my ex bf moved to other country a few month ago and he promised me that he will be with me because he love me so much. I believed him that he loves me but I wasn’t sure that our relationship will work out. I also love him so much he is my every thing I would never though he wanted to break up with me. Unfortunatly he wanted so he told me that he wanted to break up with me. I thought he was joking but he wasn’t. I asked him why he wanted to break up with me. He told me that it is hard for him far way relationship. I don’t think so that is the reason. I mean if u loves someone u has to fight for no matter what. I assumed that his parents don’t like me and they told him that to break up with me. I really love him so much even though we are not together. I want to stop loving him. I try to hate him but it doesn’t work. I have never loved anyone like this before. it is hard for me. I don’t know what to do. I need help. How do I stop loving him or hate him. I know that we never be together after this so no point loving him and thinking him. It just makes my life hard. Plz help me?
2006-09-02 00:22:43 · 9 answers · asked by lujufe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Start loving yourself. then your on top of the world
2006-09-02 00:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by hunny jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way, and only way to get over someone is find someone else, and you will. It will be hard, but in a few months, you will be over him. You may be surprised at how fast you can get over someone, when you find someone else! You got your heart broke, and it may not be the last time it will happen, but you must realize he used you, and left you, what a pr-ck! I wrote a song about that called "After The Hurt Comes The Anger". Think about how you got used, and the rat had a smile on his face the whole time! How can you say you love someone that would rip your heart out while smiling at you? You will get mad! but it will be a little time before you do. When you realize what a snake in the grass this pri-k is. One of them Love-em & Leave-em type guys that just wants your body, and when you give them what they want, they're gone. Yeah, you got used girl! The question is, when are you going to do somethig about it? You don't have to take this sitting down, and crying in your pillow. If you don't get mad, and move on, then you are weak, and too easy. Look at it this way; you didn't ask to be treated like a dog, but that IS what you got! Get up and do something! Good Luck.
2006-09-02 00:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this happen to peopl all the time. The best thing to do is think of him, cry, let it all out. You fix a problem by dealing with it. You will never STOP loving him if you truly love him and that is ok, but you will get over him. It takes time and that is it, think about it like this.
When you first met him, you liked him the more you talked and were together you felt more & more for him right? Well it works the same way getting over it & moving on, each day that goes by without him in your life gets better & better-easier & easier. Give it time it will get better. BUT it is ok to cry thing about him, be sad, miss him, be mad, hate him.....all these emotions are ok and perfectly natural, it is part of the process.
2006-09-02 01:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by nmaponte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young. But long distance relationships very rarely work out. He may know this or he may want some one who he can be around all the time. love is not easy to get over, but you can do it. There is no reason to hate him. he is being up front with you, and not leading you on that you are still going to have a realationship. The only thing you can do is keep busy with friends and hope to find a new guy to love.
2006-09-02 00:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are so sad. Long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain. I would think especially as far away as he is from you.
You are definitely facing some odds here. Since he is so far away and you think his parents are telling him to forget about you he will be more susceptible to their ideas. I.E. he won't have you there to defend yourself.
I think you are wise to want to forget about him and move on. It's not so easy, I know. You will never forget about him but you can always remember the good times. Don't put yourself through the torture of "trying" to hate him when you don't. I can see where you would be angry at the situation but you don't sound like u "hate" him.
What you are experiencing is a broken heart my dear. It hurts like hell and you are probably a wreck. It does get better with time though. I know those are just words at this point but it is true and time is the only healer of that I'm afraid.
If you believe try to pray for him and his family and for God to help you digest the situation. That in itself is healing. If you don't feel like praying for them then just "fake it till u make it" and you will eventually feel better.
Move on with your life and try to find some goodness and positive aspects in all things you do.
Good luck to you and God Bless!
2006-09-02 00:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by miso1cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear this. A very similar thing happened to me, too. The only way that helps me get over it is to try and "hate" him. The distance actually helps in this aspect as I have no contact, or chance of bumping into him.
However, and this is from experience, you cannot force yourself to stop loving somebody. It takes time....lots of time to get over someone you loved. Don't be so hard on yourself. Make sure you spend lots of time with friends, or working, or having fun so you don't have time to think about him. Best of luck.
2006-09-02 00:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by bobaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a ruff time but you need to realize when you love someone you would not breakup because of distance. He has moved away and has most likely found another person of interest so you got the boot and because he was nice enough to tell you you need to understand it is over. The best way to get over it is to start dating someone else and going out with friends.
2006-09-02 00:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just imagine him poking his new girlfriend and you'll soon learn what hate really is.
2006-09-02 00:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by letem haveit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are too good for him.
2006-09-02 00:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Bear Naked 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋