So I went to the University of Missouri for my first semester freshman year. I hated it. I got really homesick (5 hours away) and depressed, and ended up coming home. I went to a community college for my second semester, and I was a lot more comfortable there for some reason. It seemed more like high school I guess, which I loved. Small classes, people I knew, etc. So this year (my first semester sophomore year) I am going to a private University here in my hometown right down the street. I know I love being in my hometown, but it kind of brings back the memories from my horrible time at Mizzou. . .I just don't want to get back in to that depressed mode. People are from all over, and I have a hard time connecting to new people. I have friends here in town, and I'm totally cool with hanging out with them. How can I feel more comfortable at this University?
2006-09-01 19:39:21 · 7 answers · asked by I heart art 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Let the past go. That was a different situation, not this one.
When you were 5 hours away, all you had around you were new people. This year you'll have a mixture of family and old friends along with some new people. It's a great opportunity to learn how to make those connections with new people, one at a time.
The answer above about you knowing the area is absolutely terrific -- you have local knowledge and can help the new first year students settle in and find their way around. You probably know great places that the returning students haven't found yet. Let that give you confidence and be the starting point of new connections.
("Have you been to _____ yet? Oh, it's the best. I'll show you where it is/Let's go there after class/tomorrow/???" Or have a small party/barbeque at your house (backyard parties are great because they're always informal) with your old friends and a few people you've meet from Uni. That sort of thing.)
Universities can be hard because they are so big. As a sophomore, you'll be getting into more specialised classes, which will be better than huge lectures, and it will be easier to meet people who share your interests. Have you joined any clubs or groups? Again, that will give you a smaller group and there will already be the connection of your shared interest.
Good luck. Don't stress about it, you're in a different situation and you'll be fine.
2006-09-01 20:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting people can be difficult. What kind of activities do you enjoy? Most universities have activities clubs that you can join. If you can't find one that interests you, why not start one? I did that at my school and ended meeting lots of people. What about joining an intramural team, if you like doing sports?
You could start a study group in one of your classes. In my experience, this is a good way to meet others. I do this often. I just say to others in the class that I am going to start a study group, and people that are interested should give me their email address. There are almost always people who are interested. Chances are you'll hit it off with some of those people.
I sympathize. I'm starting a new school this year as well and I'm a little apprehensive, but I have already done the university thing before...I have two degrees. I remember what it was like, being in your position, and it's tough. Just hang in there. It will get better!
Good luck!
2006-09-02 03:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by mbm244 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are probably a lot of other people at your new school who have come from a long ways away, and they might be feeling like you did last year!
You can hang out with your high school friends, but also try to get involved with new people. You know the places in your hometown, maybe you can show someone the sights?
2006-09-02 02:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to start feeling more comfortable with yourself, and not buy into people's expectations of what kind of social life you should be having. A university campus is a very impersonal place, and you have to work very hard to be part of the social scene. I, personally, take it as it comes. Some classes I connect with people easily, other ones I say very little because the energy is too clique-y.
2006-09-02 02:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have choosen to belong to a community of thinkers trying to better them selves. Stay focused on why you are really there, to learn and enjoy the company of other people trying to better themselves. Or are you just moochin off mom and pops to avoid having to work. What is it that you would like to contribute to the world community? What would you like to recieve in return? What tools will you need to be seccesful? Theese questions can help guide you through college.
2006-09-02 02:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think yourself- what you want comfort or career, if you continue your education here for further and you can manage your career then you have the whole life to open for enjoying, isn't it? so try to adjust ,if not possible then think otherwise what you wish.
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2006-09-02 02:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋