How do I stop an interfering mother in-law and control freak?

Question

Me and my girl are both studying, we have three children and live in a place we sub-lease by my partners mother. The problem is that she has decided because my girl will not live up to her mothers(satin) expectations that we have to move out. No on will give us a chance to rent because we are not working full time, we have paid our rent always on time (never late) for two years and always a week infront. We love each other no matter what and our beatiful family. I told her that take each day as it comes and we will get through this, but I have to admit I lay awake most night worrying, and cry silently wondering why we have to go through this even though we are honest people and enjoy the little we have. I know one day we will both be well off and have money, but is that why we must suffer now because we rely on family to help a little till we are both on our feet. We just want our family not to have to go through this and suffer because of a selfish spitful greedy mother in-law.

I don't know if any of you understand how nasty this ***** is.. She phsically bashed my patner when I was not there. I am talking two black eyes, a busted lip and brocken ribs. My girl is small build and said she would never hit back at her mother. Her mother lived with a man when my fiance was 10 years old, and was repeatedly raped and bashed till she was thirteen, and her mother knew and told her lifes a ***** get over it. MY GOD can you imagine. She still suffer anxiety and panic attacks. Her mother told her she was only a product of rape. If doctor Phil heard everything that her mother did to her life it would outrach every viewer. We are in the process of finding aour own place far away from this evil ****** up dog. My fiance feels really protected now with me as I told her mother that she would have to kill me if she would ever interfear with our family again, and I think she would do it too.

Answer 1

I'm a hit-girl and i sympathise with u....dn't wrry i'll take care of ur little mom-in-law. :)

Answer 2

The best way to put a stop to her is find some kind of apartment and go on studying and work hard on your goals without her help. She might not attempt to interfere again until you have something else she wants, like visits with the kids or fortune. That's how that kind seems to be unfortunately. But you've got to move forward without her, don't let her control you one bit. Control your own lives basically.

There are some apartments out there for people who don't work full time and who have three kids and go to college. You will make it, especially with your goals to do well in life. You will succeed if you don't give up now.

Answer 3

First, three children are too much for your income level. But, if you love them, it should not be a problem. Then, have you talked to your girl about her mother? What does she think about her interferences? Because it will be a decisive step on your life to count with the support of your "girl".
Money can not buy everything in life, you must keep the important things and "carry the weight" until you get your title. I suppose you have a detailed career plan after finishing your studies, don't you?

Answer 4

Read your contract with your mother, I'm sure that she cannot throw you out for no reason, and that really is no reason. If you live in the US then I wouldn't know what happens but in the UK, there are council houses and because you have 3 children you will get child support and a house. Try and see if you cant stay at your parents or grandparents. I wish you all the luck in the world, and do let me know what happens. But please, don't let yourself or you partner, or even your children forget what your partner's mother has done to all of you. She shouldn't be allowed to see her grandchildren if this is how she treats them! Keep that devil woman away!

Answer 5

I learnd a long time ago that you can't change what people believe or think. I've had some serious problems with my in-laws. I think it has helped us to get away and have our own lives where they can't interfere. One of you may have to take on a full time job so that you will be able to get approved to rent somewhere. Don't give up your dreams of finishing school but you may have to put them on hold to keep your family together and strong. Good luck.

Answer 6

Houses are just a materialistic thing and can be replaced. Flash the cash, it will catch a landlord's eye and they will rent to you. Screw the MIL, you'll be alright without her. She better be careful what she does, some things in life have a way of coming back to people and biting them in the ass.

Answer 7

quit relying on your mother in law and then she can't control your life. instead of coming up with excuses why you can't move out , come up with solutions. If places won't rent to you because you're not working full time, then go get a full time job. sounds simple enough to me.

Answer 8

There is another reason you are not telling us.
But my ideas.
One, get married.
Two, it may be wise if only one of you go to school and the other works. As soon as one graduates and gets a 'real' job then the other returns to school.
Three, find another place to live.

Answer 9

Life is about learning, and adjusting our choices, based on their apparent consequences (results). . .

seems (sounds like) you must make some changes in your 'course', to accomodate this difficult reality (as you perceive it). Only you can make the choices that will alleviate your pressures; as only you are living with the realities every day.

Good luck to you in making the best choices, with the best possible outcomes - without having to make too many changes in your 'basic' plan. . .

Answer 10

umm may i say i can relate to your question ...
first u r having ur dreams come true
YOU HAVE A TRUE AND FULLLL FAMILY
2ND I THINK U R VERY LUCKY
MY ANSWER IS
THE SAME WAY A MAMA BIRD HAS TO THROW THE CHICKS OUT OF THE NEST
THATS WHAT UR MAMA-IN-LAW IS DOING
REMEMBER
SHE TOOK CARE OF YOUR BRIDE ALLLLLL OF HER LIFE
AND NOW SHES A GROWN UP WOMAN
AND IS MARRIED NOW
IF IT TURNS
THAT YOU
CANNOT TAKE CARE OF HER PROPER
IM SURE SHE WILL INVITE U BOTH BK IN
I HOPE U R UP TO THE JOB
AS IF THE 2 OF U NEED TO MOVE BK IN
IM SURE SHE WILL BAD MOUTH YOU
BHIND UR BACK
OR MAYBE TO YOUR FACE







JUST DO THE BEST YOU CAN
THATS ALL GOD OR NE1 CAN ASK
P.S. GOODLUCK TO YOU

Answer 11

You need to be straight up with your mother in law. Tell her how your feel, or better yet, get your wife to tell her how both of you feel. Bring to her attention, that if she kicks you guys out, she is also kicking her grandchildren out.