i have this girlfriend since i was in first year college and now we are in third year college, she had already a new boyfriend and they really love each other.The problem is i am still in love with her and i want her to take from her boyfriend, and it cause so much pain to me because we are classmates until now. I try to avoid thinking of her but still she always come into my mind i have nothing to do with this, and i want to forget about what happen to us so that i can move on.
2006-09-01 17:59:23 · 12 answers · asked by the strands in your eyes that co 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You will never forget her, and you shouldn't try. The ones we've loved in our life will always be a part of us. But you have to decide whether you are going to let it be a part of a better life, or a harder one.
I've been through this, I lost my first real love when I was about 21. I felt like everything inside me that could hurt died when she left. But in time I came to realize a few difficult things.
First, if someone doesn't love you, it's not your fault and it's not their fault. It's either there or it isn't. If that love isn't there, you can't just make it happen again. You can only pretend, or lie to yourself, or stay together for the wrong reasons. That may ease the pain, but only for a while, and if you really love somebody, do you want them to live that way?
She's already gone, and you need to let her go. For me, I found that after she left me, I was never really free until I finally said, 'goodbye'.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-01 18:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved her you would be glad that she was happy.
It's not her fault if her feelings for you aren't there. How would you feel if some woman you didn't love was bothering you and your new girlfriend?
Take some time to heal, learn how to treat people, and she might come to feel differently some day, or you might find someone else. Another thing, don't be unwilling to let someone get close just because you're afraid of getting hurt again. That doesn't work. The people you really want to be with are the ones that can hurt you, but if you settle for a relationship that is less than genuine it will always fail. Sorry
2006-09-02 01:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Repub-lick'n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's have a race to see who can get the answer first. I know that you have to focus on other things no matter how trivial it may be at the time. Anything but recalling things best left to fade. It will leave in time even if it feels like eternity. I hope you don't have to be reminded in person too often, I don't think there's much defense with that.
2006-09-02 01:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by time2bwu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't forget, sorry. Eventually the pain will lessen, but you will never forget her. I still remember my first love, Connie Kidder. She had an older boyfriend but she always sat next to me in the classes we shared. She was the love of my life. I'll never forget her. I still remember the last time I saw her.
She went on a family vacation one summer and was killed in a car crash.
2006-09-02 01:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY...but you will never forget her.. the only advise I can give you is to not interfere with her current relationship ( that'll cause drama...nobody likes drama makers ).. have you heard " if you love someone let them go, if they come back then it's meant to be".. something like that.... anyway, be her friend or if you can't then explain to her why you're saying bye bye...on a amicable level... BUT, ur NEVER going to forget her.
2006-09-02 01:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by a_simple_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure our for yourself what purpose is being serve by you not letting go. Once you've figured that out, and deal with, you'll be able to move on.
2006-09-02 01:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow man thats deep u got to get over this u got to find another or work 20 hours a day try not to thnk about it
2006-09-02 01:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on, my husband does not love me after 31 years of marriage, and I have to move on. I can't tell you how hard it is. Hang in there and God bless you!
2006-09-02 01:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well make a plan to show her that her BF is unfaithful. Think on this abt 1 day.You will find a good plan.
Good Luck!!!
2006-09-02 01:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by Gayan J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well u could geta new girlfriend.A girl who stays with u forever
2006-09-02 01:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by catelyn moore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋