well i was at home on my own freetime and my son kept asking me to go outside and play football so i did and we passed the ball back and forth
hes the greatest kid you could ever imagine and we were having a great time playing until he threw it once and jammed my finger. I realized he did not intend to but my finger really hurt
So i quit playing and grounded him in his room for an hour or two and when he came out for dinner he looked as if he was crying so i asked him if he could get the salt and he started crying in front of me. I whopped him upside his head and sent him back to his room without dinner tonight because he was whining but should i not ask him to get the salt next time?
What happened?
2006-09-01 19:38:14 · 23 answers · asked by myg0tlefty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OMFG YOU ARE MY HERO!!!
But I would of beat the kid with a stick first.
2006-09-02 11:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by myg0t Himmler 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OMG! What the heck is wrong with you? You know it was not his fault that you couldnt keep your eye on the ball and in result jammed your finger. Then you grounded him, for your inability to catch a football. Then you whopped him too. Of course the boy was crying, you hurt him more than your damn finger. I have 2 teenage boys and I can tell you this, you need help, or maybe you simply need to get off drugs but whichever, get some psychiatric help quick before you physically hurt someone (assuming you havent already). and to answer your question. You were completely in the wrong in all your actions.
2006-09-02 04:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Scorpio9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like u acted b4 thinking & that u took out your pain on your son. u may have lost your sense of being rational & having control of the situation. u need to put yourself in your son's shoes to fully understand how he feels. apologize & don't make excuses for how u reacted rather explain why the way u reacted can happen sometimes. reassure him that he did nothing wrong & give him the opportunity to express his feelings about the situation w/o interrupting or justifying what u did. make sure u understands how sorry u r & that u will do your best not to let this happen again then give him a hug & kiss & tell him how special he is to u & how much u love him-remind him that we are all human & everyone makes mistakes but what u do when u realize u have made a mistake is what matters most
2006-09-02 03:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you're mom or dad--however-same thing happened to me--throwing the football--jammed my finger. In our case tho--I whined, got over it, we went in the house had dinner, watched TV a bit, I threw an ice pack on my hand, we laughed about how Mom couldn't catch a football. In answer to your question of what happened---you're an absolute total idiot who should not be around children - even your own!!!. According to you he's a great kid--guess until you get a wee boo-boo and can't suck it up and be an adult. So who's whining!!??
2006-09-02 02:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were absolutely wrong.
He threw the ball, you were injured in catching it......it was an accident.
Sounds as if you were angry by the incident, and so was your son. The way in which his anger was shown was in crying. Yours was in striking out and hitting your son. Which is completely inappropriate.
Get some help. Counseling. Talk to someone about your anger issues.
NEVER EVER hit a child.
2006-09-02 02:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Wildcat92 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong for using your power as a parent to punish him for something that was an accident.
If this type of thing is common in your parenting style, you might benefit from some counseling to understand what would work better.
Also, when you have a child, you have no "free time", you are a parent at all times.
2006-09-02 02:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tina K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves you very much he does not know what he did to make you angry and he was probably hopeing you would talk to him . Not ask to get the salt . he did nothing wrong it was a accident and you had to yell and ground him and then when he cryed you hit him . How mean ! That is emotional and physical cruelty
2006-09-02 02:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by brandi.smiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to take a anger management class and you should never hit your child in anger, some times kids need a spanking or time out or stay in your room for big mistakes... you punished him for a accident that was not his fault, you hurt his feelings even though you know he did not mean to do it, whopping someone on the side of his head is not acceptable and i do not know whate state you are in but you are a child abuser, and cps should know your name,ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS FOR YOU IN ORDER AND ALSO YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR CHILD YOU ARE SORRY THAT YOU HIT HIM AND ALSO THAT YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO DO IT AGAIN [in california you would be in jail, and either you would be removed from the home or the child would be taken and put into foster care...i feel sorry for you child, he does not deserve your physical abuse. and shame shame on you, next time you get angry try walking away and think about the wrong you are doing
2006-09-02 02:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you stop playing with your son cause of a little jam finger, what a dad ! i guess that where he get his whining from you sent your kid to bed without eating yeah he sounds like a great kid but what a father you are ........ bad role model bad father just a bad guy with a good kid thats to bad
2006-09-02 04:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by ineedya_00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was an accident, he didn't mean to throw the football and jam your finger. Sorry but I think you were in the wrong abou this one.
2006-09-02 03:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by |katt| 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you say, he did not intend to hurt you. You can't blame him just because you, yourself, didn't catch the ball nicely.
He deserve an apology.
2006-09-02 02:44:58 · answer #11 · answered by evelyn_01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋