OK.....my wife was verry wild when she was single. Very.
That was fine...it actually intrigued me!
I heard all about the things she did - all the men....threesomes....one night stands...she had an incredible "appetite".
So...we got married 8 years ago.....
And she stopped.....
I'll admit I had some "wild" fantasies I suggested that she has rejected...but nothing she had not done before.
On our 5 year anniversary, I got us a room on like the 50th floor in a hotel downtown. We started fooling around - and I opened the curtains. Its like WHO is going to see us?
She freaked...said "no way"...."its not her gig".....etc.
I asked her if I could take some nude pictures...no face, just her best parts....again - NO.
SO - even something that tame is out of the question!
For the ladies.....
Did your sexual behavior change that much once you got married??
For the men -
Has your wife gone from wild to mild since the wedding?
How can i get her to be wild again????
Thanks
2006-09-01 23:32:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you cant turn her wild again, and you suggesting things only emboldens her to be more conservative. although you are very attracted to her it seems when women get older and dont have the exact same body as they used to have, they become more inhibited( they feel less atractive then an 18 year old) you cant fix that. stay very flirtatious and flatter her with out pressuring her to be wild and when she comes and asks you what your fantasies are or that conversation of that nature happens suggest to her what they are and leave it alone. once she isnt pressured she'll take things into her own hands. example of this is...... if a woman is constantly nagging you never buy me flowers, you dont go to the store that instance to get flowers becuase it shows you only did it becuase she was pushing and not becuase you wanted to. give her ideas and let her act on it. pressuring more to get what you want only hurts your chances with your bride who im guessing would do anything for her husband. let her take the reins on this. good luck
2006-09-01 23:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
argg... well, welcome the modesty as it could be the other way around. She has a burning case of the, "Respectabilities" she is burning up in a feever of virtue.... is this bad. No, she has realized the damage that can be done from being wild, it just has taken a long time and being married to a good man didn't help.. it's a good thing. She feels safe and wants to protect that.
Understand that those days are probably gone.... sorry but she has set her limits and there they are. She may have a bit of trouble forgiving herself for her past run-aways and may need to talk to a counciler to help her love herself as she is, not what she was... you can play a big roll in that too....
You should sit down and express the way you feel and why, not push her as it isn't going to happen. She sounds like a wounderfull lady, more to her then just the sex part. She found a better side of her and you need to learn to be compassionet about that.
At the same time, she should have some fun left in her and learn to play with that ability within the privacy of your marriage... that is a topic that needs to be addressed... couseling probably be in order as the way she is, probably won't change but could be a atribute too the marriage if she could tap back into that... photo's, no.. don't think so....
she sounds like a great gal.. don't mess it up, find a common ground and go play, may not be as hot as you wanted..... but that could be a good thing... moderation in all things.. you know.
2006-09-02 06:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you have not grown up yet, although your wife has! Married life means there is now another person's feelings to consider, with your behaviour. So if your wife feels uncomfortable, don't insist. You may regret it later. If you love her, you should respect her feelings and views. Perhaps you have to discuss this with her and come to agreement as to how far you can go, in full view of outsiders. Personally, I think sex should be a private affair between two adults. Think of what may happen when you have children. With today's modern gadgets, you surely do not want to see yourselves in the news, right?
2006-09-02 06:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you heard about her before you were married. Here is a thought for you. You heard it from others. Unless you saw it, were part of it or she told you it doesn't mean it happened.
What did you marry her for so you could have a porn star.
You both need to talk out your sexual wants. Seems your not on the same page as her because you listen to what others were saying.
2006-09-02 06:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people get tamer after marriage. They feel they have sown their wild oats and no need to do anything further. I am happy to say this is not the case in my marriage. Variety is the spice of life. If the participants are willing than it is OK!!
2006-09-02 06:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not married but have been with my bf for 10 years now.
Our sex life has gotten even better over the years , we love and trust each other and love to try out new things.
2006-09-02 06:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
our sexual behavior changed. we have less sex but the sex we have is better than when we were dating (deeper, more emotional, that kind of stuff). if this wild sex thing is REALLY bothering you, talk to your wife. hell, maybe she made all the wild sex stuff up...maybe she is ashamed of what she did in the past...come on, your married-talk to her!!!
2006-09-02 06:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by rnoemt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋