Today is Saturday and since last Monday, I haven't heard anything from him. I really don't know what to think? It looks like he has moved on and he has silently broken up with me and he is not coming back. I am starting to feel like he has forgotten all about me, he might have met someone else and now he is happy to be without me. I am hearbroken. I am not sure if I should contact him and ask him if he has finished with me because it's worrying me that he has gone completely silent? Help please :-(
2006-09-02 02:54:37 · 23 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get ready for this pet.......he's a rat and has not got the bal*s to tell you. Probably has got someone else and afraid to face you as you have not done anything wrong. Roll your sleeves up, get on with your own life, forget him and im sure you will get someone better who will give you the respect you deserve.......
2006-09-02 03:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off forget him, if he wants to act like this then that is up to him, you have a RIGHT to KNOW where you stand in all this. He is not been fair just leaving you high and dry. I always like to know where I stand, I can't be doing with these silly mind games. You either ring him and say look I need to know now today whether you have decided to make a go of it, if not then have a nice life and goodbye. OR you don't contact him whatsover, get on with you life as if you had broken and when or IF he contacts you, you will either be strong enough to tell him to get lost or you can decide to make a good of it, but you have to solve the problems out as to why you argue in the first place before you get the relationship going, and anyway do you really want to be with somebody who will treat you this way, he knows that you are just moping around, waiting for him to call, don't give him the satisfaction girl, there is a big world out there just waiting for you to grab it, get some self respective and don't let him treat you this way, you deserve better than this. With the very best of wishes and good luck.
2006-09-02 03:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by radiant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please make no contact with him. If he is stressed and needs some space to think things over, give him exactly that. If he is having a hard time, don't make it worse by trying to get things sorted while his head is in a mess. Try to see the situation from his point of view, you have yo get out of the box to see where you stand, right? Meanwhile you will need something to help your state. If you make a plan for today, do something you've been planning and havent' done so far, or just rest watching telli, see your friends, go out, and take one day at a time. Don't get upset because when you see the situation clearly, its' not that bad. Yes unexpected, but not bad yet. If he loves you, he will be back.
2006-09-02 04:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When somebody says he wants his space, that's exactly what he wants, space to date other people. Arguments? What in the world would you have to argue about? And don't you know that it only gets worse if you marry the man? Your heart will be broken again and again until you meet the one that you will spend the rest of your life with. It's life, I'm sorry. Let him go, chasing after him will not help, let him make up his own mind about you. If you beg him and he gives in, he will never be there for you physically or emotionally. Somewhere the relationship broke down, and yes, I think it is splits for you two. Write him a letter about how you feel, it will give you closure. Every time a door closes, a bigger and bette one opens up, give it time, you will heal. Peace and Love.
2006-09-02 03:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell what is really goining on here. He is giving you mixed signals by telling you that he thinks you need some time apart (which is what some guys say when they are breaking up with you but don't have the guts to tell you) and then saying that he is not breaking up with you or looking for someone else. This could also mean that he is lying and that he really IS looking for someone else (or already has found someone else) and is telling you that he is NOT breaking up with you in case he and this "new" person don't work out, you will still be available to him for him to come back to. As far as stress with his job, etc. maybe he needs to learn effective ways to handle stress. What's he going to do - walk away from your relationship every time he has some sort of stress in his life with work, etc.? We all have stress in our lives to some extent, but you don't walk away from the people you love and care about because of it. If he says he needs time alone to think about your relatioship and where you stand, it sounds to me like (and I don't mean to hurt your feelings, I'm just trying to make some sort of sense of what he has told you) he is questioning your relationship and whether or not he wants to continue with it. You say it's been over a week and you have heard nothing from him - he is not being fair to you by keeping you in the dark and not letting you know where you stand with him. Unfortunately, you may have answered your own question by saying that it looks like he has forgotten about you and moved on. I would maybe text message him or e-mail him and see if you get a reply from him. If not, I would assume that the relationship is over, and try and move on. Do you really want to continue to waste your time waiting around for him, and do you really want to go through this type of treatment from him everytime he gets "stressed?" There are too many other guys out there for you to sit around and wait for him to decide what he wants to do. Take care and best of luck to you. Hope this helps.
2006-09-02 03:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going through some multiple stresses in his life and you are not helping by your tears, arguments and attitude. He is right in wanting time-out to resolve and work out his problems. Relax- you might not be one of them. If you both otherwise share a good relationship---just give him space to work out his job complications without insisting on affirmation of his love for you. You need to get more mature so that you can share his stress and help relieve it rather than add to it.
Give it another few days and then call and say Hi and tell him that whenever he feels like talking, or just going for a movie to give you a call. Then say you love him simply and cheerfully hang up. Let him take it from there. Maybe he will take a few days to realize this friendly avatar and feel comfortanble to call up and maybe just meet again. Time is a big healer---gift it to him and yourself. In the meantime---get a life- go out with your friends, study, develop your hobby, whatever.... BOL
2006-09-02 03:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's likely not with someone else. Also....kudos to you for giving him space this week and not calling him. I think that a week is more than enough time to go by for you to be able to give him a phone call. Just call him up, try to keep things light and ask him how things are going. If you don't get anywhere with that, don't sweat it and give it a couple days and make another call. If it turns out that he was seriously just too cowardly to actually break up with you and he just used the ''needing time'' thing as an excuse, then he probalby wasn't worth your time anyways. Look up that verse "if you love something, set it free..." That's helped me a lot in a time of break up.
2006-09-02 03:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to at least give him more time and if he wants to break up then thats..Thats!
He is really stressed out and he don't want to talk to you..it's best if you don't.
Don't worry..if he goes completely slient then u do the same..go look for someone else and if he comes back it's best to tell him that you can be very patient but ur Too stubborn to be.
It sounds like he has already broken up with you..he is not that into you at all, if he was really stressed out he would count on u to help him relax his mind, not kick u out.
Men always talk about their work and how they have no time and the need space... it's rich and it works.
Move on...he is not worth to wait.
This is ur chance to met someone that u love the most... trust me i been there and waiting goes no where, with this relationship.
good luck and i turned out fine...I'm happy with a loving man but my bf still wants me and i love to say NO! coz no gets what they want but me.
2006-09-02 03:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 06:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violet from a blokes point of view this sounds like " How the fu** do I tel her it's over and I haven't got the balls to tell her to her face "I know you don't want to hear that and I hope I'm wrong.
Give him his space give him all the time he wants and don't you ring him at all.
If you don't hear anything for more than a week and he hasn't sent a note saying at least " Thinking of you " then I think it's fair to say it's over. You have to think about yourself now as you sound like a really nice girl/woman.If he hasn't the balls to tell you straight to your face then he is a prick!
can't believe he sad that to you when you were crying!!
2006-09-04 15:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋