Well my handicap is severe language disorder & comphemain learning. It did not help us when he became abruseful toward me & our 3 children.5 years ago we were having major problems in our ordained marriage & my husband { Paul Heinz }wanted out so he took the coward's & quiter way out with a divorce. The fact remains is marriage is what it is UNTIL DEATH.Divorce is so wrong !He jump over the fence & commited adultery with my x- best friend.He could care less for his ordained marriage,his ordained family & God.He has no conscience;if he had one than he would NOT did what he is still doing.Our children has handicaps also so that means he can not deal with them like he is with me.His girlfriend has no handicap so he does not have the pressure.He is two face toward our children & they see that in him My christain counsellor told us that is how he can now live his life being two face.He is not a man,he is still a boy & does not want to have responsibilities& be the leader of his true family
2006-09-02 01:08:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Count your blessings Sister!! He sounds like a tyrant, you and your children, should be much happier without having to deal with him on a daily basis. Handicaps cannot be helped and anyone who mistreats someone because of them, better look out!! The old saying "What comes around goes around",could very easily hit home with him! All it takes is one accident. No one has to wish it on him, but trust me, God sees all!! No bad deed goes unpunished. You just try to get over this guy, he is the one who bailed, so don't feel guilt over being attracted to another man! There is love for you, just get out there and find it! Best of luck to you and yours!
2006-09-02 01:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by janet r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay in counseling to deal with the fact that he's gone and not coming back. Then using your handicap as a crutch and learn ways to work around it. Let go of your anger and parent your children. Don't worry about why he did it, the fact remains that he did and you can't control that. Move on with your life.
2006-09-02 02:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
june,
my wife answerd you just the other day(sxybrwneyedgrl) her son is terminal and has had two liver trans as well as being deaf.your counselor is right your ex is a boy and doesnt stand a chance of being a man. with out sounding condensending you now have the decision of either being like him or rolling up your sleves and being a real mom. he is what he will be , and nothing will change that. its time to teach your kids how to be and how not to be you have an opprotunity to take advantage and utilize this as a learning lesson for all involved. find a real man and a real role model. my step son has a real role model in comparison to the father that left his family becuase "he thought" his sons illness was to much on " him" i love this boy as if i was his biological father and he recipicates his love as if i was. you can acheive being the best mom by not dwelling in the past and move on... i wish you all the luck and all our prayers on your future
2006-09-02 01:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God does not give us more than we can bear, even so, sometimes we feel that it is more than we can handle. It sounds as if your (ex)husband felt he couldn't bear the burden anymore. You need to realize he is human and subject to human emotions, errors, weaknesses and failings - JUST LIKE YOU AND YOUR CHRISTIAN COUNSELOR.
I can certainly understand your being hurt, angry, bitter and resentful even though they are not very "Christian" thoughts towards someone who has done you wrong. It is your human emotions, errors, weaknesses and failings that make you continue to feel and dwell on your hurt and bitterness rather than forgiving him and letting God deal with him. You see, you are just as human as your (ex)husband.
Do you see that you are accusing him of sin, but you are also sinning?
Didn't Jesus say that the person without sin should throw the first stone? Are you without sin? Is your Christian counselor?
Pray for your (ex)husband, but move on. By staying in your bitterness you are harming your children's attitude towards marriage and life. That is wrong and you know it. Instead of spending time bitching and complaining to the counselor, find some constructive work to do. Busy people don't have time to whine about their lives.
God bless, but get going....!
2006-09-02 01:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You found out Mr. Right turned out to be Mr. Wrong. There are other fish in the sea, it's not like he's the best catch of the day. He's this other woman's problem now. Be glad you're rid of him.
2006-09-02 01:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he divorced you over something like that the he really never loved you.because if he did then he would have looked over that promble of you.i,m that way and my husband is still with me.
2006-09-02 02:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, what can you do? Do you really want to do anything? Especially if he is abusive. I would get myself and our kids together and move on. That's what "I" would do.
2006-09-02 02:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Katrina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE JUS LET HIM LEAVE.....
HE NOT DOIN NOTHING BUT JUS HOLDIN YOU N YOUR FAMILY BAK
GIVIN YALL STRESS!!!
SUE FOR CHILD SUPPORT
GET FINACIAL & EMOTIONAL HELP FROM FAMILY MEMBERS &FRIENDS U CAN TRUST!!!!!
GET A LAWYER!!
2006-09-02 01:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lili 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry dont take it personally its life.
2006-09-02 01:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋