2006-09-02 00:42:49 · 37 answers · asked by Stellas_Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not worry... Life will seem bad at the present but it will get better !
The worse thing you can do is start dwelling on what-ifs and maybes. What has happened has happened so think positive !
Go see a Lawyer/ Solicitor to find out your rights
You will have the support of family & friends. If your family is not close consider moving back to where they are asap because being near them will be a huge morale booster to start !
Finances will be a big concern so :
Contact your local benefit office and look at what claim you can make (in the UK - either Income Support or Jobseekers Allowance also ask about Maternity Allowance.)
For you and your soon to be born baby think positive !
You will not be alone for long ! When you are ready there are lots of men out there that will love you and want to be with you !
Admittedly things will not be great for the next few months and will be tough but in 12 months time it will all seem like a bad dream and you will stronger than ever emotionally and ready to take on the world !
HUGS & Good Luck !
2006-09-02 00:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You should accept the fact that he have left you. Maybe you could have a talk with him before he leave you regarding the baby. If you are alone and pregnant you can choose to abort or give birth to the baby. You should be mentally prepare regardless of what choice you have chosen. Try not to make this decision yourself. Try to discuss this matter to your parents or friends. If your husband heart is with someone else then you should forget about him. Thing changes every minute. Don't be upset. Cheer up.
2006-09-02 00:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dead Man Chest 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jenn..one thing you didn't mentioned is how far into your pregnancy you are now? It is very important to learn due to your emotional health and hormonal change will be affected by his decision. One person that can help you alot during this time is your Ob/Gyn for they have the training to help you cope with this type of situation. You may want to look towards your own religion beliefs in order to find moral support as well. I don't know where do you live, but it is important that you look into legal counseling towards your rights. I am not saying to get a divorce at this time, for you both need counseling before reaching that line. Right now the most important thing is you and the baby, the rest can come later. If you have a relative that you trust and live nearby, ask them for support and a bit of help (emotional).
2006-09-02 01:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by SemperLeader 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry...you go get some support from a friend or your Mum/Sister or somebody, have a good talk and cry and then try to organise yourself for your new arrival. YOUR arrival. Motherhood is going to be a little tricky on your own (but it's not easy anyway...need to come with a book I think) but you will do it and it will be the best thing you have ever done. You will enjoy every minute you just need to get through this bit. If you don't have anybody to talk to go and speak to your Doctor/Nurse/Health Visitor. There is loads of support out their for Mums to be - you just need to ask.
Wish you all the best....it's gonna take time but you will be just great.
2006-09-02 01:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some help short term and i am not being patronising as a man but maybe you have a relative you can turn to for moral support, get yourself a purpose for when the baby arrives,
When your husband leaves her to come back to you , then be ready to tell him where to go and exactly what he has lost and what he is about to lose.
Take everything, and remind him outside the court, "for better or worse" after you have
2006-09-02 00:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... well personally, I would get rid of the baby. But if you're keeping it then good on you for being storng. If he's left you then forget about him, he wouldn't have been a good father anyway. Go to your lawyer and ask if there is any way that you can keep him away from your child in the future, as he has abandoned you now.
There are also Family Planning Clinics, you will have one in your local area, if you go there, there are specialists who can help you through this difficult process and they could recommend you to a group meeting where you can make new friends. Don't feel alone. There are people out there who can help :)
2006-09-02 00:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You bring up your child. After all he or she also has your blood in it. If your husband has left, please dont try to convince him to return back to you. He can never be faithful again. But dont try anything which will harm your child. At the most try to find out someone who is more trustworthy. After all, all the five fingers of your hand are not the same. so all men are not alike. I wish u sucess in getting a more decent, faithful and trustworthy man.
2006-09-02 01:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't provide very much information like if you have financial problem or problem in taking care of yourself in terms of your pregnancy. My suggestion is you may consider to move back with your parents so you have someone to count on during these critical momment. Secondly, emotionally don't be affected too much by your husband's behaviour coz this may affect your pregnancy. Thirdly, if you have financial problem you may consider seeking financial aid from government department.
2006-09-02 00:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend did the same...it may sound harsh but deal with it. unfortunately you can't change people and if you and his child aren't enough to make him stick around then he's not worth it anyway. Focus on the positive, even though it is hard to do sometimes. take care of you and the baby. even if he wants nothing to do with you and the child he still has a financial responsibility to both of you. don't lose sleep over things you can't change...he's gone and you are better off whether it seems like it or not right now.
If he does want a relationship with his child, don't let your negative opinion of him affect that relationship. And don't ever try to make your opinion of him your child's...let him/her form their own opinion and they will over time. kis are not dumb and they can pick out a scumbag quicker than most adults. mine did...
good luck and trust me it is not as bad as it seems. focus on your future and not your past...don't let him take one more second of your life from you...he's not worthy of it.
2006-09-02 02:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by sctmoran 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
- Get a good lawyer and take whatever you can from him.
- Love your child and be the best parent you can be. It can make up for a lot.
- Single moms go on to find really great partners. so dont stop hoping to meet mr. right some day.
2006-09-02 01:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by toodledoodle123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋