When we broke up last night, she openly said that she was a b**ch. and said that she will be always at the end of a telephone for my calls, if I want any help. She still loves me still I know. I know from the many answers, you have said find someone else but, she was the one for me and no other person can take her place.
I didn't sleep at all last night, I just cannot relax, any suggestions?
Thanks again for your welcomed answers to this post. And sorry to be a nuisance to you all.
2006-09-01 23:30:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just like any painfull loss, nothing will fix it only time will allow it to hurt less, from my perspective you have only a couple choices. first choice is you beg and beg. from past experience begging only empowers the person your begging. and is the worst thing you can do, it only makes her feel stronger and weakens your chances of getting her back. the other choice is to never let them see you sweat. by this i mean. its fine to call when you say your going to but you need to keep it simple and to the point, be the first person to get off the phone( under the pretense you have to go to work or you have somthing planned to do) when talking to her its alright to say " i love you or i miss you" at the end of the conversation but dont sound weepy or begging, and dont give any clue ,,,ever, how miserable your feeling inside other then the one liner " i miss you" like i said from past experience, i know the pain your going through and i know the feeling " she is the only one" but you will be empowering her to stay away if you become weepy. its time for you to learn from this seperation, let it make who you are going to be in years to come instead of longing for who your used to be..... a heartfelt goodluck as this pain is all to common for alot of us.....
2006-09-01 23:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years is a long time. You must have heard something from her over the time span that can tell you what it is she's not getting that she wants. Either critically think and figure out what you need to change, or move on.
I can't possibly imagine what its like after 9 years. My 2.5 year seemed like an eternity. My best advice though is just to try and figure out what the problem is and step up to her with new resolve.... or start playing the game again.
Best wishes and luck to you whichever path you take.
2006-09-02 06:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with country_girl...
Maybe you'll continue to love her but from what you are saying she has decided that you cannot be together.
either one can make that decision. For any reason, too.
Doesn't have to be rational, reasonable, etc. either.
Don't even have to consult the other person either.
"I didn't sleep at all last night, I just cannot relax, any suggestions?"
Tylenol PM looks to be a good form of benadryl that helps me sleep.
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2006-09-02 06:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she leave u for someone else? Sounds like maybe she is just trying to give u a wake up call. Wait a few days/weeks and let her start missing u and she will probley take u back if u ask her.
2006-09-02 06:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels she's done wrong or is
feeling sorry about something she's done?
For whatever reason she appears to need
time apart from you and maybe to clear her
mind. She could still love you,but maybe she
needs to be alone for awhile?
Enotalone.com is a nice site that discusses
these issues in greater detail with nice people
there for support.
May God help you and bless you!!!
2006-09-02 06:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a man four years. He had plenty of warnings. I am sure you did too. Last June I went to my house on an island alone. I was so happy without him controlling every move I made. I just announced it was over.Then left everything and moved to my vacation house. Move on she has a new better life without you.Don't be a major jerk and call and beg.
2006-09-02 07:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by mary texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up because she told you that she was a ***** is a poor excuse. Is there another guy involved? What do you think is the real reason for the breakup? Nine years together is a long time and telling you that she is a ***** is hardly a satisfactory reply.
Get the REAL answer.
2006-09-02 06:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by wunderkind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right at this moment, my tears are flowing for you. you are hurting inside so much. something very important, i feel i should write you now. their are babies, kids and animals dying of things unimaginable with you at this very moment. please, i know you have an angel with you right now, watching over you, so, i need your help. sit up, stand up, close your eye's and talk to the angel, but not about you. send your angel to another, that you may benefit from this sacrifice. do not concern yourself over the 9 year human comfort. you may have been sent here to linger with someone that has yet to appear, if it is or will remain your 9 year partner, believe me as i say to you that it will be, and it will be today. one more thing, my friend,bow your head for the Holy Spirit is with you right at this very moment. when your partner returns be busy in the steps to renew what has been taken for granted, appreciate one another and respect, in the name of all this is of God, continue forward...
2006-09-02 06:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please,Please let her go.Only Time will make it better,Trust me.You will find someone that loves you again and you'll wonder what you ever saw in her.It couldn't have been that good if shes gone.Be still,patient and the right one will come into your life.Good Luck.
2006-09-02 06:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by mustang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do want to be with someone,who doesn't want to be with you?dont u think you deserve someone better,who would love n respect u the way you do?n accept the fact that u cannot force nyone to love you n be with you,so just move on as she has moved on with life!!
2006-09-02 06:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋