being abusive, and you felt like you couldn't even express your feelings without the person becoming angry... or felt as though if you did, they might break up with you? (and the person's attitude is, "well, why would you want to stay with me then?!" INSTEAD of a "oh my god, i'm so sorry i made you feel that way!")
2006-09-01 19:09:58 · 10 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a very serious situation, and you need to treat it as such. Studies have shown that emotional/verbal abuse takes an even greater toll on a person psychologically than does physical abuse. Unfortunately, there are no laws to protect you, so you must protect yourself for the sake of your (and your children's?) psychological well being. If you are not married to this person, I say run deep run fast and run now!!!! If you are, and share children, then please email me.
There may be help, if he is willing to seek it. No guarantee that he will. In fact, it is quite unlikely.
2006-09-01 19:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki Tesla 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not really, but I understand and they do have a good point. If their attitude is why would you want to stay with them...they have a really good point...If you are letting them know you are being verbally abused and they dont' change and question why you are still with them, it's time you start questioning yourself.
2006-09-02 02:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have just described EVERY abusive situation.
Why wouldn't you WANT to break up with this person? I'd want a real relationship with real love. What you have stinks, yet you want it?
You need some backbone and self esteem.
2006-09-02 02:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have and it hurts me alot. My ex is very abusive and he calls me names in the chat room where more than 40 - 50 ppl are online and they all know me.
Whenever we argue i hv to talk to him first and he always thinks that i was at fault. Initially i gave in but as time goes by i think i had enuff abuses from him. But i did also abuse him when he is nasty with me. Well i think its very unmature to behave like tat.
2006-09-02 02:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by angelinecja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many yrs ago, only I have to believe he did know he was being mean. I was very young and didn't want him to get mad at me but, finally I had enough and left him. Didn't bother me much. I didn't love him really. Thing is he just told someone that he has never gotten over me. How strange is that?
2006-09-02 02:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a man it's hard to say this but I lived with this for twenty years... And as you said when I finally ended it she couldn't understand why. But then again her response was " Well you let me.." Then after a few months of seperation she did finally apologize sincere or not who knows or cares...
2006-09-02 02:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there. You have to let them know when they are abusive. Over and over again. And you have to let that person know that you will not tolerate that kind of behavior. You need to stand up for yourself.
2006-09-02 02:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by d_guy67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. im pretty much in one right now just today me and my bf got into a big fit and he just went on and on about how i dont do anything right and was yelling at me he grabed me once and hit me not real hard but he did has a bad temper and it really hurt what he said to me he didnt even seem to care how he was making me feel
2006-09-02 15:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. stay away from such jerks
2006-09-02 02:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by gweneth lynn paltfeir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
2006-09-02 02:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋