I have grown up in a Christian family. I have been in the worship leading ministry playing keyboard and guitar sometimes since I was 10. When we moved to the city, I still got involved with the ministry where i met my first boyfriend. not that there is a second. he is the bass guitarist of the band. i admit we were fools who rushed in. we were both immature and selfish, insecure and really young and it didn't work out. It ended bitterly. He broke up with me. Said all the words that would make any human being feel unworthy of love. But i know that i have my mistakes also. After he broke up with me, he left the church without notice. It was hard to deal with but with God's help I was able to make it through but I still love him and I was unprepared for his coming back after a year (NOW). He came back at church and months later in the worship ministry and slowly had been trying to get back to me.
2006-09-02 00:24:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been changing numbers and running away until I thought maybe he's serious so I tried to be a friend but because of my paranoiam friendship seems impossible. And now i realized that he's still confused because he keeps standing me up on dates he would ask me to meet him. He's still an on and off church goer.
NOW.. I am personally a shipwreck. People around me are getting affected and hurt. Im thinking of vacationing from the ministry and the church to put myself together.
What can you say?
2006-09-02 00:24:46 · update #1
I have been changing numbers and running away until I thought maybe he's serious so I tried to be a friend but because of my paranoiam friendship seems impossible. And now i realized that he's still confused because he keeps standing me up on dates he would ask me to meet him. He's still an on and off church goer.
NOW.. I am personally a shipwreck. People around me are getting affected and hurt. Im thinking of vacationing from the ministry and the church to put myself together.
What can you say?
2006-09-02 00:25:19 · update #2
You teach people how to treat you.
Obviously, you have not convinced this young man that you are to be treated with dignity and respect.
You may need help in getting the message across to him.
Ask an elder of the church to meet with the two of you and witness your statements to the young man as to what you require for friendship and for the relationship to go any further than that. Then make it clear that he is going to have to start from 'square one' if he wants to win your trust again.
If he expresses a willingness to 'behave himself' in his treatment of you, then you may choose to give him the PRIVILEGE of seeing you again. If he shows no determination to do the work, then let him know you expect him to move on.
2006-09-02 00:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that first you shouldn't take a vacation from the ministry. I think that you should stay in the church because God doesn't take a vacation on us. Second, I think that you should pray and ask god to send you the man that he wants in your life right now and ask him to guide and lead you in the right way to go. I think that you should not have to compromise yourself or your beliefs for a man. Remember God is the ultimate problem solver.
2006-09-02 09:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to pray and ask god what he wants for you to do in your life.He will lead you to the answer.God wants us to be happy and in relationships that help us grow.The right young man will come along when you least expect it.I know you love him but there are times you have to love someone enough to let them go.We all make mistakes in our life and if he is whom god as chosen for you it will happen.God Bless You.
2006-09-02 11:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. He still obviously has problems. What was, was. Move on to someone new. Why recreate a bad past experience?
2006-09-02 14:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋