My father just died like a year ago..and I am not the person I used to be, I am always qiet and thought about dating would help me get over it, but always feeling like ****!
2006-09-01 19:20:51 · 7 answers · asked by beautiful disaster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lets just put he was never really in my life, he abused us, then went to jail, then got sick and died. I do remember talking to him on the phone when he was alive and it was good but painful. Im just so lost!!
2006-09-01 19:35:02 · update #1
My fiance died 1yr and 2 weeks ago time is the only thing that helped me. I still think about him every day. what I did to help myself was to write a letter to him and tell him how much I loved him and miss him. It takes time and you will not ever get over your dad dieing. WHAT EVER YOU DO ~ DO NOT FORCE YOURSELF TO MOVE FORWARD BEFORE YOU ARE READY. It only makes things worse. Also do not feel guilty for any reason. Do not dwell on the what if or could have or should have said or done ____ it will not help.
2006-09-01 19:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by anita_reel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your lost. My grandmother died a few years ago so I know how you feel. When I lost my grandmother I keep busy. I would suggest finding some hobby's to keep your mind off things. Maybe play a puzzle, I like minesweeper =). I think talking about it with a friend or relatives would help a lot too. Or you could write. Try to go out in the sun and play a sport or something. Sunlight helps people feel better. Everyone feels and deals with things differently. You are not alone many have suffered the loss of a family member or loved one. I know it hurts a lot now, but 1 day things will be better again. Just know that things will get better soon and that you are not alone.
2006-09-02 02:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by darlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you. I'm sorry to hear that.
I didn't get great treatment from my dad either. It hurts to wonder why I wasn't good enough for him to be there for me. But I know he had it even worse than I did; so I feel sorry for him too.
Maybe your dad had it too rough and couldn't see things well enough to give you the life you needed.
A year is nowhere near enough time to get over this. Give yourself some more time. You'r online...find an online grieving site. Others are where you are in life too.
My prayers are that your tears are more cleansing than staining.
2006-09-02 04:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by sincere12_26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also lost my dad, about five years ago. You never "get over it" 'cause its something that stays with you for the rest of your life. All you can do is to keep on living your own life and to cherish your family and try not to take the little things for granted, like telling your loved ones that you do love them.
2006-09-02 02:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by enricubus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time nothing else can help I'm sry i lost my grandfather a few years ago and i never knew my dad so he was like my Father to me and it hurt when he died but it got better with time.
2006-09-02 02:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by Tom M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of life as a job we have to do. Some people retire, some get fired. Your father did his role in life and some day it will happen to you to me to everyone living. We're not here on Earth to live forever but we got to make the best of our time here and I'm sure your father did.
2006-09-02 02:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probadly never will. My dad is still living, however I have lost alot of relatives that I was real close to. The best thing to do is not forget the funny stuff, the good stuff,and what he tried to teach you to help you survive.
Especially the funny stuff.
2006-09-02 02:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by David S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋