I have grown up in a Christian family. I have been in the worship leading ministry playing keyboard and guitar sometimes since I was 10. When we moved to the city, I still got involved with the ministry where i met my first boyfriend. not that there is a second. he is the bass guitarist of the band. i admit we were fools who rushed in. we were both immature and selfish, insecure and really young and it didn't work out. It ended bitterly. He broke up with me. Said all the words that would make any human being feel unworthy of love. But i know that i have my mistakes also. After he broke up with me, he left the church without notice. It was hard to deal with but with God's help I was able to make it through but I still love him and I was unprepared for his coming back after a year (NOW). He came back at church and months later in the worship ministry and slowly had been trying to get back to me.
2006-09-02 00:27:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have been changing numbers and running away until I thought maybe he's serious so I tried to be a friend but because of my paranoiam friendship seems impossible. And now i realized that he's still confused because he keeps standing me up on dates he would ask me to meet him. He's still an on and off church goer.
NOW.. I am personally a shipwreck. People around me are getting affected and hurt. Im thinking of vacationing from the ministry and the church to put myself together.
What can you say?
2006-09-02 00:28:00 · update #1
The sooner you get away from the church, and the longer you stay away, the better.
2006-09-02 00:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by ratboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say leave your church. Your church is what you need right now.. I would say leave him alone. Although it will be hard. He doesn't seem like he has your best interest at heart. If he is confused about what he feels and wants from you then give him his space. If he doesn't figure it out then he is not worth you. In all of this you know what you should do. Trust your judgment and trust God and allow him to lead you through this. There is someone out there that deserves you just the way you are. There is someone out there that God has designed just for you that will appreciate love respect and devote himself to you. So keep you eyes and your heart open for new possibilities..... But in the mean time you need to focus on you and bring up your self esteem and bring up your worth. Allow yourself to grow as a person as a woman. I am not saying that all of this will be easy, but anything you want is worth fighting for. Sit down and think about what you truely want from him yourself and life and then pray about it
2006-09-02 00:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by Laila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a Christian, but here is my thoughts. He's not confused, he's playing games. Forget about him and move on. Vacationing from your ministry will not help you, it will probably make it harder. It seems to be your life and is likely the one stable thing you can always turn to. Don't change your life or even put it on hold because of him, you will regret it later.
2006-09-02 00:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think you need to move on and try to put your feelings for him into friendship mode if you can. He's standing you up on dates...that's very rude & selfish. You don't need to get yourself hurt again. It sounds like he's going through a very uncertain time in his life and until he figures things out on his own, he's not ready to be selfless enough to be in a relationship. Pray about it and you will get the answer you are looking for. Don't let him interfere with your good works. Keep your faith!
2006-09-02 00:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense really but I would hardly call u a christian because u go to church..........I used to play guitar in church too some 40 yrs ago take a clue there is more to heaven and earth then is contained in your philosophy just trying to defend your boyfriend I've seen mixed religious marriages that lasted lifetimes let your heart flourish not your church worries
2006-09-02 00:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants you to give him something stable, though
he doesn't offer the same to you.
Take a spiritual retreat, and ask God for answers. Sometimes
we get them through things we read in magazines, or hear in a
conversation. A key word will pop up. Pay attention to that.
2006-09-02 02:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Tegghiaio Aldobrandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like alot of drama for your first boyfriend.I don't know how old you are,but let him go.There are plenty of guys to date,so move on.
2006-09-02 00:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by fluffer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember all thing is on GOD time, all comes from GOD
2006-09-02 00:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by justmejimw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not my problem
2006-09-02 00:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Lemons 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋