What I mean is that if you live together before marriage than the marriage has a lesser chance of surviving?
2006-09-01 19:20:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you live with the person before you're married then why should you even get married? What's the point? You've turned what is sacred into a take-take situation and "what's in it for me" feeling. There's no trust, no commitment, no loyalty, no morals.
Like my dad always used to say, "Why buy the whole cow if you get the milk for free?"
2006-09-01 19:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes and No. I believe that it's good to live together before you get married...but not too long before you get married. As in: Don't live together unless you're engaged, or at least very very serious. It's not shack-ing up that bothers me, just the break-up move-out scenario. I've went through it twice, and it was just plain awful! Don't live together too long before you get married. No more than a year! You really should walk down the aisle while you still have some butterflies left for each other. It makes the whole occasion much more special.
2006-09-02 02:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the opposite is true, you get to really know eachother first. You can see if you wanna tie the knot or move out and carry on. I reccomend a live in situation for any serious couple before marriage. The first year of living with anyone, even your dream lover/mate, is really tough, it's when all the adjustments have to be made and you can see if you can get through those first hard times.
2006-09-02 02:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know if this has any relevince to what you are asking but here goes. I lived with my exhusband for 2 years before we finally got married and as soon as we did the 1st year was hell and then went down hill from there. We didnt fight or have any problems until we got married it was after that things went sour. We were together for 6 years. I dont think that living together hurts the marriage i think that marriage hurts the living together or the relationship.
2006-09-02 02:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I'm getting what your saying, and I think I am, well who the eff says this?
Those who have never been married?
Stepford wives?
Who?
Even a little time living together is necessary I believe.It would be interesting to find out the divorce rate amoung people that believed this theory.
Suffice it to say I'll bet there are a lot of happy divorce lawyers.
2006-09-02 02:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by jkautt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally bs... Im living with Marie now... Were planning on getting married in the near future.. We have learned so much about each other... The old saying you don't really know someone until you live with them is true... I highly recommend it...
2006-09-02 04:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People are going to beleive what they choose to, regardless of what the facts, or the truth is.
At any rate however, I personally am of the opinion that people SHOULD live together before they decide they want to get married. They should at least get a partial taste of what they are getting into before they make their decision.
As for your actual question. I don't beleive that it makes a difference, but I have not seen any statistics to back up my opinion.
2006-09-02 02:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by d h 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think this has been proven with empirical evidence numerous times.
2006-09-02 02:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, and its not bullshit btw. i pity the fool who isnt married but pretends to b. sad nutcase.
2006-09-02 02:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by gweneth lynn paltfeir 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is not bull .It is a statistical fact.
2006-09-02 02:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋