Our wedding is in one week.
2006-09-02 01:05:29 · 30 answers · asked by Chloe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you keep him, you keep his shortcomings. You might want to consider starting over before you get started with this one.
2006-09-02 01:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ok well this is one of those touchy subjects , What do u mean relationships on the net ? Flirting ? actually meeting or trying to meet ? Before u get married sometime u have to take one last look at whats out there. not meaning he is cheating with someone else. Maybe u have been focused on this wedding that he is feeling a lil left out , it happens u definitely need to talk and figure out what is going on. This could be something u take into ur marriage that would be getting off on a bad foot. But maybe it is something innocent that he just wonders of feels a lil neglected it is easy to get wrapped up in wedding plans doing everything to make ur day perfect when all that is important is that u are there with the person u love and want to spend the rest of ur life with . U need to do some soul searching maybe ur trying to find the ticket out and grabbing for anything u can to stop something u know u should not do . Time to get serious and Talk .
2006-09-02 08:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by ~~*Brownie*~~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do talk things out with him about this relationship that he is having. Has something physical has happened with this woman before? Well if it has not then you're still on the safe side. But if it happens....it's all up to you to take the action. I don't trust this kind of guy because if he dares to do it before marriage..i bet he can repeat this even during the marriage. anyway the temptation to meet the woman 'from the other side' is always possible and it can happen. So better think twice dear...it's either you mend it now or leave him for someone better. I'm not telling you to leave him. It's about giving him a chance and taking the risk. Good luck!
2006-09-02 08:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by mystique_rider 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is happening pre-nuptials just imagine what may occur afterwards. The internet although it can be a valuable tool it can also allow people to chat with others that they should not, or should at least know better, as it would upset their significant other. I understand that it is not much time to let everyone know that your wedding has been cancelled but I bet that you'll be happier in the long run if you got out now. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-02 08:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wedding in one week and you are talking about leaving. This leads me to believe that you are not ready for marriage. As far as your problem with his internet relationships are concerned. Once you have decided whether you want to marry or not postpone the wedding and first sit down and sort out your problems. If his internet relationships is a problem a week before your wedding day it is not going to do your marriage any good if he carries on.
I am still of the opinion that you are not ready for marriage if you are talking about abandoning your wedding.
Postpone your wedding and sosit down and giscuss this thoroughly before you decide to get married.
Good luck and god bless.
2006-09-02 08:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by robsnor 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes - if he's cheated on you already whats to stop them doing it again?? you can't marry someone you don't trust completely, what's the point? it'd be a phony wedding, and would probably end in a messy divorce in the future when he cheats again, or you wont be able to help being distrusting and paranoid and itll drive him away. either way its not good!
have the wedding, jus dont invite him - if all the money's spent already then you might as well make the most of it and a big party with your friends and family might just help you cope!
best of luck - but if you cant trust someone then you should find someone you can trust - you do deserve that, at the very least,in any relationship
2006-09-02 08:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nic C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a hard one because you are having your wedding in just one week so clearly you really love this guy a lot or you would'nt marry him. Well you have to ask yourself if you still trust him, is he still having this reltaionship now ? or has he stopped? I would hold off the wedding for a while untill you can fully trust him. Maybe it was just a one time thing and he didn't really mean it or this might not be the only relationship he has had. Talk to him about it and decide if he's really woth marrying. Good luck !
2006-09-02 08:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
it's all up to you. If you can't accept your partner having relationship other women or cheat on you, why think so much whether you need to break up with him or not. If you can accept he is cheating on you, it's ok right. If you can't accept his disloyal acts to you now, can you really face the same situation in the future? Make the right decision while you still have the right to do so. It's your life, you have live with your decisions that you make whether it's right or wrong.
2006-09-02 08:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by CM C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know for a fact he is having "relationships" over the Internet with other women or are you just guessing? And what is the nature of his "relationships"? Is he just chatting? Has he, or is he, making plans to meet with them in person? Are you overreacting in a case of prenuptial jitters?
I would say the whole thing hinges on what you actually know and what he is actually doing.
2006-09-02 08:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i guess it really depends on his "relationships" and your morals and values... my bf has a prob w/ me chating or iming other ppl that he doesnt know, esp guys... but, there's nothing going on, just talking, and i would never cheat, bc i've been cheated on... so, knowing this, he has a few female contacts that he will close out windows if i walk into the room. hmmm.... so, i guess i should confront him, eh? talk it out w/ your man, be gentle and dont try to point any fingers... if it's more than friendly chating, have him fess up, and if there are going to be any probs or concerns, then you may need to postpone or even cancel the wedding... but, no one can make that decision other than the two of you. best of luck, sweetie!!!
2006-09-02 08:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is, you've got a problem. A week isn't very long and he might have an internet addiction. You use the word "woman" in the plural form because he is still "looking".
2006-09-02 08:42:47 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋