Me and my best friend and been friends since we were 11 and now were 16 we always hung out togtherjust the two of us.
But recently I lost a lot of weight and boys started noticing me more.
Then when i went back to school i was asked out by a really popualr boy and everyone startng knowing who i was and i had loads of new friends and i felt great.
But now i feel really bad becasue of my best friend i feel im leavin her out even though when i'm asked to parties and stuff i always invite her along to but she says she dosnt want to go cos she feels akward.
I'm worried thats she really jealous. I love her to bits and don't want to lose her as a friend. But i feel the ony way shes goin to want to become my friend again is if i dump my boyfreind and become less popular again ! please help me !
2006-09-02 01:21:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think it's really nice that you're concerned for your friend, and I think that most people here have given you pretty good and practical advice which I can't better. But I could add something - your friend might not be as popular as you are now, she's different, so why not make this difference into a good thing? Encourage her to enhance her more attractive physical attributes, get a nice haircut and some flattering clothes, etc. Go with her to do this and you'll be spending time with her also. If she has a sense of humour, work that - a sense of humour makes seemingly ordinary people very attractive indeed.
It seems to me that she (and you?) is only focusing on the physical, there is so much more to being attractive than just looks.
2006-09-02 03:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if yall was friends since yall was 11 then you can tell yall will always be friends forever. Now i would ask her if she is okay about you going out wit a popular guy and is it okay to her that you go to partys and also if she is okay that you are friends with the popular people. Now sometimes friends would lie to you and say they are okay about it but if she does say okay about it and you feel like she is lieing then you need to ask her if she is really okay with that. If she tells you the same thing that she feels left out and think that yall not gonna be friends anymore then i would just tell her that you are not trying to leave her out because she is your best friend forever and nothing not even popularity gonna get in your friendship and make yall enimes. Also tell her that you are always gonna be there for her whenever she not feeling good and other stuff. Yall been friends for almost 6 years now that is good to have a best friend for that long and that really means yall are always gonna be friends till you die most likely unless when yall get older yall loose in touch.
Well hope this helps.
2006-09-02 01:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by sweethearts70586 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she feels a little betrayed because she saw you get more popular, more friends, etc. I think that she expects you to become one of those fashion chicks that goes with the best looking girls and pick on girls like her. You have to spend time with her, hang out, remind her that whatever will happen you two will always be friends together, you know. But it's not my choice it's yours so good luck.
2006-09-02 01:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Faust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your the one who's changed. and left her behind. i hope all ur being so popular is worth ur friendship. she should dump ur a**...and by the way...your not all that...shame on you...i bet she's got more love & caring in her lil toe, then u do throughout ur whole body....and remember this, those people never noticed u before. so, u lost some weight...whoopie!!!!!...she is a trues friend, fat or not....she was there for you...you need to re-check ur-self...it's not the looks that counts (which is by the way, u have a bf)..it's how true u r to ur-self that counts. HEART!!!!!!!!....so, when ur out partying, stop for a moment, and look around and then ask ur-self.."are these people truly my friends?"...then i bet u'll realize where ur true friend really is....goodluck..and i hope it was worth all the moments lost...
2006-09-02 01:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, being popular in school won't amount to much of anything when you get out. But your friends, your true friends will be there forever. I know you're not really thinking about the future as much as you are the present, but what do you think is more important: what people think of you or what you think of yourself? the "popular" kids won't like you when you do something embarassing, but your close friends will stick with ya.
2006-09-02 01:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by scarsoflife8282 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do some trick to make her popular too. I mean some false gossip. Once she will be popular too both of you could have good time.
2006-09-02 01:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by saz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probabaly will feel left out and no dount a little jealous that you are the hit chick . but ashe wlike you will find her own social circle and will eventually gfind a boyfirend like you.
2006-09-02 01:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She proberly feels left out i would talk to her and ask her whats up and maybe she is jealous of your boyfriend
2006-09-02 01:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by JC one!!!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time alone with her and let her know you are still her friend no matter what.
2006-09-02 01:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
AHHHHHH bless, kids growing up, isnt it fun. glad im in my 30s now. thats life im afraid sweetie. you cant please everyone. stick with your friend and just see the boy when you fancy a snog or something.
2006-09-02 01:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋