When my son gets older, I want him to have two sets of grandparents. My boyfriend has his real parents so of course my son will call them grandma and grandpa. However, I have foster parents ( I've only been with them since I was 16) and I don't refer to them as Mom and Dad when I am around them, because it is just weird to me. They are both fairly young to be grandparents but they are the only grandparents on my side that my son will know, so do you think when he gets older, I should start calling them Mom and Dad instead of by name so that I don't confuse my son?
2006-09-02 00:16:02 · 7 answers · asked by dawn27 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can refer to them as grandma and grandpa when your son is around without having to call them mom and dad.
2006-09-02 00:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by Milkman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you may not feel comfortable calling them Mom & Dad since you have only been with them since you were 16 but your child will have been with them since birth, so perhaps your child WILL feel comforatble calling them Grandma & Grandpa.
You should also work on the whole Mom & Dad thing, it takes some really wonderful caring giving people to take in foster children, espesially at the age of 16, I mean taking in someone older is taking the risk of really getting hurt since there are only a few more years until you/the foster child can just leave, then their efforts to provide you with a home & family will have been in vain & that can really hurt. So maybe you can call them something else in the form of Mom & Dad. I know people in similar situations they called their step paremts.....nani & papi. So maybe something like that will be comfortable for you but still make them feel special.
As time goes on and you expierence things as a parent you will understand more.
2006-09-02 07:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by nmaponte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your son deeply and want him to feel loved....
Children know what is going on and can figure out the events around them. They are specially sensitive to the things that may affect matters of love and security.
Tell them what is happening and why. They will appreciate the honesty and will accept the care of the 'grandparents' that they have provided you.
2006-09-02 07:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Peter H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wont be confusing for your son, becuase if you call them by their real names then that will be normal for him, but if you keep on switching from mom and dad to their real names it will start becoming more and more confusing for your son, im sure that when he grows up he'll start to understand your situation but for now stick to what your use to and dont worry to much about it
2006-09-02 07:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with your son. If they love him like one of their own then it will not matter to him. My stepfather treats my kids just as his own grandchildren.. in fact he spends more time with my kids than his own grandkids. My kids know that he is not their REAL grandpa but it matters nothing to them, and to throw another loop in the knot, my son is adopted.... believe me, if you are honest with him, he will have two sets of grandparents. I know there are a lot of details left out of your story and a lot of factors that need to be considered but be open and honest and everything will work out for you.
2006-09-02 07:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by geez53182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and explain, kids have an amazing capability to understand things, honesty is always best tho.
2006-09-02 07:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start now!
2006-09-02 07:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by MV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋