what should i do? i hope to tell her but how? i can't sleep well. often take a walk downstair at night. i want to know the truth whether she loves me or not. feel like everything is meaningless to me without her. feel like dying but no courage. drink beer just to force myself to sleep. want to quit smoking but very difficult. from light smoker to heavy smoker. is this normal? how can i overcome this mental torture and heartache problem?
where is she now?
true love.
2006-09-02 01:12:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks for the advice, people.
2006-09-02 01:37:08 · update #1
Time.
2006-09-02 01:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get control of yourself. If you can't live alone how can you expect to live with her. Women don't like a man with no self confidence. Get up the courage to speak to her, tell her the truth and ask her for the truth. If you truly love her and she does not love you then you should let her go. Its the best for both of you. I understand that its hard to quit any habit, but if you want to quit smoking then do it. Just decide that its what your going to do and do it. No one is in control of your life but you. Don't whine about it, just do it. Good luck.
2006-09-02 08:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fixation. You must find a way to stop thinking about her. A good way is to think about something different, the same thing, everytime you find youself thinking of her. Yes, I have been in this situation, and you can control yourself. It takes much mental discipline, Trust me, dude, she doesn't want someone that is obsessed with her this way. No one wants a real relationship with someone like that. Remember, fixation is not love. Once you figure that out, it will be easier to deal with.
2006-09-02 08:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Crapcleanwrestler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it sounds like you'd better take care of you. You didn't give any details other than your misery. What do you need and want to do? Get it back together,pull yourself up by your bootstraps, and for now get back to being the person she was attracted to in the first place.
Would you really want her to come back and see you in that state of mind.Women like a strong man, they know they can count on.
Come On! Get up! Hit the Shower, Today is a new day!
2006-09-02 08:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's out there but she's not spending her time waiting on a person who lacks motivation and self control. Keep it up and she will only ever be a dream to you.
You have to bring something to the table in a relationship, work on that instead of whining about how you can't change your behavior.
2006-09-02 08:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the courage my man. Because with or without her your going to need it and she will definitly not want to come back to (you) a mess to clean up. And for sure get away from drinking. Your already depressed and that only clouds your mind and leaves you feeling hopeless. I will pray for you and I really feel you should talk to her and try to express yourself without anger. keeping these things in will only fester into a boil.
2006-09-02 08:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Gemini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definately need to find a hobby, drinking and smoking are not hobbies. What did you like to do as a child? Maybe you can start doing those things again.
2006-09-02 08:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a different outlet because you are going to destroy yourself over someone and NO girl wants that
2006-09-02 08:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by proud of it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋