my girlfriend and i have been dating for 6 yrs living together for 2, her sex drive is basically non-existant. i always initiate and she very rarely accepts. She gets upset to be away from me for more than 12 hrs. but she could probably die happy w/out anymore sex. What is going on???????????????
2006-09-01 16:45:14 · 15 answers · asked by bill w 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
we get along great and i love her i just want to know what is going on in her head, adn what can i do?
2006-09-01 16:56:50 · update #1
you need to show that gal you care for her to get some nookie
2006-09-01 16:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by sweet southern charm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering how you 2 get along. If the relationship is good, then I would say she is having a health issue like hormone problems. Or maybe she takes some kind of medication that is lowering her sex drive. Some common medications that can lower a woman's sex drive is birth control pills, anti-depressants, and anti anxiety meds. If she does have a health problem, you need to be very supportive and encourage her to see her dr. Talk to her and explain your point of view. Tell her how you miss the intimacy (don't say sex) and suggest she get some help. Chances are she is missing it the same as you, but she has some kind of mental disfunction. I had the same thing happen and my husband was great, we worked through it. I had medical issues. But, on the other hand, if you are not getting along good and she no interest in you whatsoever, then that would be a bigger problem. If it isn't a medical issue, you may need to look at other problems, as much as that may hurt. Best of luck!!
2006-09-01 16:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by sherry c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find someone else who is more sexually compatible. Having a great sex drive is nothing to be ashamed of and i guarantee that nothing you do or don't do will help. She is who she is and quite honestly, it's probably the 'two of you' that don't have that 'thing'. Maybe she has deep issues and you remind her of her Father - so having sex with you is creepy but she's clingy and needs your attention.
2006-09-01 17:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by bcbound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably jus dones have a high sex drive and if not then you are doing the right things and there is help for that on both ends for people who have a low sex drive. And try talkin to her about it. Women sex drive stems from their emotions.
2006-09-01 16:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have some issues with sex. Was she ever sexually abused or raped? You may want to go see a counsellor together to see if she can work through it. If you have different sex drives, even if you love her a lot it may not work out. Good luck.
2006-09-01 16:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many women don't have sex drives, because they don't want to have a sex drive. they find that just being in a meaningful relationship, and taking care of the important things is enough. that sucks for a male, but it happens. I have a good friend who likes sex, but doesn't want to have sex because she feels that it is a way of showing insecurity.
2006-09-01 16:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Stacey Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love sex, I couldn't stand having sex with my ex-husband. He was a lousy lover. I tried to tell him in a very nice way, he thought he new it all. End result, Divorce. Try something new with her, she might liven up. Good Luck.
2006-09-01 17:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Patty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out the most sensitive part in her Body. Thats your Job. And keep talking while foreplay.
2006-09-01 18:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you doing it correctly? I ask this because you might think you are, but your probably not. I'm not saying this to be smart. Just being honest. Are you pleasing her? I mean for real?? Or is she faking it?
2006-09-01 16:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by marieandlucaspape 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not ask other people. Instead, you should discuss this problem with her. Nobody knows except her. Maybe she doesn't want to or she has health problem.
2006-09-01 18:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Vicki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is going on when women want it we want it when we don't we don't. maybe you should try to get her aroused before sex i mean foreplay not just initiate
2006-09-01 16:49:34 · answer #11 · answered by mrs_womble2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋