I had my first drink when I was 15 then I stopped when I was 16ish and didn't drink again till right after I turned 18. I never really drank alot. It just didn't appeal to me. I haven't had a drop of alcohol in almost 6 months now. I still go to parties and I can have just as much fun sober as other people have drunk. Only difference is I remember it in the morning and don't have to deal with hangovers. I have decided that I will only drink when it is legal for me to drink. The only problem is some of my friends don't understand this. And My boyfriend drinks (he is 21) and gets drunk a lot. And it really worries me for lots of differnt reasons (like he might get hurt) I really don't understand the coolness of getting drunk. I suppose I have matured faster then a lot of my friends. I get tired of hanging out with drunks but how do I hang out with my friends on weekends if they drink every weekend? I guess mostly I just want your opinion on the whole thing.
2006-09-01 19:16:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good for you! Speaking as a 30-year (ex) drug abuser I can safely say that drugs & alcohol are among the very best ways to ruin your life.
Don't hang out with drunks. There are a lot of nice sober people who would be more than happy to include you in their circle. Tell your boyfriend that he has a choice, you or booze - and stick with it. If he wants to be drunk then he will have to be drunk without you.
Good luck!
2006-09-01 19:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hanging out with people who drink can be especially hard when you are trying to remain sober--it has come to my attention that when someone tries to sober up, the alcoholics around them become jealous about the fact that you can do it and they cant. The best suggestion is to hang with a different group, or hang with the current group when they are sober and not actively drinking. Birds of a feather flock together, and I'm not saying that you are like them, but the more you are around them, the more like them you may become.
On the other hand, you may be the strong spirited type that can handle being around drinks all the time, and not needing one or even wanting one. At your young age, drinking may be fun, cool and all that, but it can also mess up your entire future.
2006-09-02 02:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Gary 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are smart and have a good handle on what is important in life. Don't alter your stand on something this vital. Your friends are the ones who need education and maturity. As painful as it may be,you may need to seek other friends because you will not be able to change the ones you have and they will eventually drag you down with them. Alcohol is such a powerful,addictive substance and some of your friends are headed toward alcoholism. Hopefully the majority will outgrow this foolish need but you are so far ahead of them you will soon have nothing in common. Your time and energy are better spent associating with people who can offer you friendship that is not dependent on the ability to get smashed every weekend. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-09-02 02:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by jidwg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hear Ya.....I went to college--played on the Baseball team--and very very rarely ever drank anything other than an occasional
wine-cooler with a pizza. Alot of my 'friends' thought this was soo strange....but why do anything you don't wanna! Don't let peer pressure get to you! Your true friends won't be bothered by your not drinking--alot of them will be happy there is a designated driver available!......And as people get older many people start drinking less-because life makes them behave a little more. Be true to yourself--cuz when you come right down to it--what does a person really have but their integrity
2006-09-02 02:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it certainly isnt for everybody, If you dont care for it, then why do it. As you said, you wont be getting a hangover, or ruining your liver, or getting a dui. It is wise. I drank when I was younger, but somehow survived without hurtin anyone, or myself, too much, now I rarely drink, unless I am camping or something where I wont be going anywhere, and then not that much, a fewe beers, maybee. you are wise and mature to not do something you dont like, just because others are doing it.
2006-09-02 02:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it only involves you if he puts himself into immediate jeopardy or he appears to have a problem. You cannot put pressure on others to change just because you have made a decision (albeit good) that is different from theirs. Many people drink socially and safely, it doesn't always end badly.
2006-09-02 02:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right for you. It's great that you're secure in yourself, just don't give in to the "peer pressure". If they're gonna be idiots, let them. If your boyfriend can't understand that, forget him. There are plenty of other friends out there that don't need to drink to have a good time, just go out and find them...
2006-09-02 02:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you want to have peace in your life and get rid of worries about drinking .pl pl pl get rid of your friends who do not understand you and your boy friend too .do not hang around with them make some excuses ,stay at home read some books listen to some good music and if you will not go out with them they will stop inviting you and then after this break make some good nice friends with whom you feel relaxed ,hope you will try to make an effort
2006-09-02 02:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Indra P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They can still be your friends, but just find something else to do on the weekends (hobby maybe). It is cool that you have already gained the knowledge that drinking really is not cool.
2006-09-02 02:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
whatever rocks ur boat, if ur satisfied with ur decision, (i think ur very sensible) then good for u, it'll save u alot of trouble. just don't spoil the drinking for other ppl, most drink to forget and relax, it's not about being cool, it's about forgetting the stress. don't make ppl feel bad for choosing to drink
2006-09-02 02:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋