i use to believe it but now im not so sure. does anyone have an opinion and good reasons supporting it?
2006-09-01 20:58:28 · 18 answers · asked by xsummermagikx 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
i would also just like to give a warm congatulations for anyone who has found the person that brings happiness into their lives. you are so lucky and i hope one day i can also find my true love.
2006-09-01 21:13:24 · update #1
There used to be, but then I married her. Now she's no longer "out there" anymore, but "in here". :-)
Sometimes finding that special someone can be frustrating and take a long time, but you will succeed if you put the effort into it. Be yourself--if you have any beliefs or qualities which you think might drive away someone, be up front about it. "Mr. Right" will be accepting of who you are. Of course, that means you have to be yourself, too, not the person you think the other guy wants to see.
Also, don't get desperate and attach yourself to someone out of fear of being alone. I've seen friends marry the wrong person because they were lonely or afraid of being alone, and as a result ended up in bad marriages that ended in separation or divorce.
It may sound cliche, but love really is one of those things that you get more of, the more of it you give to others. There is a Mr. or Mrs. Right out there for everyone. Just be patient, be yourself, be kind, and don't settle for Mr./Mrs. "better than nothing" out of desperation.
2006-09-01 21:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by R[̲̅ə̲̅٨̲̅٥̲̅٦̲̅]ution 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I am in a loving relationship with my fiance now, I absolutely do not believe in the myth of "The One". I think this myth has caused a lot of unnecessary anxiety and heartbreak and has led people to rationalize poor decisions, e.g., "Well, he's not yet divorced; but he's The One and he will leave his wife because we BELONG together" and so forth (see Sex and the City).
This is also a concept that women seem to adhere to more so than men, in my opinion. I don't see the purpose of it. I think it gets in the way of seeing your romantic interest as who he or she really is, and it puts a lot of pressure on a relationship's viability.
Instead, I suggest that you live your life in accordance with your values; fulfill your dreams; and get to know people who share your values and interests. When one of those makes your heart go "boom" and he is interested in a relationship, give it a go. If that relationship goes sour, leave knowing full well that there are others with whom you are likely to be compatible.
All the best to you.
2006-09-02 06:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by j14456um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why we think our life is incomplete if we are alone? why we got the illusion we humans are complete in the form of two?
Happiness: if you cannot find it in yourself you cannot find it outside.. nobody cannot bring enjoyment to you.
there is a difference between pleasure and enjoyment. Hmm.. in english both sounds same...but very few people experience enjoyment.
i will try to explain in an example.. when i see a mountain, i got some pleasure.. that is not enjoyment.. To transform that
into enjoyment we need paractice. when i'm in pleasure( basically pleasure is negative feeling ha ha.. it is full of thoughts..greediness for wanting the same again.. it is evil.. haha.. but when it become enjoyment i don't have any thoughts.. i'm just completly with that mountain.. Did you got the difference? ha ha..
True love? what is this? all we have here in this world is "barter". i will give you something, you will return something. if i stop giving you will stop giving.
2006-09-02 00:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by sebin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in the "soul-mate" nonsense. There are no perfect matches. I believe love grows and evolves once you allow a relationship to happen. Be forgiving and kind.. Be a special person and you will attract a special person.
2006-09-01 21:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nature did not create two left shoes.
At the place that YOU like to go to, doing the things that you like to do, Nature will show you the person that you are to be with with.
You cannot look and find this person! You cannot dye your hair or put color on your face, and paint in your eye to attract this person!
Nature will smack you and there will not be anything that either of you will be able to do about it.
You never meet this person while YOU are looking for them, only when nature is ready for you to meet them!
2006-09-01 21:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to believe that there was one on the exact opposite spot of the earth as i was (perhaps in a life raft) - a girl i'd never meet - but i don't even believe THAT, anymore. my reasons? depression and experience. i've come to look forward, at times, however, to a quiet old age, with just my books for company. still, i have an okcupid profile...
2006-09-01 21:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by altgrave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I firmly believe this I have proof with Marie... Took me 44 years to find her but I must say she was worth the wait. We have everything in common are best friends as well. And trudging through the stress and trauma to finally be able to be togther well just proves my point.
2006-09-01 21:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finding the right person or special person is like hitting the center of a target. to aim and hit the center takes a lot of practice. some people may hit the center right away, but most do not.keep on trying
2006-09-01 21:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by silly colie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone in wondering. I feel the same way. I've had such terrible luck in dating during my lifetime, and such long dry spells, I often wonder if there is a mate out there for me. Sigh.
It's extremely depressing, but I keep praying for a miracle though.
Best of luck to you. May you find 'The One' for you.
2006-09-01 21:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Microsoft Bob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. from the moment i met my partner i knew straight away he would have an impact on my life even tho we are complete opposites. I'm very bad tempered and lose it very quickly and i worry alot he is very calm all of the time in all situations which on occasions drives me mad he is so laid back but for us it works we hold each other together we have gone through many things together we could not have done on our own. I know it is corny but he is my soul mate he is my best friend
2006-09-01 21:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋