Weather you like it or not, when you have sex, you connect to a spiritual connection w/ that person. And if you just have sex for fun w/ anybody, you will loose its true meaning and you will become a pervert, trying to just satisfy your urges. But I was wondering if that is true, then isn't the system of girlfriend, boyfriend wrong?
2006-09-01 20:02:35 · 12 answers · asked by LLLL O 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes. The system of dating that we "enjoy" now, started at the beginning of the 20th Century. Before then, you had it, but young men and women not only waited until they were married to have sex, but a lot of times they were arranged, and in a note on the divorced rate, the rate was lower, and a lot of these people say they grew to love or learned to love each other. They were not screwing around messing with anything and anybody. I agree with everything you have said, there is a connection when you have sex with somebody, and when we are having sex with Tom, ****, Harry, Peggy, and Sue, we become desensitized in our existance with each other.
2006-09-01 20:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by savvyd 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you're kissing a new fellow every week, what does a kiss really mean anymore?
The system of girlfriend and boyfriend has been going on for too long to stop it altogether! But the way it's been practiced in America for the last few generations could probably use an update.
Even if they aren't engaged sexually (and ESPECIALLY if they are, for the reasons you gave), the emotional toll that the fall in love-break up-fall in love with someone else cycle takes on kids and young adults is pretty high. It distracts from preparation for career, it is an inadequate preparation for marriage because it creates a pattern of ending committed relationships when the going gets tough, it limits the time young lovers can devote to deepening life long (nonphysical) friendships with their other friends.
When we hear "arranged marriages" we Westerners think, HOW AWFUL. But so many of the marriages in the past two generations have been disasters, it may be time to rethink the process by which people get married. Even if marriages weren't arranged, there were match-makers, or input from wiser more experienced trusted adults used to be the expectation for people getting ready to marry.
Trouble is, how many young people have parents who have any IDEA of how to start, build, and maintain a successful marriage?
And with the culture being so disconnected and transient, how many parents really know their child's suitors?
Maybe parents and/or eharmony.com?
2006-09-01 20:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by miraclewhip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is bad, but I do think that if you find someone you really love, and you decide not to have sex until you can fully commit to each other, you will be better off. Sex can some times get in the way of getting to know each other. Your entire relationship goes to a different level when you become entangled sexually, and the friendship doesn't have a chance to develop as it would if sex were not involved. If the relationship continues to grow, and you do commit to each other, just think about how wonderful having sex with the person that you already love and know so well will be. Some times, just talking about and making the decision to wait can be enough to carry a couple through until the time that they can commit to each other.
2006-09-03 17:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, darling, considering that, until the middle ages, it was lawful - in both the church's and the civil authorities' eyes - for a couple who intended to marry but had not yet done so to have sex (they could not be charged with fornication if caught), and that the church didn't blink when called upon to solemnize a couple's marriage at the same time it baptized their first two children (given the difficulty of travel and the occasional scarcity of priests), it seems to me that the attitude of modern Christians toward pre-marital sex and the fetishizing of virginity owes more to the 19th century Victorian perspective than to any church teachings. But that's just my opinion. (((Keith)))
2016-03-27 04:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes LLLL O. For you and for people who feel the way you do, it is wrong to have sex just for fun. Some people are okay with it and able to have sex just for fun. The person you marry will not be that kind of person. I personally think that sexual activity needs to arise from love and that to begin to love and then stop (like in a breakup) damages a person's ability to love. But loving and continuing a commitment builds strong love muscles seven ways! That's right. I'm misquoting an ancient Wonder Bread ad.
But really...for you and for me and for who-knows-how-many other people like us, love needs to go with sex and it needs to last.
How about the boyfriend/girlfriend thing without sex until we're really sure...I mean until YOU are really sure that you are with the right person. I was just thinking of a friend...
2006-09-01 20:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by anyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all girlfiends and boyfriends have sex, some actually wait till married. I agree with you when people start having sex for the the fun of it with who ever is available they become perverted
2006-09-01 20:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ethically it is bad and unacceptable from all the angles.
Because we are not creatures.
We are humans with thinkable brains.
We have to think and act in every walk of life.
GF or BF if it is without sex, nothing goes wrong.
When it involves sex - free sex - what do you call it?
2006-09-02 18:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the intimacy is for the sake of LOve then it is not wrong but it is only for sexual pleasure then it is wrong, the difference between these two should be understood by the person involved by evaluating the state of his or her mind at the time of the act!
2006-09-05 17:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by nadkarni_chaitanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole point to "dating" is to find a lifemate not to jump from one partner to another. You are not suppose to have premarital sex.
2006-09-01 20:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on ur values n culture if u think in that manner its right or else its not!!!!!!!!!1 in India its nt widely accepted!!!!11
2006-09-03 21:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋