i have a friend who is always depressed.his girlfriend left him two weeks ago.he is not eating.he doesen`t want to get out. he is always sad.he told me once that it would be better if he died.i tryied talking to him, but it didn`t work. what can i do?
2006-09-01 21:53:46 · 18 answers · asked by stohark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be there for him as much as you can, and enlist other friends to keep an eye on him. Make sure he understands that he is valued as a person and that 'this too shall pass'. There are millions of people who once considered suicide and are very very glad they chose life instead. Try to make him understand that in 5 or 10 years (probably much sooner), he will look back on this ordeal and wonder how he could have been that upset. Remind him of all of the things he has going for him. If he is creative, encourage him to try art, poetry, music as an outlet. Some of the best songs ever were written by guys who had just been dumped.
2006-09-01 21:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by sueflower 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't really think he wants to kill himself; otherwize, he would've done so sooner. He may need some help from some experts, but I don't think he can trust them the way he trusts you. Try not to talk next time he talks to you. Instead listen carefully to what he has to say. You will be able to find what the real problem is, and you'll be able to help him from there. He's very fortunate to have you as a friend. Best wishes to you both and good luck too.
2006-09-02 05:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by CRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his parents before it's too late. The parents/family is often last to know ....my bro committed suicide...his best friend spent the whole night prior to his passing with him....in his appartment.....trying to talk some sense into him. If he called my parents....and my parents would have told me how bad his depression was...I would have rushed to him...I was always able to get through to him when we were growing up (he was always an introvert). We all had our own lives (different cities) at that point...otherwise I would have known about how seriosly depressed he was. I would have tried everything- everything!!!!....Again ...let his parents know as soon as possible!!! They are the ones who will mourn him for the rest of their lives if he should do something to himself. Tell them to get him professional help....if he wants or not. When you are depressed you don't know what's good for yourself.
2006-09-02 05:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time they do not! I have mention it to the family members at different times! I would feel horrible if a person did kill them self, and I did nothing! Sometimes they get really mad at you.
I always felt that I would prefer that they were really mad at me, because at least they are here to do so! Others view it differently, each has to decide what they are to do if indeed anything!
2006-09-02 05:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi friend. goodto see ur concern for ur friend... c emotional out burst at this point of time is the best way to come out of it... so try giving a conversation and give him a patient ear and listen to what he is saying or what he want to say and him understand that he is not alone and this is a part of life... life has bestored everything.. so dont let him feel alone n b with him... n good to c a person who is so caring for others feelings. good ... may good bless u and take care of ur friend.
2006-09-02 05:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lallithambigai U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his parents about your concerns or someone who is in a position to get him some help. Sounds like he could benefit from mental health counseling.
2006-09-02 04:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by mad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs attention good bad whatever but he needs it be around him more than usual and remove all sharp objects and harmful things from his reach...call a doctor if you think he is serious or get him to a doctor if he has already hurt himself....life throws some wicked curve balls that sting when they hit...you got ask yourself whether you let it go by or take it head on...
2006-09-02 05:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by mikey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him hang anywa talk to the parents or just assure him its not the end of the world
2006-09-02 04:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some times people have a tendency to over dramatize things however you should offer him support and of course talk
to his friends and family if needs prof help good luck ?
2006-09-02 04:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by simmer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you'll always be there for him. Take him out, play sports, go jogging. Anything that would take his mind of off his depression.
2006-09-02 05:02:32 · answer #10 · answered by Meeya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋