Ok, I just read an article my friend sent me (http://abcnews.go.com/US/LegalCenter/story?id=2381841&page=1)http://abcnews.go.com/US/LegalCenter/story?id=2381841&page=1) about what a parent did when they found out their kid had been molested. It's full of other parent's comments and reactions to the same thing. My mom didn't handle things like that at all. My lil sister was molested at a very young age, and my mom had the guy put away. But when she was 13, she was molested again by my mom's ole man. My mom dragged all of us girls out of bed and made us witness her accusing my sister of trying to steal her man and calling her bad names and beating her and worse. My mom then made us all move out of state so her man wouldn't get charged. She chose a man over her own kid? Why would she humiliate the girl further like that in front of her own sisters? This happened awhile ago, but I still get angry at my mom for handling things that way. Should I just get over it, and if so, how do I do it
2006-09-01 20:08:14 · 3 answers · asked by Timberwolf 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talking to my mom - guess how that works out? I told her once that I was having a problem with something she told me when I was 6. (She had told me that when I was a baby, she tried to starve herself so I would die, but instead I took nourishment from her and she started feeling bad so she gave up and let me be born) I was 23 when my older sister convinced me to tell mom I was having this problem. I did. Mom said that she only told me that because I had been being difficult to handle and she had hoped I would realize how much she went through to have me and that she was hopeing I would realize how lucky I was to even be here and be good for her. I was SIX! And when I told mom how I still felt, she tried to make me feel guilty about the way I was behaving at the time and how much I put her through. Talking, yeah, sure, next suggestion please...
2006-09-01 20:22:52 · update #1
It sounds to me like you need closure. You should tell your Mom your feelings. I think deep down, you wished you had stood up for your sister. After all, she was not old enough to make those kind of decisions about a man. Not to mention, she had already been tramatized by molestation. Your mother should have been understanding, and a protector. Leave the state - sure, but to protect the daughter, not the molester.
Emotional scars like that don't go away with time, they just get harder and more caloused. If your mother is still unrepentant, then maybe you should move on and stand by your sister instead.
2006-09-01 20:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should report it. It doesn't matter that you moved out of state. The man is still responsible for what he did to your sister. And your mothers actions are very abusive. You have every right to be angry. A mother is supposed to protect her children and your mother failed to protect your sister. School is starting up soon, you can speak to your guidance counselor or a teacher about this. Please don't be afraid to speak up. Your sister needs all the love and support you can give her.
2006-09-02 03:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oooh tough one,,,mom was very bad for the things that she did, but you have to sometime let it go and she will have her judgement day if she has not made it right with all of you and with the higher power.
2006-09-02 03:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by dspencer3276 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋