I started talking to this 40 year old male (i am 18) at my local club because he looked lonely and i felt sorry for him. and then he started hanging around me when ever i go to the club. he told me he was hit by a truck when he was 14.... he has scars to prove it. he says he suffers brain damage and fits from the accident and has never been able to work a day in his life. one night i gave my phone number out to him and ever since then he has messaged me a lot. one day i told him to stop messaging me and out of frustration i wrote "are you in love with me or something?" and he replied with "what do you think it means?" and I told him to f u c k off...he is really starting to scare me... because i have read about serial killers and stuff like that, and I know that some suffer from brain damage and they see something and want it, then they get it out of the way... I have been back to the club after all this has happened and he did not approach me, but i saw him give me a creepy look.
2006-09-02 02:34:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why shouldn’t ‘brain damaged people’ be able to become violent?
They are still human beings are they not?
Anybody can become violent if the circumstances require it.
If you tell someone to ‘eff off’ then you are giving them reason to be violent against you!!!
Chances are that he did become emotionally fond of you.
You showed an interest in him, and he grew attached to you.
He accepted you as ‘a friend’.
Quite possibly, he saw you as much more than that.
It’s OK… He doesn’t see you as a ‘friend’ any more.
You got your wish… He probably won’t text you again.
The creepy look you saw him give you, was probably just his way of saying you were a bi*ch !!!
You will probably get that look from other people as well, only they won’t be brain-damaged !!!
Maybe next time someone befriends you, you might just consider being a bit more tactful…
Instead of telling them to f**k off… Try being polite… It works wonders!!!
2006-09-02 02:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it certainly is possible for people with brain injury to have violent episodes, and this man clearly has significant damage if he's unable to work.
However, a lot would depend on the area damaged, level of damage, his specific history etc.
I think you need to judge the potential for violence from his current behavior, not from the brain injury (although it wouldn't hurt to throw that into the equation if his behavior appears unusual or unstable.)
His current behavior is a bit "stalker"-like... and if it continues, it would be a good idea to contact your local authorities with your concern. As for that club? Make sure you have someone walk you out or observe you until you leave the club. I'm sure there's a bouncer or security there, or only go with a friend. Safety in numbers.
As an aside... be very careful giving out personal information. Never do it because you feel sorry for someone or they seem lonely. It's risky business and it's how situations like this get started. Sometimes there's a reason people seem lonely or needy. Get to know someone fairly well before you start giving out personal info and you'll stay safer in the long run.
2006-09-02 02:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can be violent...it depends upon which part of the brain was damaged. Some people have experienced total changes in personality after suffering brain damage.
I would be very careful, it sounds like he has poor self control and if you are the only person giving attention to him he's not going to want to give that up.
2006-09-02 02:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is true people who have bran damage can develop violent behaviour. It is also true that people who do not have brain damage can develiop violent behaviour.
He may be someone you feel sorry for .... but he is still a man with sexual needs and desires... maybe the thought of a 'retard' having sexual ideas about you creeps you out.... but you know he is a man first... the brain injury is something that happened to him.
I would venture to guess he may have taken you kindness to mean that you cared about him as a person..... he may not have realised you were just being kind out of a sense of duty..... and your rejection of him would have hurt his feelings badly just as rejection hurts everyones feelings...
You have told him you are not interested and he now does not approach you.... he got the message.... the creepy looks are more about himnot knowing how to deal with your actions... and words... than any great intent to harm you...
and the next time you want to rescue someone from their lonliness please do remember that having a disability of any kind does not exclude a person from sexual feelings, thoughts, and even actions.
If he was a violent killler no doubt he would have actied out his rge when you sent him the text message... the fact he hasn't means he has no such intention.
2006-09-05 08:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You approach and come on to a 40yr old, give him your phone number and continue to talk with him and encourage him and then you get creeped out and want to blame it on him?
You're a tease and acting like a ****. Leave him alone and stop going to clubs and picking up men "you feel sorry for". You are willing participant in this, the guy is the victim.
2006-09-02 02:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's a fact that a lot of the nation's serial killers had brain damage. i watched a show the other night on discovery channel. it was called most evil.
2006-09-02 02:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by mark n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all brain damaged people are violent
2006-09-02 02:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful and stay away from him, don't go anywhere with him
2006-09-02 02:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea ,they can very much so be carefull
2006-09-02 02:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋