I have three really good friends. Two of them hate the other and think she's a fake. And vice versa. Now the two say that if I don't say that I'm not the other girls friend to her face (because I said that I didn't like the other girl. I am a jerk)!! I like all of them. WHAT DO I DO????
2006-09-02 00:52:36 · 6 answers · asked by NOT TELLING!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
But because of the first girl have been neglecting the other two.
2006-09-02 01:00:03 · update #1
Tell the one that is asking this of you that yes she has been acting like a jerk but that doesn't mean that you don't like her. Also tell her that she is your friend to and you are not going to get involved in there dispute. If she is really your friend then she will understand this. Good luck.
2006-09-02 02:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got this crisis.. and i end up having to lose one of them.
But in my case... i think the one who says the most bad things usually is the one causing the trouble because she's afraid that she might lose out for doing something. but at this time i was overseas while the fight began..
anyway.. in ur situation.. it is best to ask them to jot down the reasons why they hate each other and reasons why you should not be friends with them... then hand over the paper to you. you will then ask them how true they think this is. then let both know what the other think of them and how true this is.
point here is to make peace with each other and make them understand that there is no such thing as a perfect person who don't make mistakes. forgive one another.
if they still said they gonna unfriend you for being friend with their 'enemies' this is probably too childish.. let them know.. and if it gets worst.. you decide whether this relationship really portrays what a true friendship should be like.
talk to a third party you trust. they might get a better view than us yahoo answerers cuz they can ask more questions to fill in the holes..
goodluck and hope peace comes in!
2006-09-02 08:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get them all together and sort it out. Tell the one girl why she annoys you for you to call her, then say that you think that you should all be friends again and that there should be no back stabbing...
If that doesn't work then ditch the 2 girls, tell them to their faces that they are putting you in a position that friends shouldn't put you in and if they are real friends they wouldn't do that.
2006-09-02 07:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to stop lying, start showing your true level of friendship to everyone involved. That should straighten things up. If someone wants to bow out now though, in spite of you owning up, that's their right. Also though, maybe they're not such good friends if they don't like you after you tell the truth. Good luck!
2006-09-02 07:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them that the other is also ur friend and you will like her as she's ur friend. but u won't get them to meet
2006-09-02 07:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Devilish_chic31 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u must decide which one will you stay with which one could not live without
2006-09-02 07:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋