me and my man been together for 2years and we are not doing to well the only thing we enjoy with eachother is SEX other than that i wish he would leave and go back to his home state and i can be alone again i am not happy with him most of the time and i try to make things work but its not going to swell i tried to tell him to go home for a while to see if we belong together give it like 3 months and he refuses the idea WHATS WRONG WITH HIM IS MY SEX THE ONLYTHING THATS KEEPING HIM HERE PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND
2006-09-01 16:33:33 · 18 answers · asked by funfunychic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not what is wrong with your man. It is what is wrong with your relationship. Both of you built it on lust and not love and that is a bad thing in the marriage.
He didn't marry you for love because your marriage wasn't based on love.
2006-09-01 16:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who is dragging this out. Let us be clear on that point. The respectable thing to do would be to confront him immediately, and be as honest as possible about how you are feeling. Obviously there has been no communication between the two of you for some time, and I think that you really need to consider what you want to happen with your relationship. Sounds like you want it to end, so end it today, not 2 years from leaving more resentment between both of you than you have now.
What is the worst that can happen? You will either get what you want, or he might surpize you with "I was hoping you would say something", and maybe you can rebuild what you lost. Either way, you are the one who needs to make the move. Be very serious with him, and be very clear, leave no room for misinterpretation. I you want it to end, end it...
Good luck, you really need it....
2006-09-01 16:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by rocketman33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may think like a lot of us that "how can you work things out together when your apart"?
I think men know 1 thing for sure they don't understand us!
Kutos to him for not just leaving, he must be willing to really try and work on things. Why not take issues one by one and see if you can resolve them. If you can't then I would tell him you want to end it period and not say maybe in 3 months, be very decisive and Good luck!
2006-09-01 16:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things aren't going well-----and it sure sounds like there not-----and you want him out of your life, or a separation-------you have to be firm with him and stand your ground. You said, "he refuses the idea." It sounds like your joined together at the hip. Just because he refuses the idea, doesn't mean he owns you. If you really want to split up with him then you have to break it off with him. No wishy-washy, sittin on the fence cra*. Just break it off.
Otherwise, your a glutton for punishment.
2006-09-01 16:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't want him their and are very sure of that fact just tell him to get out not drop hints their is no reason to play games all you are doing is waisting yours and his time. but on the other hand if you are not 100% sure you want him gone sit down and seriously talk get the lines of communication flowing that is the only why things work (not sex). best of luck in whatever you do.
2006-09-01 17:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by frog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that so far it has been 2 years....imagine how things will be after say 5-10 years....If you don't see things changing for the better....I'd say get out now....no sense in wasting either of your time....make him understand your feelings about separation...or just plain kick him out....Always remember do what is best for you and your happiness (now and in the future)...Best of luck
2006-09-01 16:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by DD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting a mixed signal- leave, but the sex is great while you're here.
Move him to the sofa and lock the bedroom door. That might give him a clearer message.
2006-09-01 16:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the longer you wait for things to get better, the more angrier you are going to become. Evaluate from in yourself and find happiness in you. No man or person can ever make you happy, believe me!!!
2006-09-01 16:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by jpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off, totally nomore sex and tell him again its over. Then if that doesn't work get a protection order that'll do it.
2006-09-01 16:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why dont you just leave him tell him you need time but maybe you like the sex just as well and dont want to give it up
2006-09-01 16:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by pudding_pops2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋