Especially if you have been told negative things all your life and never had self esteem .Thanks for the advice...
2006-09-01 21:55:27 · 10 answers · asked by sugar_n_spice 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Ooh, know where you're coming from. Seriously though, you need to let go of everything those people said. Focus on something you know you're good at and whenever someone says something negative, remind yourself of a positive.
I.e. My sister always insults the size of my butt, so I remind myself that I have really pretty eyes or that I'm the first girl in my mother's family to go to college or something similar.
Try it sometime.
2006-09-01 21:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was in a similar position, but I found ways to help improve my self esteem. The first thing you MAY need to do is get away from people who put you down. This may mean that you have to completely change the group of friends you hang around with. Another thing you can do is start helping others. If you see someone with a need and you have the ability to help them, then help them. That will improve your self-esteem. If you have a special talent, such as musical ability, do something like play music at nursing homes and assisted living homes. If you don't have musical talent, volunteer at other charities feeding the hungry, arranging the food on the shelves, or whatever you feel you can do. It's also a good way to meet people who have similar values as you. It's a good way to meet members of the opposite sex who are caring individuals also.
Love, Hope, & Peace,
Cal-el & Swissy
2006-09-01 22:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Prodigal Son 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of my worse problems since I was raised in a dysfunctional family so I went and saw a counselor/therapist and he recommended a book to read called "The Search for Significance" by Robert S. McGee. I am reading it for the second time now and am amazed about the progress I am seeing and making in this area. My self-esteem is booming and I started to value myself more and more and rejecting all of the negative things that were said to me before. That book is a great tool for this problem.
2006-09-01 22:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by trillionaire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being more confident helps alot. caring for yrself. health wise, respecting who you are and the things you have achieved up till now and things that you can achieve in life. knowing that you have accomplished more than alot of other ppl so far. dont think that you havent or you wouldnt be on yr pc asking this very question shows us that you have accomplished the use on a computer when there are still thousands that are to ignorant or scared to do this. let any negative comments roll off you. read more on this site that will help you
2006-09-01 22:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is truly the key to life. I think it takes daily little steps to increase our self esteem. I find my joy in having a funny cat. He adores me with no conditions. Perhaps you could get a pet. Look for joy and you will find it.
2006-09-01 22:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I jog (even though I don't need to lose much weight) and channel all my negative thoughts into the jogging. It makes me feel good after a run before it's been scientifically proven that exercising releases some chemicals in your body to deal with stress. Besides, it makes me feel good that I challenged myself and managed to reach a targetted destination.
2006-09-01 21:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by citrusy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By taking time to take good care of yourself and by realizing your value. Your value comes from Christ alone and what He thinks of you, and not from what other people think of you. It doesn't matter if someone says you're no good, because God created you in His image, and He cherishes you. Read the book "Captivating" by Staci Eldridge.........I'm sure it will help you alot. Good luck.
2006-09-01 22:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is something that just happens when you spend enough time alone. I'm not sure we ever “love” ourselves, we know all the flaws. To be happy with yourself is different, it is something that happens when you stop looking outside yourself for happiness
2006-09-01 21:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
become a killer...and kill everyone who lowers ur self esteem..
im sure u will feel good that way...llol
hey im just joking okay....dont do it...
well to love urself..think positive...
think positive in everylittle thing u do....
take care...bye bye
2006-09-01 21:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that you is as God made you and that is what makes you unique and you should realize that no matter how bad off you are there people in worse shape.
2006-09-01 22:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by Erica j 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋