How to handle over crying of baby?

Question

usually my baby cry to much and when that happen my husband and me can't handle it

Answer 1

If you're not calm and comfortable around the baby the baby will sense it and cry more, so the first thing you have to make sure is that you keep your baby feeling calm, secure, and not frazzled by a hectic environment around it. You have to hold the baby in a very "solid" way, making sure he knows he isn't going to be dropped. You don't have to be silent because there's a baby in the house, but you can't have a "crazy" house either, or the baby will get frazzled and cry.

Sometimes babies cry because they have a belly ache. Sometimes its because they're hungry. Sometimes its because they're cold or because they have something on that's uncomfortable. Sometimes they cry when they're teething and it hurts. Sometimes they cry because they are tired or have been passed around among a bunch of family members or else maybe someone is acting tense or grouchy around the baby.

In other words, whatever it is that makes your baby cry it means the baby needs you to fix the problem because its uncomfortable for some reason. It needs you to be the grown up and to stay calm, hold the baby closely, maybe rock him calmy or walk gently with the baby snuggled in yours arms. Pat his head or rub his upper back to help him calm down.

If you and your husband get tense the baby will never stop crying because he'll feel that tension you both have. He'll feel the tense arm muscles that are holding him. He won't feel all safe and cozy and snuggly in your arms. He'll feel like he's not secure.

Sometimes babies cry because they didn't quite get enough bottle. Sometimes they cry because they've been overfed. They cry if they have a burp that has to come up.

Try to calmy ask which of the above things can you rule out when the baby cries. If he just had a big bottle then you'll know he's not hungry. If your house just has you and your husband and a television and lights on you'll know the baby isn't frazzled from having too many people around or too much going on around him. Again, though, if you get tense or your husband gets tense, that will make the baby cry more.

You have to not worry about who hears the baby crying. That will make it seem less urgent that the crying stops. You have to also try to figure out why the baby is crying without feeling that if it doesn't stop immediately its the end of the world. In other words, you have to kind of accept some of it without getting all tense.

Make sure your baby is not too cold. Little babies cry when they're cold. If there's a chance he's cold while you're holding him wrap a blanket around him so its wrapped under his arms and kind of snuggly around his ribs and upper back. If your baby is teething get him some Baby Ambesol for when babies are getting teeth (which can happen from four months on through a year or so old - and then molars come in at two). (Its for their gums. They don't take it like medicine (you may already know that).

Try sitting calmly or walking calmly and singing a nice, soothing, little song in a quiet voice. Sometimes they like a song that's a little zippier than the traditional lullaby, so try something like a Muppets Song.

I've tried to think up things that maybe will be in some way helpful. Whatever you do, don't lose your patience with the baby. His cries are literally cries for help. Don't let your wish to help him make you feel helpless when he keeps crying, but try to be grown-up and calm about carefully asking what it is that may be bothering him. He won't melt if you can't figure out why he's crying right away, and many people get upset because the crying baby makes them feel helpless.

At the same time, though, remember he is looking to you to try to help him at least feel calm and safe and secure. I found that my babies didn't cry much even when they were sick or teething because when a person (a baby) feels safe and secure and calm nothing seems as bad and upsetting as it does when someone is upset and frazzled and being passed from one parent to another.

If nothing else, just remember that this crying thing will pass. Do your best. Ask for help if you have to.

Final word: Don't listen to people who say just leave the baby in a crib and close the door. Babies cry because they need something that will make them feel ok again. You are your baby's world. If your baby knows you're paying attention he will learn that his world is kind and good, even if not always able to fix his problem. If he knows you leave him alone in his time or need, he'll learn that he's in this world all alone. (Another thing is, babies can get so upset they could do something like get so worked up they start choking.) If you want your child to trust you later, make sure he knows he can trust you to try to help him now.

Answer 2

First of all, how old is the baby? Most very young babies don't cry unless they need something. Check the usual list:

1. Is baby hungry? Young babies eat all the time. Look for an open mouth like a baby bird.

2. Is the diaper dry?

3. Is the baby too hot or too cold? Some people bundle their newborns up like eskimos to "keep them warm." Babies really don't need more clothes than adults. If you think you'd be too hot or too cold, your baby probably will too.

4. If you're nursing, look at what you're eating. The mommy eating chocolate, drinking Pepsi or coffee, or another food the baby is sensitive to can make their tummies hurt.

5. Does the baby vomit a lot or seem to have trouble going to the bathroom? Does your baby have bright red cheeks after eating? It's possible the baby is allergic to cow's milk formula or soy. Try switching to a different kind of formula.

6. Check for thrush, which is a yeast infection. The baby's tongue will be totally white and the baby may vomit or be gassy.

As parents, it can be tough to deal with a baby who cries a lot. Things may be easier for you if you take some time away. Get a sitter and go out for a few hours.

Answer 3

Well, you really have no choice but to handle it. You are parents and that is your job.

Babies cry for a reason. They are either hungry, tired, need a change, are too hot or too cold, or they are in pain from colic or sickness.

Rule out a dirty, uncomfortable diaper, hunger, cold, hot, and being tired. Then, you have the idea of colic to deal with. Make sure that, when AWAKE, the baby spends about 10 minutes two or three times a day on his or stomach to help them work out stomach gas. Then, give them one teaspoon of cooled fennel tea off the spoon before each feeding.

It may not work, but colic usually disappears after the 4th month.

Remember, your baby is the most important person in your world. They are small, helpless, and cannot use words to tell you what is wrong. Read the information on ALL the links below to help you through this hard time.

Answer 4

I had the same happen with my daughter, she had colic. Try and get someone who might watch your baby while you and your husband just go for a walk or may even get a coffee. It is hard and you just need help with your baby, we are not super parents no matter how hard we try. If you cannot handle it and are on a short fuse and can't get anyone over, It is OK to take a few minutes to go out side and just breathe for a second or two. Scream in a pillow, I did that one alot. If the baby is crying and is feed, clean, and should be just fine, leave the baby for a bit. I think a nurse told me for about 10 mins is just fine, sit in a room with ear phones on and listen to relaxing music. Call your Doctor if this happens for too long, always better to ask right? just to be sure.

Answer 5

She or he could have colic which is gas in her belly.Some things you could try is a little mylanta for babies and if nothing else helps and he spitting up alot he could be getting stomach cramps from milk based formula so talk to your pediatrician and maybe try soy with iron formula.I know that the crying can get to the most pa taint parents but just try holding he or she and walking around.Oh! another thing you can try if it's gas is putting her on her belly and doing the bicycle motion with her legs.My babys 3 1/2 months old and she cries sometimes from gas.If your baby is breast fed he should be going number two a couple of times a day and if shes a formula baby then sometimes it takes up to four days for a bowel movement but any longer then that call your pediatrician.

Answer 6

After you have checked and made sure your baby has clean diaper and is not hungry..,let the baby cry.Worse thing you can do is pick the baby up each time it cries.Your baby may have nights and days mixed up..,and you and your husband need to alternate on the crying checks..,that way one of you can get some sleep while the other is checking on the baby.Your baby may also have colic.And as tired as you are..,remember that tiny baby has no defense but to cry when something is wrong.If it gets too bad..,just walk outside for a few minutes to release some stress.Good luck and have paitence it wont last forever and you will be wishing those days were back when they are grown.

Answer 7

Take turns so that each of you gets a break.

Babies don't cry to manipulate.....they cry to communicate. It's the only way they know how to communicate. When your baby cries, s/he needs something.

Go through the list each time.....
hungry
wet
dirty
tired
teething
tummy hurts
too cold
too hot
simply needs to be held (this is a true NEED for a young child)
gas
needs burped

If one of you is home alone with the baby and s/he won't stop crying, put the baby somewhere safe and walk away for 5 mins or so to collect yourself if you need to do so and then go back and try again.

If you are having trouble figuring out why baby cries a lot or how to comfort him/her then I'd suggest you discuss it with your doctor as well.

Answer 8

My first baby would go on crying jags for 72 hours straight sometimes. Studies show that infants only cry if they have a need. Sometimes I would get so frustrated I would forget if I had checked everything, so I wrote a list to check; hungry, dirty, sleepy, tight cloths, etc. Usually one of the things on the list was what was wrong.

Sometimes you try everything and nothing works. That's when you check them all over for pain, starting with the stomach. Also search for bites. Sometimes a massage can relax their sore muscles.

Other times there is nothing that you can do for them. That's when over stimulation can be helpful. Walk them, pat their back or bottom, music, a car ride or stroller's motion. These things can take their minds off of their pain. During those long-long days, I would take my baby to the Dr., who would tell me, "oh, it's just an upset stomach, do what you can to comfort him." Just knowing that you are there for them, to help them through the troubled times is priceless to a baby. To be left alone in your crib, without any outside stimulus to take your mind off of your misery is awful. Some say it teaches them coping skills, but the coping skill is thumb/pacifier sucking.

When you have been pushed too far, then it is a good time to leave the baby to their own coping skills, put them safely in their crib and leave the room. But keep it brief. If they start quieting down, leave them just a bit longer to give them a chance to fall asleep. Maybe "no stimulation" is what they need.

Answer 9

1st... take a deep breath sweetie. I know how hard this can be & how tired you must feel right now. Remember that you are not alone in your feelings & exhaustion. I totally understand where you are coming from. If you haven't already, make sure your doctor checks your baby for any illness or colic. In the meantime, a couple of other posters gave some great advise... after you put the baby down or you begin feeling overwhelmed or "out of control" (exhaustion can do this to you) - go outside and get a breath of fresh air & a little quite time. You can do this! Take it one day at a time.

Answer 10

You sound stressed out! How old is your baby?

Take turns so you can each get a break. Try lying baby on your lap and bend legs (to see if there's gas in his/her tummy). Try holding baby stomach down across your arm and rock back and forth humming. Try swaddling (if younger than one month, older than that they don't recommend it). Try a sling or snuggli carrier (remember your baby was inside you and used to the rhythm of your walking and the warmth and sound of your heartbeat).

It can be really hard in the beginning. If you really just can't take it anymore, a few minutes of lying the baby down and walking away is okay but don't overdo it! Can a grandma or neighbor or church friend help out?

Make sure to mention the crying at your doctor's appointment so they can be sure there's no ear infection or thrush (yeast in baby's mouth).