I was just curious if my situation happened to anyone else out there. 21m ago I went into labor with my precious daughter. I planned on having an epidural, but when the time came, the anastehsiologist was "busy taking care of an emergency" and I didn't get to have one and it really sucked for me. I was really pissed and changed hospitals the next day. Thinking back on it now still makes me mad. But at least I have my lovely little girl.
2006-09-01 17:25:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You don't have to judge me just because you chose to go natural and I didn't. If you don't like the question, don't answer it.
2006-09-01 17:28:56 · update #1
Read ryan's mom comments. For the people who are putting me down, you don't know my situation. I had an incredibly painful, traumatizing experience that left me with nightmares for months after. Had the hospital done it's job, I wouldn't have been in that situation. So come off your high horse and skip the question next time if it offends you so bad.
2006-09-01 17:44:04 · update #2
I get so sick of people thinking that just because they had a natural birth that everyone should. To the people that condem women for having an epidural...Are you perfect? Have you ALWAYS done every single thing that is in the best interest of your child? Paid for the best schools, ect? I think not! Unless you can walk on water you have no right to judge anyone else! I chose to have an epidural when my water broke at 21 weeks because I knew that my baby was going to die and I could still feel her kicking and I couldn't handle that. Am I a bad person because of it...NO, you people that will condem a woman because she chooses to have some kind of pain management are bad people, because you do not treat others the way you would want to be treated so get off your own pedistal that you have put yourselves up on!
2006-09-01 17:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I have seen that happen before...especially in the late evening or midnights if the anesthesiologist does not stay in the hospital. I'm sure that sucked for you. Especially if you had high hopes for one even before you went into labor. Emergencies happen.
Epidurals are useful tools. They have good points and bad points. I have seen some women that never would have delivered vaginally if it was not for an epidural. I have also seen people who really did not need them end up with Cesarean Sections because the baby's heart rate crashed because of the medication.
I have seen people be totally numb and unable to move their legs to some being able to walk with an epidural. I have seen them work only on 1 side....or not at all.
I have seen women who could push great with the epidural in place, other who could not and end up having to have it shut off. I have seen women who ended up with spinal headaches due to "wet taps" (leaking of spinal fluid) and needed blood patches.
Most women have back aches for several days after delivery because of the epidural. I have spoke to some that say their backs have never been right since they had their epidural and wished they never would have gotten one.
People should not be judgemental and talk about "natural" birth. I have seen people were all about preaching doing things "naturally".......right up until the time the labor pains start. Then they want those drugs. And until a man can pass a kidney stone that is 6 to 10 pounds and between 17 and 21 inches in length, I don't want to hear a guy lecturing about doing thinks natural.
Be thankful that everything went well and your daughter is healthy.
2006-09-02 01:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I had to hear all of the judging, too. I couldn't care less, no one is giving out medals at the end of birth for those who didn't have an epidural. Next pregnancy, have your epidural. Medicine is not evil for heaven's sakes.
And nothing is wrong with your character either. It's natural to go through traumatic experiences and rehash them. It's the mind's way of getting over it.
Next time I'd simply inform my doctor of the problem I'd had with the first pregnancy and ask what the chances are of this happening again.
I had an epidural with my first child and it was the most wonderful thing (until the pushing). My second child was born 3 months premature and stayed in the hospital 53 days. I don't tell you this to make you feel bad, I just want to say that you are lucky in regards to your beautiful healthy baby, however she came into the world :)
2006-09-02 00:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by JaneDivided 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's not a character issue to be upset because giving birth didn't go the way you planned it. plenty of women who plan for natural childbirth and wind up having an epidural or a c-section are still upset about it months later and no one accuses them of having a charcter flaw. It's a matter of personal choice and a good birth is one that has a healthy happy baby and mother at the end of it, however that's achieved. I had sort of the opposite situation. I had my Son with no Epidural (nice easy 2 hour labor) but with my daughter, who was born about a month ago, I was having such bad back labor that the nurses kept pushing and pushing for me to have an epidural. I finally did, but I wished afterwards that they had tried to encourage me in my effort to have another drug free birth instead of pushing for the needle. Giving birth is such a huge event in your life, it sucks when it doesn't go the way you planned it, but there's nothing you can do to change it now. My advice is if you plan to have another one, tell the Dr what happened this time and stress that you want an epidural. Pre register with the hospital and let them know the same thing. When you go in to have the baby, tell every hospital employee that you see what you want untill you get it. But for right now, enjoy your daughter.
2006-09-02 00:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by cb 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
WOW...I feel for you. I have had 1 child and there is no way on this earth I could have had her without drugs! It hurts BAD! I went for as long as possible without the drugs, but could not hold out. Not that I was going to do it all natural. I always say, "the drugs were invented for a reason." Just because a woman get the epidural doesn't mean she is less of a woman or mother. The child is not harmed by the medicine and neither is the mother. I hope this bad experience doesn't make you not want more kids. Good Luck. I am on your side. I'm sorry those other ladies felt they were superior to you just because they went natural and you didn't want to. I don't get why any woman would want to feel all that pain! Just my opinion.
When my daughter was born, i felt that the room was too dirty. I had her Friday morning and we left Saturday afternoon. AND I HAD DRUGS! :)
2006-09-02 01:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by PlanetNewOrleans.com 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I eventually chose not to have the epidural... because I was worried about the possibility of a C-section. When I was in labor... I had contemplated having it because I was in so much pain. They offered me Demerol while we waited for the epidural... but I didn't think it was worth taking it. By the time they were ready to give me the epidural... I was 7 cm... so I just said what the heck... I'll go without it. I remember hours later, regretting my decision to skip it because of the excruciating pain... but once my son was born, I was glad that I had skipped it. I'm prego with my second... and will skip the epi for this one as well. I figured I survived it once... I hope to do it again.
I don't condemn anyone for opting for drugs. If it weren't for my fear of C-sections... I would probably take them as well. I hear for some women, it's a great breeze going through labor.
Looking back on your own labor... do you think you could do it drug free again? Probably. Do you want to? That's totally up to you.
My belief is that the drugs do effect the baby somewhat... and I've heard that some women find no relief even with drugs. My girlfriend had an epi with both her kids... but with her second child, she not only felt the pains... she couldn't move her legs for hours.
Fear of what may happen keeps me from using them. It's different for everyone.
2006-09-02 01:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to have one too but I've heard mixed reviews about them.
At this point there's not much you can really do about the past but I can't blame you for being upset because you asked for it and they were too busy to help you so it's not like it was your fault. Instead it made labor a bit of a traumatizing experience for you.
Yeah, people have natural births all the time by choice and more power to them for it but when it wasn't your original choice and it's forced upon you by negligence on the part of the people who are supposed to be taking care of you, I can see where it would be upsetting.
Did the hospital only have one anesthesiologist?
I guess what matters is that you do have your little girl and that's the most important thing.
2006-09-02 00:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want a epidural then you should get one. Dont let anyone put you down over it or try to belittle you. With my daughter I did it natural.. and Im telling you.. that 9lb2oz lil girl wasnt exactally the easiest thing to deliver. With my second child I told the nurses as soon as I was checking in that I wanted a epidural. They made sure to send the anestesiologist over asap before he started any "big projects". It was crappy of your hospital to deny you of something you wanted. I wouldnt go back there. Good luck with the next baby!
2006-09-02 01:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first child was natural but it took me 27 hours to deliver and I was traumitzed I swore that I would never do it again. 4 1/2 yrs later I had my daughter I chose to have an epidural but the doctor didnt insert at the proper time so the anesthesia didnt take . So imagine my horror and pain I spent 34 hour in labor and I was crying and yelling bloody murder. now my last one was 5 yrs later and I voiced my concerns and fear to my doc and I was assured things would b different. but my baby girl was born premature due to complications and they had to do a c-section in which to me it was the worst of all. needless to say after that I chose to have my tubes burnt , tied, and cut. So I understand dont worry about what anyone will say its your body your decision and u cant keep everyone happy
2006-09-02 01:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by sweet 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Same here! I had my 3rd child completely natural and so when I was pregnant with my 4th I decided that I needed a break and told my doctor that I wanted anything and everything of pain management. Needless to say I went into labor at around 1:30am and they used this lame excuse that because I had a glass of water they could not give me anything! I think they just didn't want to wake anybody up. I ended up being to late for anything at all AGAIN and had fourth baby completely natural with my husband delivering her, doctor didn't make it in and nurses were to busy getting anything ready. No was there when she came out other than my husband who did a very nice job delivering her I might add!
2006-09-02 00:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Nikie 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋