2006-09-01 20:31:33 · 33 answers · asked by falzalnz 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep the lines of communication open at all times. Be patient with each other. Learn the difference between knowing what to say and knowing "when" to say it. Let go of your desire to be right all the time. Learn the difference between hearing each other and really listening to what the other person has to say. When you do fight, fight fairly, in a calm and cool headed manner and don't sweat the small stuff. Spend as much time as possible but learn to give each other space to do your own thing. Support each other's growth and remember that your commitment to each other doesn't end after the wedding ceremony. It starts everyday for the rest of your married lives...and last but not least...have lots of sex.
2006-09-01 20:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
.1. Never both be angry at the same time.
.2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
.3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
.4. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
.5. Never bring up mistakes of the past.
.6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
.7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
.8. At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary
thing to your life's partner.
.9. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and
ask for forgiveness.
.10. It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong
is the one who does the most talking.
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Success to your relationship, Manuchopra.
2006-09-01 20:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by sm 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Know you and know your spouse and love both completely. Compromise, communicate, and don't be afraid to have conversations that aren't romantic. Day to day living isn't romantic. Who's gonna take out the garbage or watch the kids isn't either, but it's something that is gonna come up and it's better to have a plan than to have to fight about it later. Also, discuss things that you're not supposed to talk about in "polite conversation". Religion, sex, politics, child rearing philosophies, and money. There's a lot that people don't think about in the first rush you get, but it's something that can cause many difficulties. There's also one more thing. Have a hobby, or a friend, or friends, something, anything that you can talk about that the other person doesn't already know about and that you can share with them. One of the big killers of marriages is boredom and one of the best ways to get bored with someone is to always know what they're going to say or do or think and finally to not care about any of it. Keep a little bit of a life of your own and you'll always have a little mystery.
2006-09-01 20:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with Susan. My husband and I have been married for almost 26 years. Keep a sense of humor and respect and trust each other. Someone mentioned that you should divide everything 50/50. It can't always be that way. Let's say your husband needs 80% so give him that extra attention. Sometimes you might need maybe 90% so he should give YOU the extra attention that you need. Each of you should know when this happens. Talking and keeping the communication open is also important. Don't start fights and laugh at his jokes. My husband and I can still talk for hours and have fun together. Sorry for rambling but I think these things are important.
2006-09-01 21:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
1. NEVER go to bed angry with each other.
2. MALES Shut your mouth and LISTEN, LISTEN and LISTEN!
3. NEVER argue just to make sure that your spouse knows that you are right! What do you gain when the spouse gives into your being right but you have stepped all over the relationship and feelings to prove your point. The only time it is important to be right is when wrong means DEATH or lose of loved ones.
4. NEVER lie.
5. MALES let the female;e manage the money, if she cannot, then
support money management school. There is no MY money and YOUR money. EVERYTHING IS OURS.
6. If you are trying to sleep with her before you marry her, then you do not really respect her! You respect what YOUR penis wants to do, but you do not give a rats AS# about her!
Go to church to gather! And remember, one tree cannot grow in the shadow of the other tree, there must be space between them.
2006-09-01 21:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You people should be submissive to each other, share your worries together, play together, work hand to hand, correct the mistakes of each other, advice each other, see into each other's problem, trust each other, have confidence in each other, don't listen to what people may say about your partner if you really love him because the world is full of jealousy and people can destroy the two of you, always see before you believe do not hear and believe. Always be there fore each other and by so doing you will live happy for ever.
2006-09-01 20:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get a pre-nuptial agreement. Have sex 3 to 4 times a week. Go out to dinner at least 1 to 2 times a week and share house chores. Save a lot of money for a rainy day and buy your dream home if you're able.
2006-09-01 20:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by louie m 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi Lovers, The best advice is to be nice to 1 another.Always tell each other you love them, at least once a day.Do little things for each other.Like on saturdays and sundays,Lets let your hubby take saturday,So mommy can get up and cook you a nice breakfast and serve it in bed for you.Then sunday,daddy will get up and make a nice breakfast for you and serve it in bed for you.You want to keep the love and romance in your life to stay alive and keep you as 1.You much have trust and honesty to make your marriage work.Believe me i know,Just trust me.Always have laughter in your house.Have a loving and caring relationship.If your ever have something that bothers 1 another,Don't be afraid to tell each other before it becomes a BIG problem.You want to kick it in the A S S before it festures into something bigger.Always love and honor each other.Have a happy and loving life together.
A Friend Clowmy
2006-09-01 21:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I beleive in destiny but I still think you have to fight to save your marriage. Especially if you have children.
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2014-09-25 21:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEEP ALL MONEY SEPERATE.. seperate checking accounts, seperate savings... etc.. that way when and or IF you divorce it saves the hassle. Personally I have been married over 17 years.. but we seldom argue over money which as ANY marriage councelor will tell you is what 90% of young married couples fight over.. the other 10 is sex.. can't help you there.. you either do it or you dont..OHHHH one more bit of advise... NEVER and I mean NEVER go to the bathroom either # 1 or #2 in front of your spouse.. that is just gross.. and if you walk in on them accidently.. GET OUT..
2006-09-01 20:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋