8 years and the past year very verbally and emotionally abusive. Knowing that it's not me he's lashing out at but himself.
2006-09-01 17:29:33 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nobody should have to deal with ANY type of abuse.
And you already know that you can not change somebody who does not want to be changed.
You can not help anybody who does not want to be helped.
But what I am going to tell you is short, simple and to the point.
From experience and a lot of it.........that controlling, and the verbal and emotional abuse is fixing to turn into PHYSICAL abuse. It may not happen tomorrow, the next day or even next month but believe me when I say..........IT IS COMING.
Please do not become the next statistic of abuse. Do not become the next wife killed by an abusive husband.
The verbal and the emotional abuse are bad enough but when you include the controlling factor........You are with a bomb that is fixing to explode when you least expect it.
Ya ll may be having a romantic dinner, he may have just come in with roses and said I'm sorry about something and then the next minute...........an explosion.
2006-09-08 15:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
8 years
2006-09-09 10:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal and emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse!Get out while you can.This will probably turn physical if it hasn't already.He needs the kind of help you can't give him and would probably go off on you if you suggested it.No one in this wonderful free country we live in should live in this kind of environment.8 years is WAY too long,for me 8 minutes would be too long.You didn't say if you had any children...if not great,get away from him...if there are children,you will help perpetuate a vicious cycle of abuse that is hard to break if you don't get away quickly! would you want your son to treat a woman that way?Or your daughter to think that behavior such as that is an acceptable way to live and watch her live thru what your living thru? If not..you have your answer.Run..don't walk to the nearest door!If you love him and think getting help will change him(most don't change) then try it if you want to save your marriage,if not..you've been there 7yrs,11 months and 30 days too long! I wish you the best!
2006-09-09 10:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by desguisedangel06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too long. I stayed in a similar relationship for 5 years before I couldn't put up with it anymore, and now I wonder why I waited that long?
If he truly is controlling and manipulative, it's only a matter of time before the abuse becomes physical. Have you tried therapy?
I hope you don't have kids around to witness his abuse!
My advice: get out now, while you still can.
2006-09-07 13:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then let him lash out at himself ALONE! One year of verbal and emotional abuse is MORE than enough. Time to pack up and move on and have some peace in your life.
2006-09-01 18:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need a answer to this. I have been thru hell with my first husband. I had to go thru some help thru the Dr's. for all the verbally and physically abuse. you are not responsible for ANY ones behavior. This is not what love is suppose to be, believe me, I am the most happiest woman around, that I have got away from him. I would have not met this wonderful person Aim married to now, and he has showed me what it love is supposed to be. Think about it!!
2006-09-01 17:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonfire442 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1, 2, 3 or any years is long enough, you should not have to go through this abuse. get out of it as soon as you before he starts putting his hands on (hitting) and if he does do not hesitate calling the police. If still feel weak, that I mean don't want to leave or scare, see psychologist first, get your self esteem back and go and don't look back. May God bless you on this long journey you will go through.
2006-09-01 17:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried to address this with him and he is not changing, then get the hell out. Take the kids with you if you have them, judges frown on mothers who left their kids behind. So dump the guy before the emotional/verbal abuse turns physical. Take it from someone that went thru it.
2006-09-08 06:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is easy in life. Divorce with children or without would be rough. I think you know living with a man like that is rougher. Skip the counseling crap...his issues wont be solved until hes gone from the earth. Best of luck moving on...God bless.
2006-09-01 17:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could try a seperation to sort out your feelings first usually it's not safe to stay with someone that is very controling and maniuplative as it is one step away fom physical abuse and is a form of psycholigical and emotional abuse, as it doesn't seem right for any marriage to be that way and even if dating and your girl friend or boyfriend gets that way you should break up the relationship, as it 's not love if they aren't treating you right. and it's not a marriage if he is dicating everything with no room for compromise. I'm concerned for your safety and mental health there. My daughter was in such a relationship I told to her to leave him before she got her she didn't listen right away and started to get hurt by him. leave before it's too late
2006-09-09 01:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mary S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋