ok me and my man have atempted to have sex 3 time the first time we had sex for like 5 seconds and he came then like he got off of me and said i dont think we should do this(i think he was embaressed) then the next day it happend again then 3 weeks later we tryed and it happend again!!! he says its never happened b4 and that normaly he can last for a while... but not with me WHY????
2006-09-01 17:22:20 · 17 answers · asked by kitkatlover4lyfe 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
mybe you are to good to him and he can't handle you you go girl
2006-09-01 17:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by boobeedoome 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he needs practice. You can be assured that he is embarrassed, especially if you got that impression from him (he was probably trying very hard to hide it). Fortunately, there are many ways to solve this problem. In addition to more practice, I suggest you get him to start doing Kegel exercises. Here's a good site about that : http://www.gopilipinas.com/magazine/men-Sexuality/Sexuality1.htm
That exercise will help, but he will still need to practice to get the right timing or it will all be pointless. Read the whole article so you'll know exactly how it's supposed to work.
My guess is that you will have to be very patient with your man. Show him that you're interested in helping him, but don't be too pushy about it or else he'll just think you're disappointed in him. I will also guess that he does not masturbate often, or he masturbates too often, or he masturbates the wrong way (i.e., to ejaculate as quickly as possible), or he is simply very excited by you. Be patient and supportive, and he'll get better at it. Good luck!
2006-09-02 00:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when I get too horny over my wife ( it happens, like when she does something to me that really aroused me sexually ) then I tend me come faster..... or when I was too much into the enjoying the sensation that sex bring, then, I will encounter the premature ejac.
Its perfectly OK. If it only happen when he is with you, he is probably too aroused. so its a good sign. meaning his feeling for you is far more intense than with others.
What you can do is to ensure him that its OK. never tease him on this, u will destroy his confidence and its really hard to regain from that humiliation.
Tell him that you are willing to keep trying together untill thing are ok.
some tips for you and him :
1) get him to calm down.
2) do a bit of foreplay to relax him down, kiss his ears, give him a massage all over, focusing on every place except the penis, playing around with his balls and let him sink into the relaxing mood, naturally.
3) when its time to thrust, and when the feeling of ejac arises, tell him to think of something else, work, chore, or anything except for sex. hold it a little bit and stop thrusting when it really want to come. this will distract attention and hold ejac for a while.
4) you can ask him to stop the thrusting all together and kiss other part of your body instead, and get back to thrusting few minutes later.
5) if all fail, next time, ask him or help him to jerk off first an hour before engaging sex, that will help if he is in his thirties or younger :) or else, there goes you steaming sex fantasy....
6) He can also hold ejac by training the pelvic muscle, the one he uses to hold his pee. that is the same muscle to hold ejac, if he can learn and practice it during sex, it will help.
j All and all, just relax, love making is supposed to be a relaxing experience, no rushing and with lots of encouraging remarks from you as well.
try it, hope it will help.
2006-09-02 01:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by condon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes probably really nervous, or really turned on by you. Or maybe hes just saying that hes lasted longer before because he's embarresed. Just keep trying, he'll get better, try to help him gain confidence, and dont make him feel bad about it. He'll relax eventually.
Dont worry, if he wasnt in to you, he wouldnt be able to finish at all. Youre not doing anything wrong.
2006-09-02 00:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by niransmami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him talk during intercourse. Also i have a herbal remedy which works wonders. Take a half, Boiled egg. Sprinkle a little fresh Nutmeg powder over egg and add garnish it with Honey. Consume that egg before 1 hour of Intercourse. His problem will be solved of premature Ejaculations..
2006-09-02 01:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by micky_says 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has happened to me several times when i young. it flusterates the man as bad as it does the woman, believe me! a woman twenty years older than i was gave me some"lessons" she knew what she was doing and helped me to learn to function more nearly normaly. she was of high moral charector and a very good person. don,t try to judge her or me. i am a better person for my past expierence,i respect her highly, and neither of us ever had a single regret. it,s too bad this man can,t have as good a teacher as i had.also it could be that he enjoyed you a lot more than he ever did another woman, isn,t that one of the things you are looking for anyway? keep trying to comunicate be up front and frank about it,communication may be the solution to this problem.
2006-09-02 01:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by houdini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, he sounds inexperinced in sex, I was the same way(when i first starting having sex) Or maybe your just a very new person to him, you mabe a differnt type of girl he is used to. Or both. Anyways get him to drink or take a energy drink/pill and/or a sex inhancer. they worked for me...And time..once he gets used to you, this problem with go away.;)
2006-09-02 00:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by jerrid d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to answer your question, the time gaps are too much. the longer a guy goes without getting any the easier it is for him to get off quickly. also you might be smaller than most as well. the best way to solve this problem is just after it happens just wait till he can do it again and i promise you it will be much longer
2006-09-02 00:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jason B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a newbie- give him more time and confidence and dont hold too many expectations from him in bed , i am sure he will improve with time
2006-09-02 00:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just not so into you. if he was, he'll not hesitate. depending how old u are... lets say if u guys are young couple in your teen, he might be worried to get you pregnant by accident etc. and then he might be held responsible.
2006-09-02 00:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be
1 he find u so attractive that he couldnt hold
or
2 he imagine someone so attrractive when he make love to u that he couldnt hold
or
3 he is sick. Ask him go to see a doc.
2006-09-02 01:00:03 · answer #11 · answered by lowgate1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋