out of the blue a girl sent my husband a message and telling him about her daughter, i asked him if she was his and he straight lied to me I just found out today by asking this girl if my husband was the dad and she said yes. theres like this trust issue that keeps brewing on my mind what do you think i should do?
2006-09-01 23:47:35 · 12 answers · asked by shine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he might have lied to spare your feelings but what he did was destroy your trust. when will men get a clue about what a women needs HONESTY AND TRUST
2006-09-01 23:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by lost one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your husband need some definite communication. Maybe he really doesn't believe this girl is his, in which case if the mother is telling him he is the father, they need to get some testing done to prove paternity. Maybe he is telling you that the child is not his because he is afraid he will lose you? I would get to the bottom of it, there is a child at stake here. Yes, trust is another important aspect of this, but give him trust until you find out all the details and then decide if trust has truly been broken or not. If it has, then you have to decide how to handle that. Counseling is an excellent option to help you with clarity of all of this.
2006-09-01 23:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 06:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this child conceived while you were together?
Are you sure that it is not her lieing to you?
Maybe he does not know for sure (short of a DNA test men do not "KNOW" a child is theirs) if the child is his, and waiting for some kind of confirmation before telling you>
Maybe, he is not saying because of fear of rejection from you!!
There seem to be trust issues here, maybe both ways- talk to him
If the child is his ( need to be sure of this) he needs to be a father to it, that includes support.
In the care and raising of this child he needs your involvement as his life partner.
2006-09-01 23:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband might have done some mistakes before you both had met. But because of his love on you he is lieing.He should have thought that the matter would hurt you. Even if it is true talk to your husband and if you come to know that he loves only you then forgive him and live happily with him.
2006-09-02 00:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by white rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Sure that the Girl isnt Lieing to you? OR It could be He didnt Know he has a Child! I dont think hes Lieing
2006-09-01 23:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd find out if he was the father and if he was and he lied to me, he can kiss me and the marriage goodbye.
2006-09-02 00:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband and if its true take the child as one of your own
2006-09-01 23:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't believe her without DNA proof, do we not remember that women can be very devious? Get proof before you take her side.
2006-09-01 23:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe what your husband is saying, unless that lady proves that she is true.
2006-09-01 23:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by akela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋