the thing is, is that my husband has been going out ever day with "friends" and he stays out pretty late sometimes he has came home till 3 in the morning and he usually doesnt go out cause he didnt like leaving me home alone with the kid and now we dont spend any time together he says that we will and it doesnt happen so any ideas?
2006-09-01 17:29:56 · 14 answers · asked by gigglezdelight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we moved and i dont know anyone nor do i have friends to go out with
2006-09-01 17:36:14 · update #1
Thats pretty lame he does this to you...If it was my husband i would have his crapola packed and on the door step when he got home....
2006-09-01 17:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something like this a while back. I thought for a while that our marriage was over. Thank God we went to marriage counseling because it worked. They reminded us both that we were not single anymore and that once in a long while it is OK to go out with friends but that why was he going out alone. They asked me why I would not go with him and I said he would not invite me. Their response was " you do not need an invitation you are his wife and you have the right to go out with him where ever he goes, unless he is doing something he is not suppose to be doing". try it. When you see him going out the door be ready and just tag along. let him know you miss him and that you want to spend some time together and go have fun together. I believe married couples should only or try and only get involved with other married people. because some single people do not understand that we have commitments and responsibilities with each other. Good luck!!!
2006-09-01 17:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by estrella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he just recently started doing this, give it a little time and let him have his fun so he doesn't feel so crowded...I also suggest you gather up your female friends who you've probably neglected and tell him it's his turn to watch the kids and you go out and have fun. See how he likes that...If his going out becomes a habit and he is doing it waaay too much, then sit down and talk to him and tell him there need to be some changes made.
Of course if you think he is cheating, then you need to start looking for signs right now.
2006-09-01 17:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you say he just started doing this next time he goes out on the weekend ask him if you can go along or if you know he going out during the week ask him where he will be and then get a babysitter and so surprise him and be like i was just wanting to get to know some of the people that you ahve been haning with to see if any of them are married and if their wife's and i have anything in common it would be great to have friends we both get along with that way you get to spend some time with him but it is also letting him know that you care about him and are watching him as well good luck and happy friends making congrats on your new home as well
2006-09-01 17:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schedule a night next week and tell him you have something to do and not to make any plans. When he gets home, have a nice dinner waiting on him, and if you can, have your child with a sitter. If he isn't interested in staying home with you when he realizes that you didn't have anything planned and you don't need a sitter and he already has no plans, I would say, "Take your things when you leave because you aren't coming back."
2006-09-01 17:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea! ask him is your friends more important then this marriage, for you to be coming home 3:00am in the morning and every night, sounds like more then friendship to me. You need to ask or tell him this needs to stop every night and one of those nights need to be with you.(Find a babysitter for the kids)
2006-09-01 17:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is that doyou suspect any fadelity akak adultry that he may be doing yet keeping from you thus when you ask him he tells you things that you may want to hear ? And if so you have to confront him about it via counceling or the Lie detector test . cuz if you confront him about it alone he may convence you to where you may never really know if its the truth even if it sounds like it is .
Thus after that even if he does not admit to it and is not honest and truth full about it then you may as well leave him .
2006-09-01 17:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Peace Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your eyes open and stay on your toes!!
100 $$$ says his "friend" is a female!! Going out once in a while is understandable, but it sounds like you have some competition!!!
2006-09-01 17:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by LuvyDuvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be pretty pissed off, he's being an asshole.you need to tell him he cant go out all the time like that and you want to know where he's going and why he has to stay out THAT late. good luck :)
2006-09-01 17:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi if i were u i would kinda be suspicious i mean if he goes out everyday wid so called friends then y is he staying out soo late if i were u i would make sure ur satisfyin his needs and maybe tell him you want to go out too and maybe give him a taste of his own medicine go out with some friends and stay out late and show him how it feels make him watch ur child or u cud just show him u love him so he wont need to go out wid his so called friends i hopee i helped good luckk
2006-09-01 17:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by xsoolovelyx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couples therapy? i was in the same situation and had to leave. staying out until 3am with a wife and baby all the time is not a good thing. good luck
2006-09-01 17:34:11 · answer #11 · answered by agoygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋