Husband is an alcoholic. I have heart problems and depression. I have not worked in four years. He is stingy and makes good money, but will not put any in an account for me or give me cash. We built a home on land my mother gave us and we probably have about 1/3 equity of what it is worth. He makes payments and says he will not move out and that he will not let me have the house. If this happens, I do not even know where to start without money of my own to speak of, unless I sell households goods, etc. and maybe I will just to hire an attorney. Please pray that whatever happens will be for the best. Thanks. I really do not want to sell the house, we built to be close to my mother as she is aging.
2006-09-01 20:12:49 · 7 answers · asked by pepper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
good luck. i am sure that looking after your mother is the most important thing... so if you make that decision then the powers of the universe will do something to help you out.
you also said that u havent worked in four years... are you intersted in working??? if so your resume probably needs some work. contact me and i would be more than happy to assist with that as i work in the recruitment industry.
will keep my fingers crossed and will pray for the best to come your way.
2006-09-01 20:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by lilmisssquare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any chance you could move in with your mother? You may want to speak to a divorce lawyer to get advice on how to proceed, but this will cost money (they ask for a retainer). What you may want to do is contact a women's shelter and ask for a name of an attorney who may be able to help or at least get some advice for someone in your situation in your area. It's important finding out things in your own area because laws are different depending on where you live.
2006-09-01 20:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably get half of everything since you have been married so long. And if there's no signed agreement that the land will still be just yours then you'll probably have to split it 50- 50. That means you'll be forced to sell the house . The worst thing is he can probably but your half out. And more then likely he plans to. If you can hire are really good lawyer he might can help but since you have been together so long then I would expect the worst.
2006-09-01 21:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is really a sad relationship I would get out as fast as I could you say you don't have money there is attorneys that are out there that do this type of divorce for free I can't remember what you call them but your husband will have to pay you spousal support since he hasn't giving you any type of income of your own my mother got divorced this past February and her husband had to pay her spousal support , I wish you the best no one needs to be married to a jerk like that,, God bless you...
2006-09-01 20:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by «~Mouse«~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The land is really still your's and I'm sure your future lawyer will agree. You could evict your husband from the land. Anyway If the two of you haven't already tried counseling I suggest some. Otherwise it's time for you to move on. Don't let him continue to bring you down. It's time to do for yourself.
2006-09-01 20:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ok, however you cannot trow out your man, you are worring because you do not have money, probably he is worrying were to live. also when you married him you promise to be with him in good and in bad, so as a wife you must help him if he has a problem. the problem must be fixed not run away from it
2006-09-01 20:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May God help your husband stop drinking, have patience dear and pray for God's help ! Dear God, please, help this family,give them your love to start their life with you, with a new help!
2006-09-01 20:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋