I've noticed that this generation seems to have "issues" with their children because the kids raise themselves. What gives? Why are you so self-centered? I'm 40ish and I devote all of my time to my kids. Would really like to understand.
2006-09-02 00:48:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
So far, all of the answers have been good, but let me clear the air. I do know that single parents need to work and I DO understand their positions, but they still do not take an active role in knowing who their children are or who they hang out with. MOST of this generation, not all in the 30's/40's. I waited until I was 30 to have my first child so I DO understand. But for those who say I'm just too stressed, overworked, underpaid, etc. to listen to my kids....don't you see the impact that it is having on the world NOW? What about them when they are adults?
2006-09-02 23:04:18 · update #1
Oh, I didn't mention that these answers are an exception to the rule. I do applaud all of you and I'm not trying to generalize, I see my mistake now. But I would like to hear from even those with 2 parents why they neglect their children. To those of you that DO give as much time as you can, kudos to you.
2006-09-02 23:07:49 · update #2
Yo' Christy, I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth. We barely make ends meet. I'm disabled and so are my kids, so telling me to grow up is like preaching to the chior. Me thinks you protest too much lady. So bite me.
2006-09-03 08:20:57 · update #3
I'm in my 30's and spend most my time with my kids that I am not at work. Not sure why you are generalizing here. Most people are waiting until their late 20's to early 30's to have kids these days so they are over their self-centered early ways. I believe your thesis here is wrong.
2006-09-02 03:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Secret Squirrel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am like you and spend most of my time with my kids. I think that some parents don't because they work long hours and by the time they come home they are tired and run down. The last thing they want to hear is "Hey Mom, Hey Dad" Can you, I did, lets go, ect... A lot are divorced and try to be the bread winner, homemaker, and deal with their own problems...its just too hard to play both mom and dad roles and still have some individuality. Its very hard on them.
In my household I have kids that stay here as much as they can from homes that ...well...lets just say...aren't the best. And one of the most chief complaints is their parents or parent doesn't spend any time with them. They are so concerned with their own problems, depressed about thier own situation that they just don't bother. Esp teenagers...for some reason, I don't know why.
Some parents think their kids are grown at the age of 12 and 13. They let them go where they want, stay out as late as they want when their is no school, don't know who their friends are...its so sad. But, then I see it from a side where some of the kids that come here are from problem homes. My husband and I include them in our lives and in a lot of ways take the place of the parents.
I know that their are great parents out there who take a great deal of time with thier kids. Even parents who work take time to go camping, a museum, or walks on the weekends. Homeschooling is a big thing now ...and that is parents taking a stand on teaching their own kids thier own values instead of letting someone they don't even know do it for them. It means they get to know their children, spend time with their children, are careful on who their kids are friends with. So I think that some are seeing that you should spend time with your kids.
sorry if I haven't stated this as well as I like..its in the a.m. here and I'm only one my first cup of coffee...lol
2006-09-02 02:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bethie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mommy married for 14 years or just under, with two beautiful babies I stay home and take care of... I am 36... So not all are as you have stated... Though we may be only a hand full in comparison to most, I am involved in all that my children do... They are are growing into beautiful hearted children and our family time is special to all of us..
Self centered? If you call a few trips to the gym every week self centered you are sadly mistaken... I think you are coming across very judgmental and pardon me for saying but in all respect, " very judgmental."
And for the working parents... Just as a mom that stays home full time... Every household makes their own choices. We are not all alike, and their reasons are their business.
2006-09-02 03:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Not Spoiled Just Loved♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can generalize this issue with just one age group. I am in my late 40s and with my first child I had to work because I was a single mother. When I had my second child I stayed home until she went to school. Right now, however, I am annoyed with my 25 year old son and his wife as they put their baby in daycare during the week and then want family members to babysit on weekends. I think the issue is more financial/maturity related than simply age related.
2006-09-02 05:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm in my early 30's, single parent, and sure i have issues with my child, not because i'm letting her raise herself because that is my responsibility. are you saying then, that because i have issues with my child that i don't spend anytime with her? i just wanna clear that up. you're very lucky that you get to spend and devote your time with your children, well, how about us single parents that has to play the role of mother and a father, what then? if i devoted all of my time with my child, who the hell is going to pay my rent and my bills? you? if so, please contact me coz i'd be more than happy to quit my job to devote my time with my child. i work 12 hours a day...i spend another 2 or 3 hours with my child helping her with homework...asking what she did at school....we take walks and all that. i only sleep 2 or 3 hours a day....because of my responsibilities at home...and now you're labeling me self centered? come on lady, grow up! not all of us are born with a silver spoon in our mouths ok. some of us don't have the luxury to devote all our time with our kids. y don't u get a life! am i offended by your question, HELLYEA! you're living in a fantasy world of stupid ppl. ppl like u should be shot and that's coming from me. if u have a problem with that....u can kiss my behind!!!!
2006-09-02 04:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the father of 13yrs old boy and have a fantastic relation with him. we r like best friends but he still knows that he is my son and where is the line drawn between us.
i m also very happy with my family and don't need to be attached to anyone personally. (that is regarding ur answer for my question)
2006-09-03 23:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by Amod M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30, not married or have any kids. This should be directed to 30-40 years olds with kids. So I can't really answer these questions for you. Sorry, thanks for 2 points.
2006-09-02 00:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
God, I get so tired of people asking questions like this. People are lazy... don't you get it?
Touche.
2006-09-05 02:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant answer ya..dont have kids
2006-09-03 10:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋