does that mean people with divorced parents are unlovable and need to be shunned and not allowed to have families of their own?
2006-09-01 17:55:34 · 7 answers · asked by whatwhatwhat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it doesn't feel funny to me.
2006-09-01 18:03:30 · update #1
I don't agree with it, but here's why:
The assumption is that a person who was raised in a happy home with two parents had a guide while growing up. They saw first hand what makes a marriage work. They absorbed the knowledge and experiences to apply for their own lives. They will mimic the same behavior patterns as their happily married parents.
If a person grew up in a so-called "broken home" (what bull) then they have no idea how to make a marriage work. They saw bad behavior from one or both parents, so they will exhibit the same. Whatever caused the breakup will occur in their relationships too. They don't know how to act, what to do, the morals involved to make a good marriage.
Let me tell you, I grew up in a house that could have been on a 50's sitcom. My husband's mom is on her third marriage. Her first, my husband's father, left her for another woman. They proceeded to have a child that was born 6 months after he left my MIL. Her second was a rebound marriage. He was an abusive @$$, not only did he hit her, he hit my husband (he was 3-5 at the time). Her third is a prize beyond words, but he didn't come into the picture until hubby was 17. By that assumption in your question, he should be an unfaithful abusive man. He's not. I could not ask for a better husband if I made him myself out of my dreams. It's a complete crock of bull. There is no basis for truth here.
2006-09-01 18:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean that they shouldn't be allowed to have families of their own. I do however think that the way a child/children are brought up has a huge influence on their outlook in life. This does not mean in any way that when they're adults, they're incapable of making the right decisions based on their situations. Frankly I find it disturbing when people use their past as an excuse for their inability to make the right choices in life. It's just a cop out. They're adults, therefore able to tell right from wrong and to answer your question I think it's stereotyping if we say people of divorced parents can't have successful marriages and having families of their own. I believe anyone can be wise enough not to repeat the same mistakes their parents made if they chose not to.
2006-09-02 01:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has something to do with the nature/nurture theory. The family situation of a person including the values of that family has a huge influence on the child. Some people assume that being part of a broken family, you may have imbibed the values of your parents (which would say something about how they view the institution of marriage) and you would do the same thing in your own marriage. It's not enough to make a conclusion about someone's readiness for marriage but it is one factor that should be considered.
2006-09-02 01:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Trillian 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean that, but statistics show that people whose parents are still together are more likely to get married. However, there are people who didn't grow up with both parents in the home and want nothing more than for their lives to be different.
2006-09-02 00:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it just means the person who told you to look at their parents doesnt know what theyre talking about.
2006-09-02 00:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by YoungNsweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL - not at all - but that is a funny conclusion.
2006-09-02 01:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RIGHT ON ITS JUST ANOTHER WAY TO DISCRIMINATE AGAINST PEOPLE...
2006-09-02 00:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by rawdawgsgo_hard2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋