I have grown up in a Christian family. I have been in the worship leading ministry playing keyboard and guitar sometimes since I was 10. When we moved to the city, I still got involved with the ministry where i met my first boyfriend. not that there is a second. he is the bass guitarist of the band. i admit we were fools who rushed in. we were both immature and selfish, insecure and really young and it didn't work out. It ended bitterly. He broke up with me. Said all the words that would make any human being feel unworthy of love. But i know that i have my mistakes also. After he broke up with me, he left the church without notice. It was hard to deal with but with God's help I was able to make it through but I still love him and I was unprepared for his coming back after a year (NOW). He came back at church and months later in the worship ministry and slowly had been trying to get back to me.
2006-09-02 00:26:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I have been changing numbers and running away until I thought maybe he's serious so I tried to be a friend but because of my paranoiam friendship seems impossible. And now i realized that he's still confused because he keeps standing me up on dates he would ask me to meet him. He's still an on and off church goer.
NOW.. I am personally a shipwreck. People around me are getting affected and hurt. Im thinking of vacationing from the ministry and the church to put myself together.
What can you say?
2006-09-02 00:27:09 · update #1
I think you both still have a lot of learning to do. You must be teenagers. Don't worry, as you grow, you will find there is so much more to life than an affection for the opposite gender. These things take time and maturity. I think you'll be fine. God Bless You.
2006-09-02 00:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't vacation away from the church. They are there for you. Talk to other people, they will listen. If he said such hurtful things to you, how is that showing christian love? Pray about it, you'll feel better. Where are you from? I wish they had a christian section on Yahoo Answers. This is gonna be hard for a while, I'm so sorry. All I can really say is just keep praying! And I'll be praying for you too! *Hugs*
2006-09-02 13:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by goinup5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should let God handle this. Keep Him (God) in your life first, and He'll find you someone who'll be worthy of you, and of Him. The Bible says for you not to be yoked with unbelievers...there's a reason for this. If he is an on and off again church goer, then I believe his eyes are on you, and not on the Lord. What are your priorities? I say you should just be a friend to him, but nothing more. Don't let him be an idol in your life again......the time is too short. Have a great day.
2006-09-02 08:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, just keep your faith and keep praying. If it is God's will that he is the one you are meant to be with it will happen. If you feel you need to get away, maybe you should visit another church for a while, until you feel comfortable being around him. If he is standing you up and coming to church off and on, he's probably more interested in you than God. You will find the one you are meant to be with, just keep your faith. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
2006-09-02 12:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by MsBeav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some TLC. God wouldn't treat you like this guy would, and I don't feel that God would want you to accept treatment like this from anyone. Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God.
There are so many other "fish" in this vast ocean of available men, and there are really good ones out there.
Shake the "dust" of this guy's residue out of your hair and life, and let your "Christlike" bait attract someone else. You may have to wait awhile....but believe me, it'll be worth the wait. In the meantime, concentrate on your talents and gifts to glorify God.
Believe me, you are worth more than the treatment that this guy is giving you. He sounds so confused.
2006-09-02 08:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by bitofchocolatekiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you shouldn't limit your potential responders on the basis of their faith. You need to ask yourself what it is you really want. Is it to be with this person? Is it to gain some closure? Is it to hurt someone who has hurt you? Be open and honest. People are often afraid to approach a situation "head on" and just explain how they feel. Maybe he wants a relationship again, or maybe not. Why not just ask and explain your feelings to him?
2006-09-02 07:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by ?man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like everone else says,
keep God first.
look, this guy is NOT treating you right
NOT treating you like the guy God has for you
so please dont waste your time, and emotions
before something bad happens
this is not what God wants for you
you are His princess and he doesnt want some punk
to play with His princess..
please, keep distant from him and move on
pray pray pray pray!
love
katrina
2006-09-02 13:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my sister God has a plan for you all you can do is pray. you are in my prayers. keep your chin up, also pray for him also love thy neighbor!
2006-09-02 11:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Badseed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋