I think my son might be gay. He's only five but he likes to wear his sister's clothes and has to have nice shoes and he own's like eight pairs. He also refuses to leave the house unless his hair is done just right. Does this mean he might be gay or just a normal young boy?
2006-09-01 16:59:22 · 38 answers · asked by northergirl1983 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh hunny don't judge him he is way too young to tell right now. He sounds just my own son but I think it's just fun my daughter used to like wearing her brothers clothes. There is nothing to worry about, just let him grow up and if he stays acting the same way as he gets olded let him know your ok with every decision he makes.
2006-09-01 17:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I recently watched a movie on life time about a young man who wanted to be a girl. The title of this movie was called a girl like me.. And from what you are saying there is a possibility however, he is still young and things might change...
Don't worry about it, My sister 4 yr old son is the same way.. He likes to wear dresses and he has to have a purse, when he goes out. My sister is totally embarrased about it but I told her to just watch him and maybe he will change... (Good Luck)!!!!
2006-09-01 17:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be immitating his sister. Does he have any little neighborhood boys he can play with or does he show a preference to have girls as playmates? You need other signs that what you've told us. Still, what you have told us could be indication of future orientation -- or perhaps not orientation at all --it may be signs of something else.
You are his mother and have noticed something that you think is unusual. Nothing wrong with that -- you are just doing your job. Continue to monitor his behavior as he grows older, especially when he goes to school.
No matter what, support your son in whatever his orientation eventually is. You sound like a good mother. Hope this helps.
2006-09-01 21:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him and love watching him be a kid discovering the world and himself. If you make him feel his interests or emotions or just being himself are wrong, you are apt to end up with a screwed up son. He'll live with years of self-doubt, low self-esteem, and precious life wasted undoing the head trip. He's too young to know his sexual orientation, but he's not too young to take in how you feel about gays.
Gay is normal for gay people. Your son probably is not, but if you are worried about it, look into PFLAG so that you can work through your own issues "just in case". Besides, his sister or a cousin or one of their friends probably will be.
2006-09-01 20:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that these are indicators that he MAY be gay.
However, that is not the question you should be asking. You need to ask yourself, not us, how you feel about the possibility of having a gay son. You cannot change him but you can make him hide.
People will say, "Oh, it's only a stage. He'll grow out of it." Or 'encouraging' words to that effect.
Let me tell you, from personal experience, that he will not 'grow' out of it. If he is dressing in girl's clothes, worried that much about his shoes and hair then these characteristics will only strengthen with age.
Love your son - no matter what. Accept your son - no matter what. Encourage your son - no matter what. Be proud of your son - no matter what. He will be a better son and you will be a better parent if you do.
2006-09-01 17:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Temple 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um, being 5 years old, he don't know any better. I wouldn't worry about it. Give him another 10 to 5 years and than see, but I doubt you have anything to worry about. I know a few girls who played with He-man dolls...etc at a young age who are straight. That don't make them a lesbian. Being gay is about being emotionally attracted to the same gender. To me, it's not based on sex. I have also heard of some adults out there who enjoy dressing up in the opposite sex clothing, but are still straight. Don't worry...
2006-09-01 23:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too young right now for you to tell... There have been accounts like this with children ending up married (heterosexually). But it also does not mean that he might not be gay... He is just self-caring... And as for the clothes... He's probably just curious.
2006-09-01 17:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is far to soon to tell but it does sound like he is leaning towards
effeminate ... Love him as he is do not give the little guy a complex .. if you are really concerned it might pay you to contact your mental health for somebody dealing with children his age and then have a healthy talk with them.
It also might pay for you to call a counsellor who deals in the GLBT world of youths. Don't assume anything till you have done all the proper research ....
All the Best
2006-09-01 20:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people forget that there is a difference between homosexuality and gender identity. I was a very regular kid who played sports and all that stuff, yet I turned out gay. I think he's just too young to tell now.
2006-09-01 18:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by travieso78702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but don't label him yet. He may be what they call metro sexual. He's not into guys but he likes to look good. He's so young just let him be himself. At this point he knows nothing about sex so you will find out much later in life. Preteen adolescent age.
By the way I knew I liked other girls by the age of 6. No I didn't want to have sex with them at that age because I didn't know about it, but I always had a crush on pretty little girls.
2006-09-01 17:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋