Situation: Whenever I talk to the phone with my friend, we always have a funny conversation filled with jokes. He often thinks he's sort of like on a different level than me because whenever I reject something like an offer, he would say something like"ok, now your like that..so thats how it is huh?". Its like he always wants everything HIS way. When ever I say goodbye, he would again say that something "ok, now your like that..so thats how it is huh?" again, he thinks it has to be HIS way. What should I do? Whenever I see him he often says"whats with you?", yet, were still friends. Should we keep being friends? I think he doesn't have one thats why he always bugs me :P The only things I hate is his characteristics. It's like I want to keep being his friend, and not be.
2006-09-02
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Lonez
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You should tell him about it.
One of the things about people is that if you don't tell them that something bothers you, they'll think nothing of it and they'll continue engaging in that behavior.
In the Business World, it's the same thing. If you don't speak up or say what's bothering you, people will just keep on doing whatever it is.
This especially pertains your workload. If you don't complain or say that you've got too much on your plate, they'll just keep on piling more work on you.
That's why in Corporate America, Big Businesses love people fresh out of college because they're so "eager" and "helpful." They can keep piling work on them even though the tasks may be unrealistic.
Do you know that when it comes to Law Suits, some people will assume they haven't done anything wrong unless you point out what they did wrong.
They are either completely oblivious to what they did wrong, or (worse yet) they're aware, but they continue exploiting you while you don't say anything.
That's why it's good to get in the habit of knowing when to speak up or put your foot down. This is good practice if you should ever find yourself in a bad work situation where an employer is piling too much work on you.
There's always going to be conflict, but you don't have to accept bad situations.
If he's really your friend, he'll respect your wishes. If he gives you the brush-off, that's not a good sign and could be a reflection of his opinion of you.
2006-09-02 02:19:58
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answered by "IRonIC" by Alanis 3
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This divorce is a loss--in basic terms like the shortcoming of a individual in dying--we mourn it , come to grips with it and then pass on. The divorce desires to be mourned by ability of your buddy--which will take time--as lots time because it desires to get previous it. existence would not stop while a divorce happens--all in touch might desire to bypass on of their very own way. your buddy desires to return to grips and comprehend that that's an person difficulty--he desires to be certain it from an person potential--or as ultimate as he can. the father and mom had problems--they at the instant are not blaming him--he's not the reason for it. He desires to help whoever is left looking after him--that's a mutual help. human beings speaking is undesirable flavor--he desires to ignore approximately it--human beings will continuously communicate so enable them to be and ignore approximately it. there is no longer something you're able to do yet be friendly and supportive--he's a pal and can do the comparable for you---gradually do extra social, exciting issues, no longer too loud or seen--in basic terms ease into it. enable him communicate his anger out--no longer combat--tell him that's alright to particular it to you. in basic terms be a solid listener. thank you--solid luck.
2016-11-06 06:50:29
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answered by ? 4
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why dont u tell him point blank the things u dont like about him. by doing so, u are clearing ur mind and also making him aware of how u are feeling. nobody wants a friend that always acts bossy. u guys should be able to work things out and if he doesnt listen to u, u can quit being friends with him. simple
2006-09-02 02:16:37
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answered by bee-day-me 2
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"The only thing I hate is his characteristics" That statement says it all. Character defines a person and if you don't like his character, then maybe you shouldn't be friends. The question you need to ask yourself is "why are you holding on to this friendship that you obviously are not happy with?" maybe you are the one who needs the friend and that's why you keep trying to make it work.
2006-09-02 02:15:45
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answered by fungirl 3
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Hi.
Don't push him away if he is all ways trying to get his way you should, try to tell him how you feel about it, he may think the same way about you, he may think the reason you keep saying no is because you don't want to be his friend, I think you should talk to him, and then go hang out you can work this out.
Hope this helps.
Teresa.
2006-09-02 02:35:57
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answered by Minnie May 3
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You need to cool the friendship an give yourself a break ,he really sounds like a lonely control freak an maybe by you both having a break of friendship might even push him to making more friends .
2006-09-02 02:38:02
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answered by SANDY G 2
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you should still be his friend and talk to him on the phone about the situation then ask him can he changed or something like can you changed your alittude because sometimes i think that you dont want to be my friend anymore or say sometimes when you act funny it seems like i dont want to be your friend anymore but i do.tel him about that you think he always get his way when your on the phone and at school .
2006-09-02 02:23:06
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answered by Anonymous
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Sometimes it is best to take a break from friends like that, or just tell him how you feel.
2006-09-02 02:15:43
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answered by jim i 1
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tell him how you feel and give him another chance but if hes still mean 2 you then ditch him and go find some REAL friends
2006-09-02 02:13:20
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answered by Anonymous
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your friend needs to get a life...sounds like he is very insecure with himself. just be honest with him. and tell him that you haven't got the time for BS..best of luck.
2006-09-02 02:22:36
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answered by justmenothinelse 5
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