I am jealous. No doubt. Insecure (crap job still looking for a better one dilligently). We live together in his house (we rented together b4 he bought it).
The jealousy thing is a BIG thing btween us. I so love him and his qualities.
How do I go about correcting behavior/beliefs and how do I get it in concrete in my head that he really does love/want only me?
The next time I shoot my mouth off....I'll be on the street. And to that I am worried that because I do not have a great job to support myself(he is such a good guy)he would not throw me to the curb.
Normally he would come home maybe 3am ish, going out w/the buddies after work...4:30 ish....the new restaurant/bar he's a partner in and needs to do "stuff" there, 5:30am! The later has been since I have questioned him.
I DO NOT want to be taken advantage of.....How do I know if all of his info to me is on the up and up?
2006-09-01 21:32:06 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think when you get a better job, you'll feel better about yourself and be more secure. Jealousy is hard to deal with, but you have to have faith that he wants to be with you and just try to create an atmosphere where he wants to come home. It is trying to a person to constantly have to reassure someone, as it
almost seems like you're not worthy to be loved. Everyone needs reassurance, but not all the time. Just try to relax, enjoy being with him when you can, and trust him. If you don't have trust, you really have nothing.
2006-09-01 21:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not once did you mention the possibility of another woman. I do not think that you are actually jealous, but you are feeling extremely insecure. You are not happy about your job, the house belongs to him and he has a business that demands late hours.
With regards to shooting off your mouth and being on the street - this is just another example of your feeling of inferiority (again, it's his house and he will throw you out). Shouting only achieves a sore throat !!!
When you find a better job you will immediately feel better about yourself. If he says he loves you - believe it, if he continually comes home at 5.30 you DO have the right to ask why and expect a proper answer - but ask at a time when you are both alert, awake and able to talk.
Hope this helps
2006-09-01 22:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by sarah b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to TRUSt him, Love without TRUST is not Love at all. I don't know if it makin' sense to you....but I wanted to tell you if he is doing something wasn't right, it's his problem not yours. Just do your part Love him, trust him, if it not works it is definitely not your fault.
2006-09-01 21:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by guRl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to marital counselor or ur mum
2006-09-01 21:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got tired of reading this mess and just want my 2 points
2006-09-01 21:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Ted747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for ya.......he has got you in a hard place......but that is because you allow it........try this ...while he is doing his thing go do YOUR thing.......dont keep tabs on him.....( your mission is to try to get him to keep tabs on you.) dont occupy your mind with wondering on what he is doing....turn it around....then once you got his attetntion then tell him to get a life and leave yours alone
2006-09-01 21:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest to him.
let him be honest to u.
2006-09-01 21:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by kummu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋