People who have been married for awhile....?

Question

Did you fight the most in the beginning of your marriage, or after time had passed?
I'm kindof wondering if people with successful marriages often fought a lot in the beginning and resolved things, or never fought at all, or what?

Answer 1

ksr, as soon as you realise that you and her are not identical thats when the fights start. most married couples do fight, they fight for supremecy, for dominance. its obviouse that most of us do things our own way and dont like to be told what to do, the problem alot of people dont do is set up the boundries and share in this thing call playing house. if your wife is a stay home wife the house is her domian and you should respect her rules if you are the one always tending to the yard then your rules should be respected although im using those as an example and there is so many diffrent aspects to marriage and you can never cover them all its a proccess of comprimise. picture your marriage as a roller coaster with all the ups and downs.... so is your marriage there will be days where your on top and then days you just want to kick the living **** out of your spouse. unfortunately alot of couple get off the ride when they are down. forgetting that waiting a lil longer your ride will go up again. this will happen all through a marriage and the longer you two compramise and work things out the longer the upside will stay on the high side. good luck and best wishes

Answer 2

Fights are indispensable to marriage. Many sweeter marriages are the products of fights. But when a fight becomes serious, most of the time, it also brings about broken marriages.

Husbands and wives normally fight more during the first few years of their marriages because this is their "getting to know each other better" stage. When almost every difference between a husband and a wife has been resolved, fighting becomes seldom.

However, a couple should not let their fighting weaken their marriage vows. When they are into a serious fight which may involve their separation, they should try every thing to settle it immediately in stead of fighting over and over again in which case it is their children who suffer the most.

Very few marriages survive the tests of time without any fighting at all. In fact, for me, I don't believe that there is or was a couple in this whole wide world who live or lived together without any record of fighting of any sort.

For marriage to work, the husband and the wife should try to be more understanding and more loving to each other. True love and complete trust will likely drive away this so called "family breaker" called fighting.

Answer 3

Disagreeing or fighting, whichever way you look at it is an inevitable part of the marriage thing. It's hard to define when the most fighting or arguaring takes place in a marriage, the beginning, the middle, the end, the thing is ,is try to find some common ground, try to discuss instead of argue or fight. Most arguments and fights come from the littlest, stupid things that make no sense at all to start with. Learn to listen more and try not to always be the winner, I very seldom win, but I don't let it get to me. In my book, just about whatever it takes to keep her happy usually does the trick. I hate to argue and fight so try to think about things before they come out of your mouth not after, if ya get my drift. YES ALL COUPLES FIGHT!!! Hell make the best of it and if you have to bite your tounge every now and then, BIG DEAL, If your meant to be together then it shall be, squabbles are all a part of the successful marriage. Good Luck

Answer 4

All marriages go through a transition period. This is a time when two different lives get blended into an entirely new one. During this time you will experience a "merge crisis' for about the first three years. It is hardly a bump in the road for some marriages. Other marriages hit the rocks because both parties refuse to try to please the other. It you are patient and seek more to understand than to be understood you will be on safe ground. If It gets really rough, go see a marriage counsellor. What is more important in life than your marriage? Hopefully very little outside of your relationship with God. Stop problems early and make this a great adventure!

Answer 5

I have been married for over 10 years and all I can tell you is that fighting is not bad. What is bad is not listening to each other. You need to remember that with every conversation there has to be a sender and a receiver. If there is never a disagreement then someone is giving in to much

Answer 6

Wow, I'm glad I'm not the only one who wondered about this! My husband and I haven't even been married a year yet but have been together for over four years. This first year of marriage has been the most that we have ever argued!!! Your not alone!

Answer 7

They fight all the time,but can always come to a agreement.Marriage is not just about loving the other but compromising with the other as well.That's what makes a marriage work. You have to have that ability too.

Answer 8

Marriages go in stages, and it depends on what is going on in your life or what you are fighting about also. Although arguing sounds a little better than fighting. If your fist fighting, then something is wrong anytime in a marriage.

Answer 9

My wife and I have been married over 20 years and we never go to bed angry. We always resolve a problem peacefully. We do have our disagreements, don't get me wrong. We have never hit one another in anger. One or the other may walk away for a while to cool off and think, but we always resolve our problems non-violently.

Answer 10

its must to fight in the begining, as u will know each other better, and also know the extreme steps ur partner can take, as in the begining none loves the other so if u survive the beging bouncers of the worlds fatstest bowleer, i think 99% chancs hat u dont divorce, but there are still 1 % left.( and PROABILITIES ARE ALWAYS WRONG )