I have 2 boys and 1 girl. Ages: 12, 10, and 6.
2006-09-01 19:47:12 · 18 answers · asked by Wednesday 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i put this situation in Gods hands. single mom of 2....
2006-09-02 02:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by justmenothinelse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, I have 2 boys and 1 girl Ages 13, 11 and 8. I found a wonderful man in 2003 and we are still a very loving family.
2006-09-02 02:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, be the kind of person who would be a good wife with a happy home. Some considerations: Why are you single? Widow, divorcee, if so, what is your relationship to your ex? What are the children's relationships with their father? Is there a reasonable and meaningful place in your family for another man? Kids are a bit of a problem, but the real problems are the emotional baggage (and relationships) that you, your ex and your children bring to the relationship. If all you are looking for is a good provider, then the answer is you can't. Husbands are part of a family, not a financial safety net.
2006-09-02 03:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by rehabob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult. Almost all women in your position are the worst type to get into a relationship with. Women with children is one of the most important warning signs a man must avoid in a mate (right behind drug user and felon). More than one father for the children is even worse, as is, never having been married to the father.
To be blunt, these women are scum. They hurt their partners, they hurt their children and they hurt themselves. They are the female equivalent of the man who beats his wife. Either they destroyed their family or they had children with a man who destroyed their family (meaning that is the type of man who is a match for them).
Even if the woman is not like this, the man won't be allowed to act like the father in the family, causing a major disaster down the road.
Anyway, this is the reason men will avoid a committment with you (some men will have various limited and temporary relationships with you but leave when things get serious).
So. How do you get around this well deserved stigma? It ain't easy. You need to do two things. You need to bring the issue up and discuss it out in the open. You must make the man aware that you know most women in your position are losers and reassure him that ain't you. You also need to let him know that you want a husband and that you will allow and encourage him to be that role in all ways. More than that, you need to show him every day and constantly that you are a good woman. Your behavior will be under a microscope and you need to constantly have it in the back of your head to show him constantly what type of woman you are.
Because if you screw up, married or not, he will bail.
2006-09-02 02:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard, there are few men willing to take on that type of responsibility.
For me, focussing on my kids and our family, while taking time to do stuff I enjoyed by myself was the ticket. By focussing on creating my own happiness, I was a happy and satisifed person in my own right when I met my (now) husband.
It's completely possible you won't meet the right man for years, but instead of being bitter or disappointed make sure that you are complete with just you and the kids.
Good luck.
2006-09-02 02:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep looking i had 2 , daughter of 7 and a 1 yr boy and we met in 1999 and we had 1 more child and are still together. Its possible
2006-09-02 21:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by sunflowerchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for it, it will come to you. It takes a strong man to take responsibility for another mans kid or kids. The right one will step up to the plate, the reason I know is because it happen to me with my 3 boys. Be patient, and every good thing will come to you.
2006-09-02 03:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by SKYE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated women with kids and it was very difficult because I got attached to the kids. You need to be very carful in your dating process, because guys will be interested, but there could also be some sickos out there.
Bottom line I would date a woman with kids, but I would go about it very carfully.
2006-09-02 05:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by civicsea25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a man who already has kids, that way he is not put off by it.
As a single man without kids, who wants to have children someday, I would prefer not to date a woman with several. Chances are she doesn't want to have anymore.
2006-09-02 02:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Wyld Stallyns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to concentrate on raising your children right now. It's not fair to bring a man into all that baggage. Try to think of raising your children properly and maybe God may surprise you with a wonderful man.
2006-09-02 03:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can. There are plenty of good men out there, just always keep your children first and foremost in your mind, and make sure whoever you dates understands that as their mom they must come first. If he is a family type person he will understand.
2006-09-02 02:50:38 · answer #11 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋